Are you going through a divorce in Pennsylvania? Are you spending thousands of dollars on legal fees and getting nowhere? Yeah, me too.
When I got married in 1998 I never expected to get divorced. Then again, I never expected that he would be cruel and abusive either.
If you are a resident of Pennsylvania and you are considering marriage, please do yourself a favor. First of all if you have assets, GET A PRENUP. Don’t be stupid like I was. I don’t care how much you love him, if you have more money or more land or more anything than he does, just go to a lawyer and have the prenup state that he is not to get any of your PRE-MARITAL ASSETS should the marriage end in divorce.
If you’re considering getting married and you are financially secure, make sure you read all of the PA Divorce Code. Do you know that he can leave you for another woman and then sue you for Spousal Support if you’re the higher wage earner? Oh, yes. In Pennsylvania they take the wages of the higher wage earner, they deduct the wages of the lower wage earner and then they times the difference by 40%. So, as an example let’s say you make $100,000.00 a year and he makes $60,000.00 a year. The difference in your annual incomes is $40,000.00. So, 40% of $40,000.00 is $16,000.00 and that is what the court will award him in annual Spousal Support. Why? Because he has become accustomed to living at a certain level and he has the right to remain at that level no matter what he’s done to you.
Here’s another eye opener. Let’s say that you own a home and you decide that the two of you will live in your home after the marriage. Do you know that if either one of you decides to divorce that he is entitled to an equitable portion of the equity in the home from the date of the marriage to the date of the final divorce decree? The house doesn’t have to be in his name. It can be in just your name, but it’s still considered marital property. HOWEVER, if you have a mortgage on that home which is dated PRIOR to the date of the marriage, he is NOT responsible for it nor will it be counted against him at equitable distribution because it is not considered MARITAL.
I know marriage is supposed to be about love and honor and ‘til death do us part’, but no where in the ‘til death do us part’ does it say that he has a right to yell at you or scream at you or hit you. The sad part is that if he does abuse you during the marriage, the PA Divorce Code will continue to do it for him.
Most churches require that you and your fiancé go to counseling prior to your wedding. My suggestion is that you also go to a marriage counselor PRIOR to your marriage to see if you’re really compatible. Love doe not conquer all. And, take a night and read the divorce code. If you have any doubts about marrying, that will help you make the right decision.