Are you worried about a loved one pursuing an Internet relationship? Are you being made to feel foolish for pursuing an Internet relationship? Internet relationships can work and I’ll tell you how and why.
I have been making friends on the internet for almost 10 years now. Like people I’ve met in the “real world” – some of these friendships and/or romantic relationships have worked out – some haven’t. It depends largely on compatibility, honesty and loyalty just as it does in the “REAL WORLD”. I use the term “real world” largely due to the skepticism I (and many others) have had to endure from those who fear change or anything new and different. Let’s face it, meeting people on the internet is still in its infancy and therefore people still fear it when, in actual fact, it is laced with the same dangers as meeting people “out there somewhere”.
Why it’s frowned upon
People fear what they can’t see and, let’s face it, there are bad people out there disguising themselves in order to hurt people and the internet gives them that wonderful cloak of invisibility to do that. There is absolutely no dispute that there are risks involved in pursuing an internet relationship but no less than meeting people by any other means – they’re just different!
If someone is sick or perverted and their aim is to hurt people, they will find a way. The internet is merely one way they can try to achieve their goal. If I had to choose a way to be walked, I’d prefer it to be via the internet where I have some sort of control over my physical safety than to be followed home or observed from a neighbor’s roof top or one of the other myriad of methods stalkers use to hunt their prey!
How to achieve a successful relationship
Like any relationship, it all boils down to “compatibility”. I fear that when we’re young, we are attracted to that which is different in a person… and my philosophy is that that is the very reason so many relationships which are started in youth, fail. As we mature and get to know ourselves, we realize that it is the things that conflict with what we believe to be true and right that cause us to seek more like-minded people and we actually start to grow apart from those we were once attracted to.
This is not to say that it is not good to be mentally challenged. I believe this is completely different. I believe that it is our “core values” that drive whether or not we find a person to be: