Do That to Me One More Time

Many couples wonder what they can do to keep their relationship with that “fresh love” feeling.  You know that feeling you had when you first fell in love and couldn’t get enough of eachother.  Now that you’ve been married or together for more than 7 years, you’re looking for ways to avoid one another.  If you fall into this category, you need to ”refresh” your marriage or relationship.  The two of you need to work together at this; one partner cannot carry the full load.  

You need to make it a point to be intimate with one another.  It is extremely important that a couple set some time aside (weekly or daily if you wish) to just be with one another.  Intimacy is of crucial importance.  It is a time in which you help your partner relax and feel loved.  At that time, your partner should feel like only he / she matters to you in the whole wide world.  This may not be easy at first especially if you are used to always being pleased or if you have always been the dominant one.  You may be used to pleasing all the time and not used to getting pleased. It may be that you are always used to being pleased and never being the “pleaser”.  If so, this must change immediately! 

Each partner must understand that it is of equal importance to be the “pleaser” as it is to be the one being pleased. You should never get pleased and satisfied without making sure that your partner gets just as much action.  Putting your spouse or partner first and caring about their needs before you care about yours is a huge trait that happy couples possess.  If the two of you do this, you’ve got it made already.

So, how do you go about this exteme change?  It’s easy.  All you have to do is put your partner first before everything.  If you have a difficult time doing this, just remember how nice it feels when all the attention is on you.  Now it’s your turn to make your loved one feel special, too.

Start out by initiating a love-making session.  You can choose to make it a romantic journey that ends with the two of you in your bed creating your own magical place.  Here’s an idea:  Leave your partner or spouse a note in a place where it will be seen before he/ she takes off to work in the morning.  In the note you will specify the date, place, and time of your romantic rendezvous.  You may choose to start off in a romantic restaurant in a quiet and secluded corner.  It’s ok to make-out a little, don’t over do it.  Caution: Your waiter may think that you are out having an affair…that’s ok, have fun and just go along with it.  If you want to be extra sexy, try not wearing too much on your date night.  Ladies, if it’s cold you can really pull this one off: wear only a gorgeous bra and matching undies under a warm coat that can double up as a dress.  Watch your husband’s  eyes light up when he realizes why you don’t want to take off your coat.  If this is too risque for you, then you can choose to wear nothing underneath a skirt.  He’ll find out his surprise when you guide his hand to his favorite spot.  He will want to skip dessert, but no no, you can’t rush a good thing.  After dinner, you can continue your fun in the car or cab.  Don’t do too much.  Remember that you’re just getting started.  Feel him out and see where you stand as to what he wants to do next.  Continue your date by going to a dark martini bar and living it up there.  This night belongs to the two of you and nothing else matters.  The real fun will start when you get home.