Do’s and Dont’s – Wooing

that the differences between individuals makes giving specific brand or item descriptions for wooing impossible. I would be a lunatic to say give the girl some Wheaties or take her to a Mongolian Barbecue even if such advice proved to work in one or two cases. That being said there is much to wooing that leaves room for methodical action and uniformity of tactics.

The first thing any man wishing to woo a woman is to either have a flawless memory or stoop to using pen and paper to take notes. Believe it or not, there is enough to learn about any woman that wooing them often requires the same skills as passing any college class.

The second thing that you need is to take them shopping often in the most eclectic places you can come up with for your area. A little extra gas pays dividends. Even if you never buy anything on these trips it does you a lot of service to pay attention to the smells, trends, and appetites of the woman you are wooing. When she isn’t looking take notes and be as specific in your data collection as possible. Add restaurants names and dishes she prefers. You will have plenty of time in private to make connections and thus formulate additional locations and forms of wooing.

On the subject of restaurants, I find that is is helpful if you make the choice into a game where each of you picks an aspect of a perspective place. Insist that she picks first and make your pick complementary to a notch above the kind of cooking she is accustomed to. A word of warning in this is that you probably should come up with locations that people you know won’t necessarily look for you. It does you credit to have friends but realistically you need time alone to talk and investigate her wants and needs and intruders can make that difficult to impossible.

Never schedule a date on a day or night where time is at issue unless you are both professionals and don’t have time to make such considerations. Even then, if neither of you can make time then any serious relationship will probably die for lack of watering like the proverbial neglected plant.

Never get yourself in a situation where you are forcing her, due to your economical circumstances to step down to your level. The movies make it look like it might work but when push comes to shove there aren’t many women who really desire to go without for very long and money is as good a reason to divorce as any. If you have your sights set high enough to complement the life she expects make sure you follow through with any promise of this kind that you make in the early stages. She won’t forget and will likely remind you of it often if you ever try to get comfortable before you have kept your word.