The Initial Questionnaire

There is a long questionnaire that one must go through to become an eHarmony member. The questionnaire can take anywhere from about 2 to 3 hours to do. Some people choose to work on it over a couple of days. I find it best to fill it out in one sitting as quickly as possible. Eharmony is using the questionnaire to gain an understanding of what kind of person you are and who in their pool of opposite sex candidates you would most likely be a good match with. Therefore, giving the questions that they ask you too much thought might not give Eharmony a real honest picture of who you really are. Sometimes instinctual rather than thought through answers are the best for this questionnaire’s true purpose.

What To Do When You Are Sent A Connection

It may take a day or two to receive your first Eharmony connections. Expect to receive about 3 to 5 new connections each day. Looking through each of your new connection’s profiles can seem like a lot of reading to do, and it is. If you understand that Eharmony truly believes (through its profile matching technology) that there is a good probability that you will get along with most of the matches that you are sent, then you need to give each profile a good read and a chance to communicate with you.

You will find that after reading the profile of an Eharmony match, you will either feel one of three possible things:

• ambiguity. Give the connection a chance. You may find that through communication, your feelings become more positive about the person.
• a strong connection like you already really like that person.
• no way. Something turns you off that this person wrote. Close this connection out.

Communicating with a Connection

If you would like to communicate with a connection, just follow what the website tells you to do. When I first joined Eharmony, I was new to using the Internet in general and I found the site very self explanatory and easy to follow. Therefore, I will not go into a step by step of how to communicate. You will find that through Guided Communication, you will get to ask your match 5 multiple choices questions, give a list of things you need and things that would be deal breakers for you in a match, and then you get to ask 3 of any question that you like. You will also have to answer all these levels of communication as well.

Your Reward at the End

Your reward at the end of all this hard work is the ability to freely email and communicate with a connection that Eharmony has chosen for you. The high probability that you will get along with this person better than someone you meet sitting next to you on a bar stool or on the bus is definitely worth the effort. Also, one interesting reward that I found from all this effort was that I learned a lot about myself. The site forced me to think about what my passions really are, what I am looking for out of a long term relationship, and by putting those thoughts into words, I found that I learned more about myself. Lastly, going out to parties and meeting people in person is fun and definitely a big part of single life for many. But if you are shy or not a huge fan of going out a lot, getting to communicate with someone online and on the phone before meeting in person can be a wonderful icebreaker, comfort, and benefit.