Eight Ways to Fortify Your Marriage Against Infidelity

  For this reason I opted to summarize some researches as to what experts advise concerning this issue and coupled it with my own suggestions. The following then are eight pointers on how to strengthen marriage against the temptations of infidelity.

Be honest and establish openness.

Perhaps one of the best antidotes to any form of temptation is battling it in the open. It is very helpful then if the couple maintains honesty between each other in every aspect of their individual lives including personal temptations and attractions. In the first place, the spouse should be the main confidante of the other in the strictest sense of Christian marriage. Through this the couple becomes conscious of their personal weaknesses and the spouse becomes a source of support. In the Chinese Art of War, Sun Tzu says, “Distinguish your ally from your enemy”. Becoming open to one’s spouse, even including one’s own “attractions” to other persons helps in being able to see the “ally” in one’s spouse and not the “enemy”, as it is supposed to be.

Cherish partner’s uniqueness and avoid comparisons.

One rule in parenting is avoiding comparison of children with others. This rule applies too in marriage. Comparing one’s wife with the way one’s secretary looks and prepares coffee, or, one’s husband to an actor would be tantamount to tiptoeing over the tip of a slope. Good if the comparison is in favor of the spouse, but if otherwise, it will never serve any good in marriage. It would be creating tiny cracks in the foundation of marriage which in the long run will just give-in in a single blow. It would be helpful to remember that whoever it is that we see to be so “ideal” appears only that way from afar. If one will only be given a chance to live with him or her, sooner or later, one would start comparing again. In short, no one is really perfect. Who knows in the first place, all these time your spouse had been seeing a “better choice” than you already. It would help so much then, if one would just acknowledge the negative characteristics of your spouse and focus more on his or her positive attribute. Besides, who knows if you really fair better than him or her?

Surround yourself with things that remind you of your loved ones.

I had a friend who every time he goes to a bar or when attending any gathering outside the town, would remove his wedding ring from his finger. He would then start to act like a bachelor and flirt with women like a teenager. No wonder, his marriage is now in a “rock-in-roll” mode. On the contrary, one should carry with him some objects that will constantly remind him of his loved ones. Wedding ring, family picture in you wallet, photo frames of spouse and children in office table, and even simple key chains given by a child as a gift, can be good reminders that there are people who loves you and counts on your fidelity.