Eight Ways to Spice Up Your Love Life and Marriage

After years of marriage sometimes partners feel they’ve lost their passion. When their marriage was fresh and in the newlywed stage, love and romance came naturally. But as the years pass, the children grow and life becomes hectic, occasionally we lose sight of what made us fall in love with our partner.

Is it time to reinvent the romance? Is it past time to revitalize what we once had?

Here are eight actions you can take to make the magic reappear in your marriage.

I’ve had great success with all eight. See what they can do for you.

The Daily Acts

Rediscover Love- go on a date

Set aside at least one night a week for yourselves. Find a sitter and leave the house. If you’re afraid of spending money in these economically tough times then pack a picnic lunch or dinner, go for a long walk or attend a free concert, festival or event in your area.

Take a walk down memory lane

Remember when you were dating? Remember all the activities you’d do on dates?

Take an evening or a rainy Sunday and watch the movie from your first date. Dance to a song from days gone by. Burn a CD with music from you wedding and enjoy each other’s company.

Talk about what made you fall in love with your partner.

It’s the simple things

Leave little notes all over the house. Make it a game- a scavenger hunt. Each note leads to the next until the grand finale note. Leave a candy kiss, a little piece of paper with lipstick prints, and I love you message- or if you’re really daring, yourself seductively dressed.

Don’t wait to be asked to do a chore. Do it before you’re asked, or worse, nagged. It’s the little things that mean so much.

Leave a single flower on your partner’s pillow with a love note.

Be like Stevie Wonder, call in the middle of the day and say I love you.

Send a ‘private email’.

Rub away your worries

Foot and back massages can work wonders at the end of a stress-filled day. Not only do these massages relax you and ease away the tension but they can also lead to very intimate moments and a sex-filled night.

Behind Closed Doors

Batteries required

If you’re feeling adventurous, or just curious, think about bringing a little something (ex. adult movies or toys) erotic into the bedroom. Sometimes a little jumpstart into a sexual frenzy is all you need. Trust me.

Skin Exposure

Sleep naked. There’s just something to be said for skin-to-skin contact. Gentle touches and caresses more times than not, lead to a fulfilling night of lovemaking. Once again, trust me.

Something to talk about

Tell each other your fantasies. You never know where this may lead.

Be descriptive but allow for your partners imagination to fill in the blanks.

A room with a view

Permitting you’re in the house alone, stray away from the bedroom.

Take your passion into the living room. You’ll never vacuum and dust the same way again.

Take your excitement to the kitchen table. Imagine dinners from now on. Your mind will be drawn to the moment of passion.

The shower is the most erotic place to make love. Soapy bodies, slick skin and water pelting on your bodies.