Establishing a Nurturing and Loving Relationship with a Kindred Spirit

Getting over an ex, especially one you had a long history with, is not easy. But it is the only way to reclaiming your personal power and regaining control of your life again.

As someone who lost a lot of dreams, now striving to live a life that I can find some joy and reward in, the best advice to give to someone struggling to move on from a broken relationship, is to take some time to be still and listen to your heart and spirit. Take plenty of time to open your mind to whatever positive lessons there were to learn. Get to know yourself as you are outside the context of a relationship to enable you to form better foundations for the future. It’s also important to heed all the “red flags” ignored from broken relationships, which were of very significant value.

Many of us ignore the warning signs that surface when we first meet someone and during the beginning of a relationship before we’re much attached. We often see what we want to see, second guessing ourselves and ignoring our instincts when a warning light buzzes (red flag) in our head. We need to cultivate a balanced connection between our hearts and heads so that we are more honest and trusting in our self.

There are no right or wrong choices in life, just lessons to be learnt from whichever choices one makes. The harsher the lesson from a certain encounter, the more introspective one needs to be.

As I reflect on my broken relationships, I realize how the spiritual law of attraction played a bigger hand in bringing a particular person in my life. I was given my “ideal” mate, my soul mate, – someone I felt I had such a deep bond with that nothing in this lifetime could ever tear apart. But I have grown to realize that the deeper that “bond” you have with someone, the more important lessons you have to learn about yourself from the challenges and revelations your soul needs to understand. What many of us perceive as a “soul mate” is a romantic misconception of having someone to “lose” ourselves in. Someone we can’t differentiate ourselves from, we get consumed in wanting to please them we lose our identity in the process.

A perfect and ideal relationship is where a couple learns and grow together as “individuals.” They both aspire to their life purpose with a loving and supportive companion on their journey. A loving and nurturing relationship is where a couple feels liberated without being consumed by the burden of carrying someone emotionally.