Ex-lovers Should Remain Friends

We all know that in this ever-changing world that we live in, nothing can be permanent. Relationships are one of things that may or may not last forever. In every relationship there is, be it among peers, colleagues or marital, it requires extra effort and attention to keep it going. Both parties need to take the time in taking care of their relationship or else it will end up as a distant memory.

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There is no such thing as a perfect break-up. It doesn’t matter if he or she decided on it. They may say that it’s best for everyone and that it’s a mutual decision. There are still some people who refuse to stay friends with their ex-boyfriends/ husbands or ex-girlfriends/wives. The most natural thing to do is move on, get a new job in a new town and meet new people. Forget the past and fall into the next relationship and possibly repeat the cycle.

It may take some time and acceptance before former lovers can be friends. This is a more logical step because one way or another you might end up bumping into the same circles again before you know it. This is more likely to happen if you have the same friends, if you’re close to his or her family, and more importantly if you have a child. For the more obvious reasons, if you do have a child then financial and emotional support comes in easier when you’re friends.

We’ve heard the song “it’s a small world after all” and maybe it is. You never know that maybe one day you’d end up marrying one of his or her relatives and family reunions would become awkward if you still have ill-feelings with your ex. This could be the same scenario in the workplace if one day you would eventually find out that he/she was actually your new boss.

In any relationship whether romantic or not, it is always best to remain as friends rather than enemies. Who knows when one day you might need help from a person you once loathe. It is easier said than done because of the emotions involved. People get hurt from betrayal and issues on trust. This is what makes the “being friends again” part more difficult and easily dismissed.

The choice is always yours. You can either ignore the person, hope that your paths would never cross again or you can both move on with separate lives after having forgiven each other.