Exes: Best Left in the Past

So there is definitely someone out there who you consider an ex. Why is it that when most people bump into their exes especially after a long time, they suddenly have this urge to be friends with them?

Women imagine that once a man is in their past, he has no interest in having sex with them. Don’t be fooled. Even if you slept with a man 2 or 5 years ago, he will still feel the need to do it again, especially when he knows you belong to someone else. Some misguided women hang around their ex-boyfriends in the mistaken belief that these guys have suddenly become their brothers. You need to remember your ex-boyfriend is first and foremost a man, so if you can’t control your feelings for him, the best thing to do is to stay away.

If you feel the need to be friends with your ex, then there are certain things you have to look out for;

• Do not make your ex your psychiatrist. Women have a habit of turning to their exes and telling them their problems. It may be about their financial problems, their girlfriends, weight issues or your husbands snoring. What you don’t realise is that your ex knows you very well and knows which buttons to press and that is why women fall back into the open arms and beds of their ex lovers.
• If you must meet your ex, do so in the company of friends or colleagues. You could also decide to invite your present partner but it might lead to ugly scenes.
• You must be careful when having any sort of encounters with your ex. Do not drink alcohol. We all know what alcohol does; after a few glasses of wine or bottles of beer, exes strangely become more attractive than your current love. Before you know it, your past and present will have merged into a very complicated and messy situation.

When you start thinking about getting together with your ex, think about why you dumped him. Chances are, while he presents himself as a changed man chances are he is still the same. Isn’t it strange that they suddenly realise that you are a greatest thing that ever happened to them now that you are dating another man?

Bottom line is, exes are not willing to invest in commitment but will shamelessly come into your life to disorganise your thinking and emotions. If you have a good thing going on with your current love, why ruin it by getting involved with an ex? What value with they add in your life by getting involved with them? The only way to avoid messing up is by confining him to the past exactly where he belongs.