There comes a time when we think we are comfortable with being single. Then there are times when we are not so comfortable. Being single can be awful because you can never do stuff or share things with anyone else. Yet, once you start dating you always have to share everything with your mate (i.e., soul mate, partner, lover, boyfriend/girlfriend, spouse-to-be). I then started pondering if this is all that dating had to offer. I mean, when I asked people about the time they were single all they could say was, “It was awful and I was usually alone”. I couldn’t imagine why people thought that being single was depressing.

However, I can see why people would want a lover, a boyfriend/girlfriend, and maybe even someone to share things with. Although, at the same time, it also occurred to me that when people are in couples, some of them end up breaking up or even having a ménage à trois thinking that no one knows about their business. Ohh, how they are wrong.

I mean, at least being single does have its perks. You can get sitting in a restaurant easily, buying food for one, shopping for one, and so forth. However, in many soap operas, everyone in the show is usually paired or dating people and never single. Why is that? Is it society that views singles as a threat or considered un-American? I mean, even one political party views Americans as a someone with a family where the man is the only one working. What about the single people?

With all these questions in mind I begin to wonder if being single is the new trend. Just like Prada, Dolce and Gabbana, Gucci, Channel have a fashion trend, does this mean that singles are the new trend? However, I began to ponder if maybe a friend of mine, who is always into the “One Love” thing, was right. Perhaps there is somebody for everybody and it is jus a matter of time before we all have a soul mate.

If my friend was right then maybe my soul mate had already left the love wagon without me. I was about fifteen when I realized that I was going to find love. I know that fifteen is such an early age for love but I had been watching too many soap operas. I decided that since love wouldn’t find me in TX then I would have to find it anywhere…online that is. I went to AOL to see if they could help me find love through their chartrooms. I was about to give up all hope until I this private window popped up.

The screen name said Kylegallian and he was a little older. He began to talk to me and we ended up talking until 5 am. And just like that I was hooked on talking to Kyle just like I was hooked on posting my column on myspace now. It went on throughout the summer until I had to go back to school. Then, I knew that I had to end it with Kyle for it would never work out. We were from two different worlds (more like states) and he wanted a one nighter and I wanted true love. You know what I’m talking about, the kind of love that is ridiculous, fun, can’t break up with them kind of love.

Upon leaving Kyle, I kept thinking if he was my ideal soul mate. I know that it is ridiculous but it could happen right? As time went on I forgot about what almost happened with Kyle, which was one of those long-distance relationships. Now, I begin to think that being single is fabulous but that doesn’t mean that once I meet Mr. right that I’m not going to let love pass me by. It does feel that I may be young and inexperienced with relationships but being single has two things that being with someone doesn’t. It is what Carrie Bradshaw once said, “Now that Aidan moved in I’m afraid to practice my SSB…you know, my secret single behavior”. Honestly, who can say that they are in a relationship and they tell their boyfriend/girlfriend their single behavior.

I know that you probably haven’t told your boyfriend/girlfriend because if you did, they would probably think that you are weird. The second thing that singles can do that couples can’t do is be there for their friends. This is actually a proven fact if you think about it. A woman/man who is dating is constantly on the phone or going to places that they don’t want to because their significant other wants them to accompany them.  Whereas, if you were single and one of your friends needed you, you’d be there in a heartbeat. Therefore, I have concluded that although being single is a good thing, if the right guy came along, yours truly would definitely start dating and give it a shot. Not like it would ever happen but I’m just saying. Therefore, enjoy being a Fancy-Free while there is still time.