Fidelity

• At the end of the day, fidelity is not closing your eyes to neighbors muscles or beauty; it is acknowledging them and yet not falling in love with it, forgetting who is beside you always. .
• Fidelity in any relationship is a permanent commitment to “reach out” for the other, a promise to persist in efforts to transcend the barriers and the distance that separate one from the other, a firm resolve to maintain effort in sustaining and developing the relationship no matter what difficulties and trials arise

As Jim and Shirley mentions in the covenant of intimacy:

• Fidelity means a commitment to increasing sensitivity to the other, where the faithful lover strives to become gracious in the techniques of providing the other with the needed feedback in such a way as to enhance rather than weaken fundamental self-esteem as a sexual person and as an intimate partner
• Fidelity in the broader sense means the permanent, public, solemn and irrevocable commitment to dedicate one’s life to bringing out the best in both one’s partner and oneself
• Fidelity means a refusal to give up on a relationship. Fidelity assumes that the basic evaluation of the other, which led to the original commitment, was a correct one (and to) persist in believing that the original valuation was correct and that it would be a mistake to abandon without further effort the struggle to achieve the good things that the original commitment promise

I hope someone would find this useful. The photograph is courtesy of a website – which I forgot……