Five Communication Lapses Among Couples

Communication is a “two-way” process. It is the process of conveying information from a sender to a receiver with the use of a medium in which the communicated information is understood by both sender and receiver. Typically, we use words as a medium in our communication. But even though we speak and understand the same language, there are still instances when misunderstanding occurs and our relationship with one another gets affected.

To avoid misunderstandings and communication lapses, I would like to share this article entitled “5 Talking Mistakes Most Couples Make” by Jennifer Benjamin.

Upon reading this article, I was so happy and thankful because right at the very start of her pointers, I was able to relate. In fact, I was able to examine myself in terms of my communication-relationship with my partner and found them all true.

I believe that upon learning this communication lapses, I would be able to correct myself and be able to gear our relationship into a much more fruitful and a new level of bonding.

Info Gets Left Out

According to psychologist Steve Stephens, PhD, author of Lost in Translation, couples tend to talk in a sort of shorthand manner just because they’re part of a twosome. They tend to leave out key information simply because they’re so used to being together that they think of themselves as one entity or they figure that their boyfriend or girlfriend will understand them enough to get what’s unspoken.

This applies to me, and I say it’s true. There was one time when we’re supposed to meet somewhere and I told him that I would be late. I forgot to mention “how late”, I didn’t gave him the exact figures. I just assumed he’d figure it out that since I mentioned “I’d be late”, no need to tell him how late I’d be. So when I arrived 30-minutes late (I know…), he was really pissed off. To exagerate, I think I saw his face became red and smoke coming out of his ears and nose when he saw me coming — 30-minutes after. Eventually, we got into an argument. Good thing, we patch things out and made a commitment to give out necessary information — nobody gets left behind.

Timing Is Off

“Men can’t mentally multitask,” says Stephens. I am aware of this fact, but what I am not aware is this: “Men are uncomfortable having deep conversations, so your guy will start one when you’re occupied with something else,” explains Stephens. When the timing for a conversation is off, it usually leads to misunderstanding. In order to avoid this, you could simply make a briefing on your partner to see if it’s a good time to converse. You could also pick a time when you’re both involved in a relaxed activity, that way, you can converse without having him feel “deep”.