Five Crucial Tips Every Guy Needs to Know to Get His Dream Girl

Be a gentleman, but don’t patronize us.

I know it’s kind of tough to find that middle ground, but we females appreciate when our gallant knight in shining armor realizes that although they are always there to save the day, we can pick ourselves up some of the time too. There are some simple things to remember to help this. For example, if you are walking into a restaurant and happen to glimpse an attractive girl coming in after you, feel free to hold the door if she’s right behind her, and you’ll probably get a smile and a sincere thanks in return. However, if she’s more than five or six feet behind you, don’t bother. When a guy holds a door for me when I’m far away, it makes me feel obligated to hurry up, therefore exerting more energy trying to go faster than it would’ve taken to open the door myself in the first place. Also, stay away from little pet names like sweetie and honey if you don’t know the girl very well. Though it might be cute after you’ve been dating a while, your terms of endearment might come off as patronization and sexism when just getting to know someone. For a rather well-publicized example of how this can backfire, search for Barack Obama’s “sweetie” comment on Youtube. Just use common sense in situations like these. If your well-intentioned act of chivalry is going to make everything awkward, don’t do it! But if you have the grace and capability to carry it off, by all means do, and you’ll probably sweep her off of her feet.

The words are coming out of her mouth for a reason.

Listen, guys: We know that you are genetically wired to have a predilection for getting an eyeful, and I must admit, that preliminary once-over where your eyes travel up and down appreciatively is flattering, but once you’ve drawn us into a conversation, we want you paying attention to what we’re saying, not what’s on our chest. And we aren’t stupid-we recognize your uh-huhs and yeahs and little one word answers that you give us when you’re too busy ogling. We can spot that a mile away. We want you to get to know our personality; if you just want to look, go to a strip club or pick up a Playboy, but if you’re seriously in the dating scene, be prepared to make a conversational effort.