Five Ideas to Recover From a Bad Breakup
by This article looks at the problems and pain created when a long relationship ends. It also discusses how to heal from this experience.
Image via Wikipedia
Nearly everyone has experienced the pain of a breakup. Whether the relationship has lasted a week or several years, there is always a pain when it ends. As a rule, longer relationships bring more pain than shorter ones.
The reality is that the level of grief experienced depends a lot on how much emotional investment was poured into the relationship before the breakup. Many times, this hurt seems as if it will never go away. There are some things that can be done to help besides wallowing in self pity for your loss.
Resist the urge to overeat or over spend.
Self-indulgence often follows a time of grief brought on by a breakup. Going on any type of a binge is not going to be a good idea in the long run. Too much eating means that you will have to work hard to remove the excess pounds that you will gain. Over spending will produce abundant debt or monetary shortfalls or both. All other type of excessive behavior will just result in some type of problem to resolve once your grief has subsided. It is best to just keep on course and work through the pain in other ways.
Reconnect with friends that may have been ignored during the relationship.
Many times, if a relationship is exciting and infatuation runs high, friends and family can be left in the dust. These are the people who will usually be the most understanding of your pain if you will turn to them. Your ego may be bruised and need a good dose of sympathy and compassion. Friends and family almost always have plenty of this to give when you need it. They will also serve as a great distraction during the time when you do not need to focus on your hurt feelings.
Write a daily journal about how you feel.
Rather than inflict your pain and suffering on everybody else, take the time to write it down. Expressing your feelings can be cathartic. It will also let you vent without having to be embarrassed about saying something to someone that you might regret later. Limit your entry to just a paragraph or a short page. This is not the time to write a tome. As the days go by, you should be able to see in your entries that your pain and anger are becoming less sharp. This is a sign that your emotional healing is beginning to happen.
Do some volunteer work.
Doing nice things for other people will help rebuild your self esteem. It will also cause you to connect with others at a time when you are doubting your ability to make good choices. These people will not usually be potential dating or relationship targets. This removes the pressure of having to be something more than you are to them. You will also be gaining new experiences that will help you have more topics of conversation and new interests to carry into a future relationship.
Hang out with groups of people instead of dating.
If you are coming off of a longer relationship, you should give yourself at least several months before jumping back into dating. This will help you avoid the rebound effect that often results in a new partner that is no better than the one that you just left behind. Being with groups of friends satisfies your need to not be or feel alone without having to date. If need be, join a club, church, or sports group to force yourself to be out with others.
Liked it
