Five Keys to Improve Your Relationship

Have you ever seen a couple that seems to have it all together? to the point you become jealous because they have what you want? Well let’s stop looking at what others have and pay attention to what you don’t have. My friends there are only two major mountains to get over in any marriage and they are; The Mountain of Expectation, and The Mountain of selfishness; When we conquer these two mountains in marriages, you will see a serious decline in divorce and separation.

When selfishness is prevalent in a relationship, it does not have to be limited to a marriage, it could be in sports, at church are on the job, it can be anywhere there are people. Selfishness is just someone who wants to have things their way! that’s all, if you want things your way and can never see the other side of things, you will never see  the forest for the trees. The other thing that will destroy a relationship is; Expectations yes that’s right! expectations are the silent, behind the scene judges. There are two times when we see these traits in a person, when we’re dating is one, when we are dating a person all we know primarily is how they make me feel. The other is after a few years into the marriage we still look at how they make me feel, only this time it is negative, yea that’s right, because now I see and focus on their short comings, their major faults and everything else that doesn’t meet our expectations. Let’s look at the easy one first. Expectations is an easy one to deal with, the answer is not to put more on the next person than they can handle; You should always know the limitations of your spouse, co-worker or just your friend. Because no two people are a like, I can not expect the same thing out of you as I would some one else, unless you’re equal in this area. That would  cause unrealistic expectations, and this is what many people do, they don’t know the person that they are dealing with and they create unrealistic tasks and other things that  won’t get done. Jesus had 12 disciples but He only kept 3 or 4 around him at all times why because He knew what was in them and what to expect.  A selfish person only thinks about what they want and who is going to give it to them, do you know anybody like that? I thought so! well lets look at the 5 keys to relationships;