Five Reasons to Turn Down a Marriage Proposal
by Some thoughts on why you should turn down marriage proposals.
You should definitely say no to the big question if that person has cheated on you or has cheated in a past relationship. Once a cheater usually always a cheater. Sometimes people do change but it’s very unlikely. Do not take the chance.
If that person does not make you laugh on a daily basis. Every relationship must have laughter.
Do not accept proposal if you already argue over finances. It only gets worse after marriage. Two debts become one. Be sure to check and compare credit reports. Credit is a big deal especially when buying your first home together. Once you marry your partner, your debt becomes theirs, and theirs becomes yours so be careful.
Never get married due to a pregnancy. Marriage may not be the answer. Just because you were compatible one night, doesn’t mean that you will be compatible the rest of your lives. So marriage may actually hurt your child. They would rather see you happy than have parents who fight, especially in front of them.
Most importantly, don’t marry a man or woman who is abusive. It is much easier to escape their grasp if you leave before taking the vow. If a person is abusive before marriage, it is only going to get worse. Even if it is verbal abuse, it is most likely to turn to physical abuse. Many times they try to keep you by making you think that everything is all your fault.
Those are just a few of my thoughts. I hope I will be able to help at least one person through this piece. So don’t just say yes to any man or woman when it comes to their hand in marriage. You must be completely in love with that person in order for that marriage to prosper.
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Post CommentErika M
On June 10, 2009 at 7:03 pm
I love it and all I can say I am sorry u were not around when I got narried lol.
lh
On June 11, 2009 at 9:41 am
marriage is an institution some sat pl read my version
of marriage
katependragon
On June 11, 2009 at 3:19 pm
This is good! And TRUE!! I am back w/ my old bf and he NEVER cheated on me. Just needed time to grow up. Great article.
~peace~
Darla Cooke
On June 11, 2009 at 3:22 pm
This are very good reasons not to get married.
georgie h
On June 12, 2009 at 8:26 am
I am a cheater….once upon a time….I am ashamed of it, I will always regret it, I will always regret the hurt I caused my ex-wife. We were in a loveless marriage….she was happy for it to be that way, I was not. I was desp[erately unhappy. I took the decision to end the marriage long before I acted upon it. It was such a huge thing. Did I stay with her because of my vows, and our son. Or did I put my happiness first, knowing that the wriring was on the wall.
And then someone else showed me love and care. And I shouldn’t have done it. I was weak. And I wish I could take away all her hurt caused by my betrayal
So am I a cheater now in my current relationship? No. Would I do it again ‘once a cheater always a cheater’? No. Why? Well I could never inflict that pain on any living soul ever again. I could not live myself.
But not only that I grew. I thought long and hard, about my place in this world, and to go back to your initial tenet – the marriage proposal – I did not get married for the right reasons. Peer marriages all around me, the fear of loneliness…may seem stupid ideas to you. But at times, to some of us these become real pressures, and sometimes the comfort of someone you feel close to, is mistaken for something that can be a lifelong bond, rather than an excerpt in your life.
So I learned not only the impact of what I did, but also what actually I was looking for in a life partner, what mattered to me, and more importantly what I needed to do to be a good partner.
I have a beautiful son from my marriage. I have a second chance at happiness with someone whom I feel I really can commit to for no other reason that I love her, unconditionally.
Your opinion may be true for some, but it is a huge leap to tar us all who have erred with that one judgemental brush stroke. What possible grounds are there for saying change is unlikely.
Integrity can come from learning from your mistakes and wrong choices. To quote your own work:-
“When you are thinking of making a change in your life, sit back and ask yourself if you are making that change for yourself or someone else in your life. Take the stand and put yourself first. You need to love yourself and be happy just being you in order for someone else to be happy and love you for you. You are special no matter who you are.”
Georgie H.
Joie Schmidt
On June 13, 2009 at 4:21 pm
Thank you for sharing this article*
Blessings.
Sincerely,
-Liane Schmidt.
leylucs
On June 14, 2009 at 12:58 am
nice article, thanks for sharing!
Teresa M Sims
On June 19, 2009 at 12:47 pm
This is so true many. It is so easy to say I do but hard and expenise to get an divorce. marriage is not a game and I thank God for such a wonder man in my life. Nice write