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Five Signs That Tell Your Relationship is Over

How do you know when your relationship is over? Can you tell the signs of a bad relationships?

You have tried, cried, begged, and went to therapy as a couple, but still nothing changed. You get irritated easily just by the sight of the person. You secret wished that your other half disappeared somewhere. Sinful thoughts, yes, but when you are miserable, your mind can sum up many furtive ideas.

Here are five signs that your relationship is over.

  1. You just can’t stand the sight of him/her

    The sound of his car pulling up on the driveway makes your heart drop. You feel heavy in your thought, and you secretly hope that he/she doesn’t open the door and comes in.

  2. Abusive in all forms

    When you are told to “be happy where your husband/wife is happy”, then it is abused, or “this is my house, you don’t bring in the money”. That is a form of mental and emotional abuses.

  3. Disrespectful and Distrust

    If you look at the person with disgust, and it is just irritating you when he/she talks. You hear the provoking tone of questions such as “are you sure about that?” or “is that so?” These are doubts, and a sign of distrust.

  4. No willingness to work on the big issues

    You just cannot see the future with your partner in any circumstances. You and your partner seem reluctant to work on the big issues. You can’t find a middle ground. You can’t find any compromises on either part.

  5. You can’t recall any good memories

    You can’t remember any good times, or good things about your partner. Resentments had build up over the years that your mind is flooded with bad memories. You repeat the same bad cycles when you are around each other. You realize that you are not the best person you want to be.

This is five best possible signs that tell the relationship is over. No matter how much you try or willing to go on, you will find yourself exhausted and depressed. Then one day, the moment comes, when nothing else mater, and you will just throw in the towel. You will dare the world to stop you. You care for no one’s advice or opinion.

My moment came when I found myself at the bottom of the well, but that still didn’t stop me. I have no job, I have no savings, I have three kids, and I have no home. Fear was no longer a factor. I was ready to shake off the dust that covered my life. I needed to shed my skin to be reborn again. Now, when someone asks “how do you know when”, I give my five reasons above and said: “you just know!”

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  1. louie jerome

    On December 12, 2007 at 11:15 am


    I agree…you just know, even when you are still at the stage where you don’t want to admit it.

  2. Shelly McRae

    On December 12, 2007 at 11:24 am


    Icy, this article is brutally honest, and allows for acceptance of the ending of a relationship. Well done.

  3. Anne Lyken-Garner

    On December 12, 2007 at 1:33 pm


    Cucky, this is very sad. Especially not being able to remember any good memories. A couple who’re together must have loved each other at one point, it must be an awful thing to realise that one cannot remember this period.

  4. Nick Kenney

    On December 12, 2007 at 2:34 pm


    This is sad, Icy…

  5. francie

    On December 12, 2007 at 2:55 pm


    Too sad, I guess when trying your best is no longer working, sadly it leaves no other answer but to end the relationship. I would like to believe people can leave as friends, especially when there are children, but the reality is we can not predict all that lies ahead.
    *the children if any should become the wonderful memories!

  6. Lucy Lockett

    On December 12, 2007 at 4:27 pm


    Very good article, we always drag things out to the bitter end! I don’t think there is a nice end, it hurts even if we have resigned ourselves to this course of action!

  7. Liane Schmidt

    On December 12, 2007 at 5:46 pm


    Sigh…relationships…nice work.

    Best wishes.

    Sincerely,

    -Liane Schmidt.

  8. SpostareDuro

    On December 12, 2007 at 7:39 pm


    I’m sorry you have had to go through this.
    When it gets to this point, it can slowly destroys you if you try to hold on to the nothing that is left behind.

  9. Darlene McFarlane

    On December 12, 2007 at 9:24 pm


    You just described my first marriage. I learned many important lessons from it and am much stronger for it. I wish you luck, Icy and wish you all the best…you deserve it.

  10. valli

    On December 15, 2007 at 7:55 am


    This is very sad! Sorry to hear that u had to go thru all this… Wish u good luck in future.

  11. Alexa Gates

    On December 17, 2007 at 12:01 pm


    Those signs are definitly true ;) Some of it reminds me of how my Dad treats my Mom.. Even though she tries so hard. Good luck with everything :)

  12. C A Johnson

    On December 18, 2007 at 6:06 pm


    I’m so sorry to hear that you went through something like that. It’s better that you got yourself out of that situation.

  13. IcyCucky

    On December 19, 2007 at 7:54 am


    Thank you everyone for your kind comments!

  14. Judy Sheldon-Walker

    On December 30, 2007 at 5:45 pm


    When it takes everything out of you every day just to deal with the pain, it is definitely time to move on. I hope you are doing well. I told my ex that I could do bad by myself. I sure did not need his help to do that, and you know what? After letting him go it got a lot better. You deserve the best. Do not settle for less.

  15. Pauline

    On January 22, 2008 at 9:14 pm


    I can relate to the five signs. It’s not a matter of if my other half wants to salvage the relationship… I just dun see that we will have a future together.

    I wish you all the best. I know its tough to have no savings and three kids in tow.

  16. Kriebee

    On February 27, 2008 at 8:40 am


    Wow that is exactly what I’ve been feeling and wondering if I should keep trying, thinking that maybe I will change. I am in the same boat of no job, no savings, and two kids.

    I wish you the best.

  17. Darlene McFarlane

    On March 5, 2008 at 7:21 pm


    Been there, done that.

    Great article!

  18. Darlene McFarlane

    On March 5, 2008 at 7:26 pm


    It takes time Icy but you will find someone who deserves you…someone you can be happy with for the rest of your life. I didn’t think I would ever find someone I would want to be with after what I had been through but I found him when I wasn’t looking. It always seems to happen that way.

    Keep the corners up and God bless.

  19. Dee Huff

    On March 6, 2008 at 9:57 am


    It’s very hard when a relationship has reached the point where there is nowhere else to go.

  20. Judy Sheldon

    On March 6, 2008 at 11:17 am


    This article’s honestly has probably saved many from the uncertainties of to go on or not to go on. You are full of strength and courage. I admire your ability to not only move on but to share the gut wrenching thoughts and feelings that went along with your decision.

  21. Rose

    On March 12, 2008 at 8:25 am


    My husband and i have been together for the past ten years, and i used to think that we would grow old together but that is not going to happen. Reading this article has made me to realise that I have been fooling myself for such a long time thinking that things would be better between my husband and I. Thank you for opening my eyes.

  22. NICHOLE

    On April 5, 2008 at 6:49 pm


    I have been with my current boyfriend for two years we have done alot of drugs together and we live 2 hours apart. I barely see him and he always says I love you at the end of every conversation he has forgotten these 3 little words the past 3 times we have talked on the phone he is threating a breakup if I don’t quit getting high he has a month sober and I drink about once a week he is 28 years old and I just turned 21, he has never has held a job he now is working and I have the gut feeling it’s over but I still love him with all my heart. I don’t know what to do, can someone please give me some advice????

  23. IcyCucky

    On April 6, 2008 at 7:35 am


    Thank you all for your comments.

    NICHOLE,

    I think you already knew what to do! Drinking and getting high are bad for you, and quiting them is the first great step you can do for yourself before you can give to other. Good luck NICHOLE!

  24. Josey

    On April 7, 2008 at 7:43 am


    Yes, these are good signs. Good job!

  25. Sheree

    On April 26, 2008 at 6:56 pm


    This is a very good article. I feel like it takes too much out of me daily to think about the pain that he has put me through. This has helped me out a lot because I also have 2 kids no savings and can do bad by myself. And at the end of the day I could honestly say that I did my part. He is almost 32 yrs. old and does not have a steady job. Females has also been an issue. I guess that I just need to realize that it is finally over after 13 yrs. off and on and that he seems as if he is the same teenage boy that I met yrs. ago. Its time for a real man to find me. Its time to be happy Sheree!

  26. john

    On May 27, 2008 at 4:00 am


    6. You regret having them tattooed on you. LOL

  27. Bittergirl

    On June 10, 2008 at 2:26 am


    I myself is going through the pain. but yes, “you just know.” but yes, I still don’t want to admit it.
    what if I still love him? :(

  28. Hollow Man

    On June 23, 2008 at 6:19 pm


    Icy, how about this one: when you know your spouse’s romantic/sexual daydreams are NOT about you, but about the other people he or she had before you and talked about in such glowing terms when you were newly romantically involved. The pain of knowing that you’re not the one on the pedestal does not go away, especially if you ignored it and got married anyway hoping that your spouse would stop harping on your faults and put YOU on that pedestal. Hope is hard to kill, but boy, once dead it STAYS dead. Take it from me, there’s nothing worse than being dead inside. And it doesn’t help that my spouse and I have not had a date in two years and have no romance. I’m hurting and empty, but I also have a lovely child to consider. Seeing your quiz and the responses of other people does, however, somehow make me feel better and more optimistic about the possibility of a brighter future. Thanks for the chance to vent.

  29. IcyCucky

    On June 24, 2008 at 6:35 am


    Hollow Man,

    I admire your courage and commitment to your child. You can vent any time! As for “dead inside”, I had experienced that too, and I completely can relate to that feeling..

    Please take care of yourself, and I wish things will turn around for you..

  30. ks

    On July 12, 2008 at 4:51 am


    I’ve been with my boyfriend for 9 years and i am feeling the same as all of you. I feel dead inside but i always have the thought in my head if i leave, what if i was wrong. Yet ive had my feeling for many years now, and i think reality is staring me in the face and i just won’t accept it! Everyone’s thought are inspiring and i think it is time to take action where action is needed. Thanx

  31. angie

    On August 4, 2008 at 3:30 pm


    icy i been with my boyfriend for almost 9 years today is my b-day
    and im alone like all my other b-days i have a son that is 6 with him and i love my boyfriend so much but i dont feel he`s in love with me anymore we dont really fight but he ignors me alot and my feelings are sex life is not there he always turns me down we hardley ever talk to oneanother.He seems to push me away all the time but when i bring it up to him about do you love me and he says if he did not love me he would not be with me saying it and showing it is 2 diffrent things im trying so hard to be strong but it hurts hes not the type to show or say what he feels
    so i would like to know do you think its over for us o and he seems to be sweet to me only when i gets to leave or go hang out with his guy friends and he sometimes leaves me out i feel he rather be with his friends then with me or could he just keep me around to cook clean and things like that for him so i like to know is it over for us

  32. IcyCucky

    On August 4, 2008 at 9:15 pm


    KS–Thank you for sharing your story! “What if” is the biggest fear we all face. Sound like you know what to do already..Good luck!

    Angie–Sorry to hear that! Have you thought about couple counseling? They might be able to help. Women are stronger than they realize. You will know when the time is right!

  33. Frizz

    On August 14, 2008 at 2:45 pm


    I have been with this woman for 14 year and love her to death. we have 3 kids together. after we lost our home and financial problem she does not love me like when she was young. When I say I love she does not reply to me. Do you think I should leave her alone. I try and begging one point. I work pay all the bill and I’m not cheating on her anything like. Please advised

  34. IcyCucky

    On August 14, 2008 at 8:14 pm


    Dear Frizz,

    I wrote this article based upon my own feelings and situation! I can’t advise you to do anything, because only you know what to do. Try talking to her to keep communication going though. Wish you the best of luck life has to offer…

  35. miszgigi

    On August 20, 2008 at 11:45 pm


    I kno how all you people feel i feel the same way.I been with my boyfriend for 2 years and the 1st year was a struggle but turn out great.We had fun, we showed passion emotion, deep love i thought i be with this man forever.However i made some real stupid and childish mistakes.I was talking to another guy as a friend which turn into flirting and my partner found out.We never took it farther then but almost a yr later, my boyfriend does not trust me.Its becoming an issue for us.I cant take his insecuries i know i made mistakes and im truly sorry for and promise not to ever commit them again but he still accuses me for cheating.We havent had sex in 2 months, doesnt call me baby anymore.I think its time to let go but both of us cant believe its over.

  36. Carrie

    On September 10, 2008 at 12:23 pm


    I have been seeing the same guy for almost two years now. Sometimes he talks about us getting married. Sometimes he seems aloof, stays gone for long periods of time, claims he’s working, and says his boss forgot to pay him for it. I know whats going on but confrontation and letting go aren’t things I’m good at.

  37. amu

    On October 7, 2008 at 10:56 am


    your messages real help

  38. linda

    On October 22, 2008 at 10:02 pm


    so my bf and i are having big problems, im 17 an i am also pregnant with his child. i just found out he does not want a serious relationship, which is fine but what does that mean for us, is it over, i dont no what to do i severly need help

  39. BC Doan

    On October 23, 2008 at 10:05 am


    @ miszgigi–Thanks for sharing your story, and good luck with whatever you choose to do!

    @ Carrie–Good luck to you, and wish you happiness!

    @ amu–thank you for your comment!

    @ linda–I’m sorry that I can’t help. Have you tried to talk to your counselor in school, or your parents for help? They should be able to figure out how to help you or where you can get help. Wishing you all the best!

  40. BC Doan

    On October 27, 2008 at 4:18 pm


    I can feel your pain, and agony, but I’m not a professional to advice you on what to do. You have heard “if there is a will, there is a way”?

    Save up enough money and move closer to your family for help at first. You only have one life to live, so live it well! Good luck to you, and many blessings!

  41. so tired...

    On October 28, 2008 at 5:17 pm


    Thank you for your kind words BC,

    Some days are good, then some days are not so good. Which is when I get so frustrated, then angry (which turns to resentment) because it seems no matter how hard I try to make things better for us, it just keeps getting worse. That’s why I say, I know it’s over.

    Also, I feel like 90% of my depression has been brought on by this whole situation, yet it’s the very thing I think he’s most upset over (my being sick) in general because he doesn’t understand it, won’t try to, so therefore he can’t be supportive, and that’s why I think his other addictions are in place.

    I’m slowly realizing I won’t be able to change who he is or what he does….and I don’t think he will be able (to change himself) either.

    Now I just need the courage to take the next step.

    Thanks for your support.

  42. BC Doan

    On October 29, 2008 at 6:02 am


    So tired—You’ll be fine since you know the reason why you’re depressed. Take the next step, whatever it maybe, and start over! You’re stronger than you think…

  43. Kat

    On November 3, 2008 at 7:02 am


    I read this and started to cry. I know its over but, im in a bad situation. I have 3 childeen,No money,no job,no family here….what do you do when your husband wont let you leave with your child?The only place to go is another state and you can get in trouble if you take your child out of state without his permission?

  44. BC Doan

    On November 3, 2008 at 11:46 am


    Kat–I was in the same situation as yours: 3 kids, no money, no job, and my family was 300 hundred miles away! If you are ready for the next step, call around for a free consultation with a lawyer, and go from there..Good luck to you, and be strong!

  45. tbeauty

    On November 24, 2008 at 10:19 pm


    Too So Tired,

    I know first hand exactly how you feel-you know we as women are always wanting something too hold on to. I want to encourage you to let you know that you can make it and that there is a God that will give you the strength to get up and take your life back. Just allow him to do what he does best, and know that you are loved and that God has a man out there that will bring fulfillment and not heartache to your life.

    I wish you all the best!

  46. Ruby Hawk

    On December 12, 2008 at 9:13 pm


    There are times when you are so in a hole that you don’t know how to get out. I have been in that position. I know how it is to feel trapped and buried. It is so hard to get the right perspective when you can hardly raise your eyes to see past the despair. If I could have made a move I would have saved years of misery.

  47. kim

    On December 14, 2008 at 8:31 pm


    i need your help to tell me if its over he dont spend anytime with me he never tell me hoe pretty i am. we sleep with each other every blue moon,he doesnt hug or kiss me anymore. I dont know what to do cause he say he love and he dont want to be without me and he comes home everynight when he get off work but i dont feel wanted anymore

  48. BC Doan

    On December 15, 2008 at 4:27 am


    Kim–How can I tell you if it’s over for your relationship? I don’t know what it’s like in your shoes, and only YOU can make that decision. Talk it out with your partner and find some answers.

  49. xyz

    On February 12, 2009 at 9:42 pm


    I just want to be loved. Even if it means I’ll be abused. I’d rather have that than be alone.

  50. naqeed

    On February 24, 2009 at 12:26 pm


    i love a girl ..took her on date ,,she is my colleague ..i expressed my feelings with her but she treats me as her friend ,nothing more than that ,,what to do plz suggest? ,,shal i leave her or continue to b her friend

  51. BC Doan

    On February 24, 2009 at 6:16 pm


    @ xyz,

    Abuse is not love! When someone treats you bad, and abuse you, that’s NOT LOVE..

    @naqueed,

    What’s wrong with just being friends? A good friend can go a long way..

  52. joe

    On February 28, 2009 at 6:51 pm


    I and my girl been 2gether 4 yrs and I do love her but now it seems we both jus byin our time b4 we move on, I try and enjoy spendin time wid her but I feel its fake the smile she sees on my face, readin everyones thoughs jus tells me its time 2move on but I don’t wana let her go

  53. BC Doan

    On March 2, 2009 at 5:42 am


    Dear Joe,

    You are the only one that knows what you should do!

  54. j0anne

    On March 4, 2009 at 10:33 pm


    I guess if it’s turning out to be one-sided…then it’s over…

    Nice article!

  55. emma shaw

    On April 3, 2009 at 7:22 pm


    well that was hard to read as im still in denial and have all but one for the signs (i still remember good times)
    I have 4 kids under 7 and like you no money etc, trying to delay moving out but scared sh*tless of doing it all at once.
    Nice to see comments from people who are done and over it, that helps.
    And thanks for writing this, really helped clear my head. em x

  56. lonely wife

    On April 30, 2009 at 9:48 am


    Emma,
    You can do it. If you want to, you can do it. Google women’s support in your community, or a woman’s shelter services, such as access to pro bono legal help or help finding a nice AND affordable apartment.

    You have rights to happiness and support your children. A lawyer can help preserve custody of your children.

    I still remember the good times. But, I also know the hurt all too well. My husband and I only have 1 child, but the thought of my son feeling hurt or confused if my hubby & I separate is enough to extinguish the thought.

    A good friend said, “I hope you stay together, but if you do split, the younger your child is when it happens the better because they ask much harder questions the older and more aware they are.” There is truth. I don’t know if we will split, but I know I can’t imagine living in a marriage like this any longer.

    Also, if you have family close that can help you, that’s great. With 4 kids, it will be VERY difficult, but you can do whatever you put your mind to. Also, a happier mom, means happier kids. You’ll also show them that the relationship was unacceptable, rather than teaching them to be tolerant. They learn from you what’s acceptable behavior. My husband isn’t abusive verbally or physically, but he hasn’t kissed me or touched me in over a year, other than the “peck” at the door to have a good day. It is rather like emotional abuse that no one sees and only I feel. My son even says kiss mama, or kiss papa to us, as if he needs to see us affectionate. I do not want to teach him that such a plutonic marriage is normal, AND i DEFINITELY do not want him to learn his father’s traits of emotional passive aggressiveness.

    Best of luck to you.

  57. Sad Heather

    On May 1, 2009 at 9:45 pm


    I could definately add a few more signs to that list. I am a mother of three very young children. Their father and I have been seperated for two years and have yet to complete a divorce. In the meantime I have managed to meet an overly controlling and overly jealous man that I keep exhausting my entire extistence by being with. He has good reason for not liking my childrens father, but the fact that he is not welcome to our home, even to pick the kids up is going too far!! My boyfriend drops to levels so low that I cant understand how he doesnt see the way he is only embarressing himself by not showing up to birthday parties, or family gatherings, because their biological father is going to be there.

    That is just one of many things. Trust is very shaky. He uses the things I did in my marriage against me. Because he brings home the majority of the money, he wants to manage the bills, and god forbid if I try to talk about the finances. I’ve been abused. I dont recieve any appreciation for the hard work I put in around our home. His explanation is why should he mention about anything I have done because its all things I would have to do even if he was here or not. That just plain hurts me. I know he wants personal attention, but that statement right there, hurts me. I dont deserve that.

    But, then theres my other hurdle. When he has walked out that door, I beg him to stay. Give him every reason why he should. Why am I so weak? Im really not thinking of any particular reason why Im getting so upset and asking him to say. All Im feeling is hurt. Then the thought that he will stay makes the hurt stop. Will somebody please tell me how I can remind myself of all the terrible things that go on between us so I can just LET HIM GO!!

    Bottom line is my feelings cant be like this every single day and be wrong!!!! Somethings got to give! Everyone says to give him the boot. The hardest part? Im worried…..worried as ever. If I kick him out, Im stuck. My job isnt enough money to survive. Ive tapped out every government agency imaginable. Their bio father is behind on his child support, (yea court ordered) since January after being laid off. He is finally working again, but Im not sure when that money will start coming. Its enough for me to make it if my boyfriend was to leave, but thats if and when I start getting the money.

    I just want to be happy. I want my kids to be happy. Im tired of them seeing Mommy sad all the time. My four year old says mommmy I wish Josh would leave. I asked why, and he said, because hes mean! My heart broke. The man has never been mean to those children, but im realizing that when they see him being mean to mommy, thats him being mean to them!!!!!

    Well, I hope for better day for myself and all of you other women out there!

  58. Stu

    On June 18, 2009 at 9:56 am


    I have been with my girlfriend for nearly eight years, and she sometimes says to me that she loves me but is not in love with me, afterwards she apologises. Do I need to end the relation ship, before we move in together. Or is that just the way relationships are??

  59. Stu

    On June 18, 2009 at 10:01 am


    I really am feeling low, I feel that I do need to end it, but really ait got the balls, I don’t want to hurt her feelings, we always said we would be together forever!!!!

    I just don’t know what the he’ll to do!!!

  60. Stu

    On June 18, 2009 at 10:04 am


    Why are relationship so bloody hard??

    Ps I am 26 and we don’t live together yet!!!

  61. BC Doan

    On June 18, 2009 at 8:37 pm


    Sad Heather–I thought I’ve left a comment here before, and don’t know where it went!

    It seemed to me you know the answer to your situation, but you’re not ready to take that step just yet..You’ll know when it is time..

    Stu–relationship needs constant work! When we’re together that long with one person, we seem to forget the good qualities that person has. Find ways to reconnect and remember why you love the person before..

  62. roma lion

    On June 23, 2009 at 1:59 pm


    well i will tell you what to look for , whenyou say something and your partner says , ok ok later . when everything you say , he/she says that is so stupid . when they sleep on the coach . when they dont look you in the eyes when you talk .. when there are certain things in bed he/she wont do with you . when they cant wait to go somewhere without you . when they cry all the time and complaine how unhappy they are .

  63. Jimmy

    On February 11, 2010 at 3:59 am


    I’m 27 I meet my girlfriend at work we been together for 3yrs she had sex wit a male coworker I knew it was coming because the way she would talk about this guy we broke up before she had sex with him should I still love her was she wrong for that please let me know I feel like she begged me to take her back now it’s back to the old her

  64. BC Doan

    On February 11, 2010 at 10:41 am


    Jimmy,

    Only you have the answer to that! You said you still love her, so can you forgive her and trust her? Everyone deserves a second chance, but only you can make that decision. Best of luck to you!

  65. sas2928

    On April 7, 2010 at 2:57 am


    I have been with my boyfriend for over three years now. I have for the last few months not be inlove with him i love him as a friend by not sexually attracted to him. Am i doing the right thing by ending the relationship??? can someone please help

  66. BC Doan

    On April 16, 2010 at 9:09 am


    sas2928,

    It seems to me you’ve already made the decision, and I also think that you’ll find the answer soon.

  67. single lady

    On June 2, 2010 at 4:12 am


    hi ihave enjoyed sharing relation ship experiences with fellow Triond readers. mine isnt working either, hope to get advice from you guys.

  68. Naomi

    On April 30, 2011 at 12:29 pm


    wow, just saw this and each and every story struck a nerve. I am in the same boat as many of you and still feel like there may be a chance. I love him and cater to him and he likes me staying home to be with my son (who is not his) and my son calls him dad. Sometimes I feel like I stay because Im afraid of being alone, and I want my son to have a good roll model in his life. My man is not abusive, great provider but not fun. Hardly ever smiles, constantly negative and I am the exact opposite, I am happy, loving, affectionate and take care of the kids, and our home. But I do get that dreaded feeling when I see his car and hear his voice. And I do have more fun without him. I guess I just answered my question but I do love him beyond words

  69. Cleopatra

    On May 3, 2011 at 5:50 pm


    I feel like this is me right now. I have a broken heart because I finally realized my husband doesnt care about me or our children. We’ve been together for almost 6 yrs now and he started getting offensive when I was expecting my 1st child. He started the name calling and then he would just take every word I’d say as an offense. I cannot communicate with him because there is no time.(according to him) We live under his roof and since he provides everything that comes into our home I have no right to say what will or will not be done at our home(this is what he says). His 27 yr old brother was living with us for three years and just this Sunday he decided to move out. My husband acted towards me as if I would have kicked his brother out. I didnt (although he really annoys me) It seems as if my husband really appreciates his brother more than the children( we have 2 boys by the way a 4 yr old and a 3 yr old) and me. Why do I say this? Like I said my husband has no time to talk to me but would come straight into the house after work and into his brothers room. He cant have a conversation with me but with his brother he can? I dont know if Im over reacting but would like a little advice as well.

  70. BC Doan

    On May 6, 2011 at 10:54 am


    Dear Naomi–Love is a complicate web, isn’t it? I don’t know if I can ever love a person that gives me that dreaded feelings.

    Dear Cleopatra–That’s a tough situation to be in, but at least now his brother is gone and you two can try to mend or re-connect with each other.

    Thank you all for your comments!!!!!!

  71. julia

    On November 29, 2011 at 10:37 am


    Stu all I can say that love is not the only thing needed in a relationship. what else is there to be with someone. what is stopping you is when you say I don’t want to hurt her. I am in a similar boat. I am still head over heels from my bf and I live with him, but his actions (which have been being too comfortable, lazy and selfish tell me that’s it’s over. But then he tels me he loves me and is in love with me. Yet neglects the little things that I would love for him to do. It is really hard. her moving in I don;t think would make the difference. You can’t be the only one though in the relationship trying and making the effort. which is exactly what I am begining to see. Good luck. Even if there is love, there needs to be somthing else to make it work, becuase love is not enough. Trust, respect, honesty, there needs to be something else, but love. good luck I know being in a relationship is so tough and hurts so badly especially when you feel like your doing all the effort and the other person just doesn;’t.

  72. KoreanB

    On December 19, 2011 at 6:02 pm


    well.. I look at her.. and I feel the love, but I feel the pain too. I do not know what to do.

  73. BamBamNaples

    On January 28, 2012 at 1:46 am


    Wow… Such profound yet

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