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Five Signs You Have a Healthy Sex Life

Do you have a happy healthy sex life? Unfortunately many couples often compare their sex life with those of other couples. Don’t do that. Each relationship and situation is different. What works for one couple might not work for you. That being said, there are a few common things you can look for that will help you determine if you have a happy and healthy sex life. Below are five signs that will help you see just how healthy your sex life is or isn’t.

Do you have a happy healthy sex life? Unfortunately many couples often compare their sex life with those of other couples. Don’t do that. Each relationship and situation is different. What works for one couple might not work for you. That being said, there are a few common things you can look for that will help you determine if you have a happy and healthy sex life. Below are 5 signs that will help you see just how healthy your sex life is or isn’t.

Sign #1 – Your Relationship is Healthy

Couples with a healthy relationship communicate with each other on a regular basis. The lines of communication are always open. Healthy couples are able to tell each other when something is wrong. Healthy relationships consist of two equally committed individuals. Healthy couples have realistic expectations of each other and are not over demanding.

Sign #2 – Experimenting in the bedroom

Experimenting in bed is a sign of a happy and healthy sex life. Don’t go overboard here. Experimenting in bed will improve your sex life a great deal, but don’t overdo it. Experimentation can be done in several different ways. It can something as simple as trying a new position or having sex in a different place.

Sign #3 – Sex is Freely Given

When couples have been together for a long time sex tends to become more of a chore rather then something that is done for pleasure. Sex should be something that you enjoy doing with your partner. Not something you feel obligated to do. Having sex because you want to will allow you to achieve maximum pleasure.

Sign #4 – Sex is A Regular Part of The Relationship

It is not uncommon for sex to take a back seat to everything else. When you are dealing with raising a family, working and handling other important tasks it can be very hard to have sex on a regular basis. Don’t let your day to day responsibilities get in the way of you having sex with your partner. Couples who make time for sex have happy healthy sex lives. Be spontaneous! If you only have time for a quickie then by all means do a quickie.

Sign #5 – Sex is more than just Sex

Unfortunately most people don’t realize that sex is about more than just having intercourse. Foreplay is extremely important when it comes to having a happy and healthy sex life. Every day you should do something that your partner might not expect. Leave a little love note or send them an unexpected gift to work. This will keep your partner interested in you. If the romance is still going on way after the intercourse has come to an end then you have a happy and healthy sex life.

If one of the signs mentioned above describe your relationship then chances are you have a happy and healthy sex life.

Don’t take for granted the fact that you have a happy and healthy sex life right now. Things can quickly change. Remember to always keep the lines of communication open. Especially when it comes to sex and the needs of your partner.

To keep your already healthy sex life healthy consider reading 500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets by Michael Webb. This will give you new and exciting ways to keep the fire burning in the bedroom.

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  1. Rachel

    On March 27, 2009 at 7:43 am


    Hi wondering if someone could help me me and my fiance have been together over a year now and when we 1st met we had a really good sex life.

    but it seems to be going down hill over the past couple of months cause the times he want’s it i don’t but when i want it he will be like ok if we have to so we both decided it at different times.

    i don’t no what to do as sex is good for both of us and want to make it better!!!

    help me please xx

  2. babygirl19754

    On April 26, 2009 at 5:34 pm


    Talk to him let him know how you are filling about all of this. Let him know that you are in love with him make him a nice candley light dinner and have on something nice and sexy with some nice muice on that is soft. Give him a nice big hug and kiss and say in his ear that I love you with all of my heart and soul will are my life.

  3. Vighnahara

    On January 4, 2011 at 1:26 pm


    This is bogus. Our relationship does have a lot of those features, but I know for a fact that we don’t have a healthy sex life, because frankly, I’m completely unsatisfied. Having a loving, romantic relationship does not mean all’s well in the bedroom. I’ve read that on average, couples have sex 3-4 times per week. I’m lucky to get in ONCE A MONTH! And when it does happen, it seems like my husband’s doing it more out of obligation than desire. What gives?

  4. downandoutinpa

    On January 8, 2011 at 3:56 am


    My husband spends more private time with his buddy than with me their always off together alone and never tells what they were doing even when I ask him

  5. Newly Divorced

    On January 9, 2011 at 3:06 am


    I’m sorry to hear any of you in committed relationships are not doing well. I recently left a 7 year marriage b/c my wife no longer encouraged sex. This led to no intimacy. I think she blamed me, but when we had sex once a month…how was I supposed to maintain an active erection without being so excited that such wonderful woman finally wanted to have sex with me.
    Looking back, I bought her sexy clothes, but in 7 years she wore them less than 5 times. It makes me question me, but I only ever loved her & thought she was a princess. I’m trying to find a new woman who wants to be loved, have intimacy, & be taken care of. I know she is out there:)

  6. Paul

    On January 9, 2011 at 8:15 pm


    Married 40 + years and we don’t do any the (5) things mentioned above.

  7. Maggie13

    On January 14, 2011 at 6:00 pm


    @ Vighnahara: I am in the same situation with my husband. Everything else is ok in our relationship , but our sex life is very very poor. Like you, I am lucky if we have sex once a month. The longest gap was more than 3 months. And again when we have sex, I feel it is more than obligation for him, than it is for his own pleasure. I do love my husband very much, but I am still young (26) married almost 3 years, and I do not think I can live a life without sex. I also think that is very “ugly” for a female to beg for sex, even if is your own husband. So this is not an option for me. I get a lot of compliments all the time from people, and I have to say that I am not ugly at all. Just can understand why everyone else finds me so attractive, but my own husband don’t? This is very sad situation and I have never thought that I can get into something like this. Good Luck to you Vighnahara, I hope everything works out for us. But do not wait too long. Life is already too short!

  8. NALISHA

    On February 6, 2011 at 10:47 pm


    hey i married about 3 years now the sex is gud but somwtimes i feel that is the only gud thing, which makes me not wantin it….cuz i dont want my relationship to be based on SEX

  9. Addam

    On March 1, 2011 at 8:02 pm


    hi all.
    iv been with my partner for a lil over a year and a half. im not sure if our sex life is healthy or not.
    due to our living arrangements, we only see one another maybe once a week if that. and after a great day at the movies or some other romantic day out that we both enjoy, we will end up at some-ones house and making intimate love. we both enjoy it and love each other to bits. but a few hours after i leave she (my partner) tells me she didnt want to have sex and wants us to cut down. this confuses me coz hours earlier she was loving it and deffinately wanted to play around.

    any help, advice and opinions would be greatly appreciated

  10. Amy

    On January 12, 2012 at 12:55 am


    I see my husband has been in here, now my short story!
    MY husband and I hadn’t had sex,intimacy,love what ever you call it in since we were married 45 years ago. Thats right 45 years. After the I DOs were done and the wedding night was over sex was gone forever. The next day he move all his things down stairs and built a small apartment. Weve done absolutly nothing together. I guess after the shock and years of depression I finally accepted my fate in life. So here I’m over 40 years later no nothing from husband and totally beaten down.

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