Five Things You Must Eliminate in a Relationship

Depression/Loneliness

Most singles feel lonely and depressed because they have this wrong notion that their happiness depends on someone. When a young belief, the result is always depression and loneliness. When you feel that until you cannot be happy or fulfilled, then you will naturally feel depressed.

Depression is very terrible; it can affect the totality of a person – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. You find such person being unhappy, gloomy, unusually quit and withdrawn. If the development is not checked or brought under control, it could even grow worse. The person might being to lose appetite, and will not be able to sleep normally. With time the person’s normal functioning at work or school will be affected. Please don’t kill yourself; there is no relationship that is worth dying for. Remember you need to be alive and well to keep relationship.

Dependence

Dependence persons hardly make decision on their own. They always look up to others for virtually every little matter. I know we need each other, and should to an extent depend on one another. But when it becomes excessive, we need to watch it. You should be able to take responsibility for your actions and decisions. You should know what you want and go for it, there is nothing wrong asking others’ opinion, but you should have your own opinion and view and be able to express it as an individual.

When you are always depending on others for every little decision-making, it reduces you self-worth. It will reveal your inadequacies and lack of individuality. Modern people look out for someone they could trust to tuck in a very bad relationship because of their inability to take a decision. They are in the habit of asking, “ What do you think I should do”?

Detachment

This is a bye-product of depression. It means to be isolated, withdrawn, or lonely, as a result of a failed relationship. When people get to this condition, they are always very moody and unhappy. It means detaching himself from vital social relationships. The desire to visit and spend time with friends and family members gradually dies. No more church attendance they will now be making excuses. No more active participation, if he is a worker in the church, in fact he will be drawing back gradually until he fizzles out completely