Five Ways to Deal a Broken Heart
Broken heart sucks. Anyone can attest how agonizing a broken heart can be, however it can be dealt in several ways; provided you’re willing to move on.
Broken heart, it’s painful like hell and it’s driving men and women insane. However, whatever the cause of the broken-heart? It can be mended, no matter how painful and how agonizing it would feel.
How to recover from a broken heart? Let your heart recover. That’s a great solution. Dealing with your loss from your old lovers could be painful but dealing with you broken heart everyday could be more like treating your heart from a stabbed. Especially, when you’re head over-heels-in-love-with the person. Broken heart can dealt in several ways, provided you are willing to move on and start all over again. However, when our heart is torn into thousand of pieces, we don’t know when this pain will end and where to begin when our heart isn’t a whole yet to start again.
Did you just say that no one will help you picking up the pieces, and your heart has been exposed into something painful and heartrending; it seems that its hard to move on after she or he’s gone? Well, I can understand that thought. It just that when you wont deal it in a positive way, it’s your lost -not with your ex. The best thing to recover from a broken heart is to face it, accept it and deal with it. But, how? How can you recover despite of the throbbing in your heart?
Practical ways to recover from a broken heart:
- First thing first, cry. Cry a lot until all your heartaches inside has been poured. There’s nothing wrong with crying. It’s like crying when your cat was buried or died.(Well, I’m not saying that she/his a cat, at least you cry). Pouring everything inside your heart can help. You will noticed after crying, something has been released. I’m not saying that the hurt and pain can be erase by just an instant of sobbing and crying, at least you’ve been doing the first step of mending a broken-heart, “crying”. Did I say it? Yes, cry. As in a lot ( you may fill up an empty big bucket with your tears).
- Allow your thoughts to bring back all the good memories and the sad one. Whether it was a disaster or not. Just let it flow in your mind and let go. I’m saying that you’re just practicing some things on how to let go. Don’t force yourself to forget her/him at once, it will take time, like memories. That’s why I’m telling you, let it flow and let it go.
- After your pouring or crying inside your room and recollecting all your thoughts. Get out and talk to somebody either your friends, your mother, your father or even your cat or dogs. These will help. Dogs and cats can understand, they are the great listener at all times. I’m saying that you were in the stages to release something inside.
Hint: Do not attempt to call your ex. Yes, I did tell you to talk to someone but I’m not saying, to talk to the person who gave you the broken-heart ( this is an stupid action). It only prolonged the heartache and it can never help you recover. The tendency of talking to the person (your ex) will only drive you crazy and insane, there might be an instances of confrontation, blaming and screaming. You don’t want to know the lines, “I sleep with your best-friend”, right? There are words that should left unspoken.
- After you release everything, depends on your way of thinking, the way you cope up the situation, plan something different. Go shopping, dance with a friend, and slowly and slowly, you let it go, bringing back the joy. Living a happy life again.
- Bounce back, you’re beautiful. Be more beautiful. And you can tell the whole world that you were suffering from a broken heart but there’s no way you can live a life, like your heart is broken forever.
Well, I know that broken heart sucks and its not just as simple as a piece of a cake, that if you want to eat it with a pop, you can. Really, broken heart can be mended but it just takes time. Just wait and one day you will say, “Well, it’s just a whack of a broken heart”.
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PR Mace
On November 28, 2008 at 9:59 pm
Good advice Your read forward for tonight.
hurt by love
On December 9, 2008 at 11:01 pm
a broken heart can be fix but not a permanent fix..the love still live but is the things the couple do change..love does not change..your mind say see new people and its just situation make you move on..but is life .. be happy.. u still living lol…. and u will find some one..or let sum1 find you
hurt by
On December 9, 2008 at 11:06 pm
loving someone is a gift… a broken heart is a better gift… it make you see and know wat is lyfe.if some hurt you and not talkin to you and with someone else.. believe me him/her i dyin to talk to you…but they holdin bac cuz they know wat they done. but love livez on.. talk to the ppl you love..
SSK
On December 22, 2008 at 2:02 am
iam happy for her that she is more happy with other person then me,may be i look like looser but i know that love is not about possesing someone its all about sacrificing …
may she be happy where ever she lives and i have memories which will be mine for rest of my life.iam just 25,still got atleast 30 to go
i thinkwe all luv once and i have done my share but she is lucky she can still luv other people……….SSK
Mys Lyke Meeh
On December 22, 2008 at 7:46 am
SSK,
That’s love all about , letting go! and setting free…
Take care—
mk
On December 28, 2008 at 12:09 am
thanks for those healing comments, i gave time, emotions, support and everything that i could to my gf.. she never returned the same to me and now she is out of my life. i wanted her to love me and to give me her heart and take care of me.. alas it happend.. we were together for an yr.. she came along half hearted.. i kept my up to it and waited her emotions to take a positive turn towards me..time passed it never happened.. i cd not break either as i was so much in lov with her, now she left the country..the sword of time cut our bond and i am sad.. i did not break with her and i dont know how to deal with unending and yielding emotion to her, although she is gone i still think of her and somewhere in mind think she wl take a u turn…… 99.9% this is my illution i know for sure..
camille
On February 23, 2009 at 11:20 pm
hi..im starting to move on..dq kyang wla xa pro sknya nang galing ang problema..nag hanap xa ng iba,.
al
On March 4, 2009 at 12:58 am
camille ok lang were both d same problem.thats good move on.hers my email add.alrandy72@yahoo.com
hans
On March 10, 2009 at 1:14 pm
well i want to get over the pain now, I’m still very much inlove with my hubby he works abroad and told me just last week that he no longer is happy with me and also i learned that he is now with someone else I am a woman who did everything we have a 2 yr. old son, and I dnt know what to do he wanted to get the custody of my little one too, what can I do, even if he had said to much I still feel so much for him he broke my heart and torn it to thousand of pieces yet I stilllove him, pls. help me i am not capable of thinking the ryt thing to do…
anthony
On March 18, 2009 at 2:26 am
I just got out of a four year realationship… I have a 16month old son. I wanna move on but my heart still has hope we will fix things…we broke up because I cheated but I truly regret it and repent from it I didn’t have sex just kissed another chick but she thinks something else happend and I mean I don’t blaime her.. well we still live together and sleep in diffrent rooms. She’s been going out every weekend and so I started doing the same so fridays she goes out to party and I stay home with my son.. saturdays I go out and she stays home…. I know I might sound real stupid for still sticking around I mean she’s already moving on she tells me she loves me and misses me and I don’t know what to do???? I need someones opinion!
Mys Lyke Meeh
On March 18, 2009 at 6:10 am
Time will give you ways on what to do. And, since she’s telling you that she misses you, she still have a heart for you. Just pursue her again. Show her that you’re sorry. Do something. The fact that you’re still living in one house , there’s a big chance that you can still patch up the things. Just show her that you’re reaaly really really sorry about things. You can do something about it. Try doing things to be together. Ask her again and again. If it doesn’t work out the way you’re pursuing her, just tell her—for the sake of your son. You can be together again.
Wake up in the morning and make her breakfast, cook for her. Do her laundry. Make something for her.
lanessa
On April 12, 2009 at 3:16 pm
I loved him with all I have and we shared so much he told me he loved and I felt we had this connection.I was always there for him. And then he just turn cold and distance and then completely pushed me away. I am missing him so much was it all one sided will the pain go away?? I have so many answer questions… How do I let him go
Hello Help
On April 13, 2009 at 8:30 am
My Boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years, I Have noticed in the past that He could be a bit controlling; however I have chosen to deal with it. I am getting to the point of my life that I AM NOT sure if I want to be with him anymore.
If I want to go out for a drink with my friends, that’s not allow, if we go to a party and I talk to others it’s not allowed, if people find me funny and joke with me he feels that I am and like to be center of attention, I pay half of all the bills, and he had more debt then I do he feels that its not fair that I could save and he can not.
Mys Lyke Meeh
On April 22, 2009 at 6:46 pm
@lanessa: Give it a time. Let love heals. Time will come that you will forget him if that’s really you wanted. Don’t force yourself yet.. one day you will be able to let him go. Since he’s pushing away, there might be personal reasons why he turn cold or something. Sometimes, man makes choices to the point of breaking a relationship. Just learned from it and start to move on. if things are meant to be, it’s meant to be. You may not grasped the line yet coz of the pain but there comes a time that you will understand why things happened.
But, never regret the past…coz’ there were times that you wanted it to happen. Take care.
Mys Lyke Meeh
On April 22, 2009 at 6:50 pm
@HelloHelp: He’s maybe a little possessive over you. Sometimes too much love can be possessive sometimes. However, it is your decision if you stays or go. Take care.
phoebe
On May 13, 2009 at 7:38 am
Hi someone can help me!nakilala ko ung ex ko dito sa dubai.We’re living together for a year but time goes by may mga pagbabago na.Siguro nasakal na sya sa akin.kasalan ko bang higpitan siya?Kya nakikipaghiwalay siya a akin.
phoebe
On May 13, 2009 at 7:40 am
any advices pra sa susunod kong makarelasyon.Paano ba magiging mabuting girlfriend?
brokenHeartedRASTA;c
On May 26, 2009 at 7:51 am
thankyou c;
vviviii
On May 26, 2009 at 7:53 am
help!i dont want to lose her.i love you nay!you mean the world to me.please dont leave me ;c
riaf1987
On May 26, 2009 at 7:58 am
hahay..ka sakit sa kasing-kasing..
Confused&Broken
On June 25, 2009 at 6:03 pm
i’ve been talking to this guy for a while now, and we aren’t a couple or anything but i really do like him. i went over to his house once and he started cuddling with me, so i was sure that he really had feelings for me. All of a sudden, he’s stopping talking to me and he is being all quiet when we talk on msn or txting… i really don’t know what to do. part of me wants to forget him, but then there’s that other part of me that wants to hold on as long as i can.
any suggestions on what i should do?
missX :'(
On July 2, 2009 at 2:08 pm
well,it all strted wen my friend introduced me wif two of her guy friends.then,after few weeks l8r,me&the guys become good friends.suddenly,they both liked me&wanted me 2 be their gf.let’s say that their nme was ‘R&D’.i choose ‘R’ 2 b my bf coz he asked me 1st.then,after 3 wks l8r..’R’ suddenly broke up wif me wif no reasons.then i accept ‘D’ 2 b my bf.after 2 wks tht ‘D’ & i dated,’R’ suddenly wanted 2 b back wif me again..he said tht he still missed&loved me bck..& i still hve those feelings 4 him..then, ‘D’ knew tht i still hve those feelings 4 his friend..& THen he getting quiet.he now stop tlking wif me&avoidng me.he didn’t ans my call nor replyng my txt..i felt sorry 4 him..thn, i jst knew tht ‘R’ is playng wif my heart again.he both loved me&the other girl..i flt so heartache n so sad..is thre any way 4 me 2 4get ‘R’&back wif ‘D’ again??(p.s-i needed ans,& all ans ArE appreciated)tq………missX
ladysae
On July 3, 2009 at 11:55 am
missX : i think you should appologised 2 ‘D’and if that don’t work out,then you should 4get them both and find new boyfriend.this time loved only 1 guy..ok..best of luck:)
first:love,now:hate
On July 3, 2009 at 12:19 pm
WOI MUBIN, LAU KO MAU SYG ‘KWN’ MU ATU…SAYNG PULNG..I DON’T DESERVED U & U DON’T DESERVED ME TOO..SKADR SII Z A2..BLEH HNCUR RELATIONSHIP KMI..BALIK2 AKU CKP YG Z & AKU KWN SHA..IA SUKA AKU P AKU NDA SUKA IA..AKU MSH SIMPN JNJI KU X A YG AKU NDA CURNG N NDA CRI LKI2 LEN..(SIGH)MUBIN..I REALLY2 LOVE YOU…4RM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART..P B’COZ OF YOUU..PRASAAN CINTAKU BTUKR JDI BNCI..I KNOW THAT THERES NO MORE ‘ME’ IN UR HEART..LIKE I USED TOO,P ADVICE KU UTK KO IALAH..JGN LKS CMBURU N JGN LKS MANJA..JGN OVER CONTROL GF MU YG BRU NNTI..BRI SSK X AH!!BH A2 SHA..N IF ANE KO MUBIN YG MMBCA,IM SORRY APA YG KMI LALUI BRSMA..SUKADUKA TANE..N SORRY ANE KASAR SIKIT..ITS THE ONLY WAY 4 LETTING MY ANGER OUT..K MUBIN,TC…N HPE ADA GF BRU YG SYG KO LBH DRI SYG KU ARH MU..INGT ADVICE KU TUU..ATU PUN IF KO MAU UR NEX RELATIONSHIP4 LAST A BIT MORE LONGER..4rm..u noe who??
eddie
On July 10, 2009 at 11:01 am
She told me noone would love me as much as her..about 3 months ago,We dated for 3 years..She dumped me on monday.I havent eaten,i feel like dieing.Worst off, we work together and i feel as though there’s another guy..she’s always denied it completly.I tried calling over and over,and she says nothing well change her mind,she didnt love me any more.I need to hear from someone this has happened to them,and there is life at the end of the tunnel.Im desperate for help,ive never been so sick in my life,what hurts the most is seeing that its not bothering her.My family loved her,she told them she loved me.Now she doesn;t..Please..well this pain end.? I dont think i will ever get over this..hope to hear from someone soon..
doubley broken heart
On July 10, 2009 at 9:39 pm
I loved him so much. He hurt me once before and months later apologize and wanted a relationship. I feel like an idiot for agreeing to it. Espicially since everyone tells you long distance relationships never work. I loved him so much though and we had some really good times together when he was in town. For a while we were texting back and forth and every couple of weeks he would call me up. Things were going good, but it seems like this summer things started to go downhill. About a month ago my sister died. He knew I needed someone to talk to so he called me the day she died we talked for a solid hour he had all these ideas of me coming up there to live with him for the summer, Maybe even perhaps going to cedar point at the end of the summer. Then after that I didn’t get any messages for three weeks and so I emailed him to see what was up and thats when he broke up with me. It feels time times worse because it feels like he bailed on me when I needed him the most. I know hes a busy guy because hes working and living on his own, but it still hurts. I don’t know how I’m going to get over this because I loved him and still love him so much. I even thought maybe he was the one. Then again I may just be a stupid over emotional girl. He was so incredibly sweet though and it sucks. Just plain sucks. I wish for anything to see him, I miss him so much..
romthel
On July 14, 2009 at 3:52 am
i loved him…he didnt spend enough time with me…friends were really important for him…and one day i thought..im not gonna be pushed away and ignored…i just knew that it was the right thing to do…i dumped him…i was glad at first…maybe because it was not him who dumped me…but days after that..i started missing him terribly…he called me saying that he was sorry for not being with me when i wanted him…but all i was expecting him to ask was whether i wanted him back…he did not ask..few weeks after this…i got fed up and i asked him myself and he said no…he said that he doesnt deserve me and he doesnt want to hurt me again…he told me to find a better guy…i got mad and i told him not to tell me who to love..and two months after that…he called me…he was in the area and wondered whether we could meet up.. i was away so i said no..and he answered’maybe we werent meant to meet’….and i got hurt…what i wanna know is…if he doesnt have feelings for me…he wouldnt have said that….what does he mean?and its been 2 and a half months..i still think of him and cry….but i never tried to call him…it wil just make me look like a fool…
romthel
On July 14, 2009 at 4:34 am
i loved him…he didnt spend enough time with me…friends were really important for him…and one day i thought..im not gonna be pushed away and ignored…i just knew that it was the right thing to do…i dumped him…i was glad at first…maybe because it was not him who dumped me…but days after that..i started missing him terribly…he called me saying that he was sorry for not being with me when i wanted him…but all i was expecting him to ask was whether i wanted him back…he did not ask..few weeks after this…i got fed up and i asked him myself and he said no…he said that he doesnt deserve me and he doesnt want to hurt me again…he told me to find a better guy…i got mad and i told him not to tell me who to love..and two months after that…he called me…he was in the area and wondered whether we could meet up.. i was away so i said no..and he answered’maybe we werent meant to meet’….and i got hurt…what i wanna know is…if he doesnt have feelings for me…he wouldnt have said that….what does he mean?and its been 2 and a half months..i still think of him and cry….but i never tried to call him…it wil just make me look like a fool…
keke
On July 17, 2009 at 9:40 pm
I’m hurt but i dont blame anybody but myself.I”ve been dating a guy for six month, we fell in love very quick and we had great connection.two months later he became very busy claiming that he has too much school work to do and his job was stressing him up. I kinda of understood because i’m a students myself,but he promised to see me more in summer because he would’nt be taking any classes. I was very excited when he said that because i love him with all my heart and not seeing him stress me a lot.its almost the end of July now the guy is busier than ever, sadly he does not even returns my calls when i call and he’ll text the next day telling me how stressed out he was.but the funny thing is that he text me everyday telling me how much he loves me.We live 15minutes away from each other but we’ve never seen each other since summer began. i need advice please,does this guy even care about me at all or i’m just waisting my time and playing fool?.what hurt me the most is that this is my third relashinship and all of them end up with the same behavior. should i live him or he is realy busy i’m very comfused?
thicky
On July 22, 2009 at 5:58 pm
Hi guys,
I made the mistake of falling in love with someone who was going through a separation with his wife. She left him with their 2 year old daughter and moved to another state. I believed him when he told me that he was over her, but I noticed that he’d talk about her alot and always insert her into our conversations. He was very sweet and kind to me and we did have a genuine connection, so I found myself becoming a “therapist” of sorts. One day he became distant and I told him he needed to take some time to figure out things because he couldn’t really love me right now. He told me not to give up on us and that he hopes that hes worth the wait and that he won’t be a stranger. 2 weeks later and I still haven’t heard from him. It hurts but I’m happy that I realized that he wasn’t who I thought he was, that all the words of love he told me were just words and just spoken to me because he couldn’t tell her. I’m getting over it slowly but it still hurts sometimes, I still think of him daily but its genuinely getting better with time. If you have a broken heart like I do the best thing to give yourself is time and forgiveness. Take care and may God smile upon you.
zyrha
On July 30, 2009 at 5:40 am
I am so confused now… i love my fiance and if love can be measured, I know that he loves me more but he wants to give me up because he feels that he is not the right guy for me.. we are not really young (late 30s and early 40s) and I am catholic divorcee while is he is muslim, married and with kids.. he left his family for me (wife and him are only together bec of the kids even before I came to his life) but now he is confused because he is thinking what will happen to us in the next ten years.. no, returning to his kids is out of the question because it will not ever happen, and i know he loves me but he is hurting me because he wants to leave me because he thinks he is not good enough for me.. i don’t understand how he can love me so much but leave me anyway…the hardest thing is that we share a lot of things in common, call it cliche but we are soulmates, best friend, etc. but all the circumstances around us now is driving us apart.. the difficult part to accept is that we still are very much in love after 2 years together…
rommel
On November 11, 2009 at 9:01 am
No relationship is ever a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself from having gone through it all with your heart open to both joy and pain. Just because it didn’t work out doesn’t mean it wasn’t a necessary part of your journey to becoming who you’re meant to be. Allow at least the learning part to enrich your life.
Jodee
On November 19, 2009 at 10:07 am
We were together for 3 1/2 years. When he decided to move on to another girl it broke my heart into a million peaces. He says he still cares and we are “friends” on Myspace but reading his comments to his new girl and hers to him, in addition to pictures of them together and photo comments of her body… wow it breaks my heart. However I am not ready to let go, deep down I am hoping he will come back to me. How supid am i?
Mys Lyke Meeh
On November 19, 2009 at 8:59 pm
@Jodee: Ohh…it really sucks to hear that. Imagined for 3 and half years you’ve been together and he just threw it away?
I know it’s hard to forget him. It’s really hard. But, he already decided to moved on and tried to erased you in his vocabulary. HE MOVED ON WITH THE OTHER GIRL. It seemed unfair. But well? He already made a decision and that with the other girl. However, the power to forget him is within you. Don’t wait for him to change his heart and comes back again with you. He already did it at first and do you think that he will not do it again once he’s back to you? Chances are he will hurt you again in similar way. It might painful as it seems, but sometimes reality is always the answer of everything in life. So don’t wait for him to comes back. All you have to do is stay alive and open yourself to someone who’s worth it. There are many possibilities.
And, try not to open and stalk his profile. Such as facebook and myspace- it only gives you heartbreak over and over. Once you read what happened to him, memories of love and pain will all comes back to you. You might not noticed it but once after you open and read his profile–sadness will soon display.
You are unique. And there’s something within you. If he will see you flourish and happy without him—he might regret it and think a million times why he left you.
Anyway, let the time go and let love heals.
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