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Five Ways to Deal a Broken Heart

Broken heart sucks. Yes, it does. However, you can handle the pain depending on your willingness to fight the feeling.

Broken heart is very painful (like hell). It’s driving men and women all over the world insane. However, whatever the cause of your broken-heart, it can be mended. 

How to recover from a broken heart?

Let your heart recover, that’s one of the simplest solution. However, by reading this line- your inner heart’s response would be, “That’s not easy”. Yes, everyone can relate to that but if you are not willing to work for it, who will? Would you like to feel this heart-stabbing pain everyday?

Dealing with your loss from your old lover is really painful and accepting the fact that he’s or she’s gone is like stabbing your heart with a sharp objects.  The worse case scenario is that your dreams are gone with the person you love as well.

Broken heart can be deal in several ways, provided you are willing to move on and start all over again. However, when your heart is torn into thousand pieces and your dreams are shattered as well, you don’t know when the pain would end.

These questions that struck on your mind when the person is gone would haunt your days such as:

  • How would I start without him or her? 
  • Would I survive without him or her?
  • Would he or she comes back?

Did you just say that no one will help you in picking up the pieces of your life?  Well, your heart may be exposed to an overwhelming and deadly feeling but you have to get over it. It’s really hard to move on once he or she’s gone. Yes, everyone can understand that feeling but if you won’t deal with it  in a positive way, it’s up to you.

Face it, accept it and don’t escape from it. How can you recover in spite of the pain you’re suffering?

Practical ways to recover from a broken heart:

  1. First thing first, cry. Cry a lot until all your heartaches inside has been poured. There’s nothing wrong with crying. It’s like crying when your cat was buried or died in a window jumping accident. (Well, I’m not saying that she/he’s a cat) . Pouring everything inside your heart can help, you will noticed after crying that something has been released. I’m not saying that the hurt and pain can be erase in just an instant of sobbing and crying, at least you’ve been doing the first step of mending your broken-heart, “crying”. Did I say it right? Yes, cry. As in a lot ( you may fill up an empty bucket of tears).
  2. Allow your thoughts to bring back all the good memories and the sad one. Whether it was a disaster or sweet one. Just let it flow in your mind and let go. I’m saying that you’re just practicing some things that you need to  to let go. Don’t force yourself to forget her/him at once, it will take time. Let it flow and let it go.
  3. After crying inside your room from all your recollected thoughts, get out and talk to somebody either your friends, your mother, your father or even your cat or dogs. These will help. Dogs and cats can understand, they are the great listener at times. I’m saying that you’re in the stage to release something inside.

    Hint: Do not attempt to call your ex. Yes, I did tell you to talk to someone but I’m not saying to talk to the person who gave you the broken-heart ( this is an stupid action). It only prolonged the heartache and it will never help you recover. The tendency of talking to the person (your ex) will only drive you crazy, there might be an instances of confrontation, blaming and screaming. You don’t want to know the line, “I sleep with your best-friend”, right? There are words that best left unsaid. 

  4. After you released everything, depends on your way of thinking and the way you cope up the situation, plan something different. Go shopping and dance with your friend. Slowly and slowly, you let it go. You’re bringing back the joy and living a happy life again.
  5. Bounce back, you’re beautiful. Be more beautiful. And you can tell to the whole world that yes, you were suffering from a heartache  but there’s no way you can live a life like your building a monument of him or her.

If he or she left because of someone else, he or she doesn’t deserve your love, your trust and you as a person. Well, everybody  knows that broken heart suck and it is  not a piece of cake, that if you want to eat it with a pop, you can. It’s like killing your appetite and your social skills at once.

Broken heart can be mended but it will take time. Just wait for a certain amount of time and one day you will say to yourself, ” Whatta whack of  broken heart?”

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  1. PR Mace

    On November 28, 2008 at 9:59 pm


    Good advice Your read forward for tonight.

  2. hurt by love

    On December 9, 2008 at 11:01 pm


    a broken heart can be fix but not a permanent fix..the love still live but is the things the couple do change..love does not change..your mind say see new people and its just situation make you move on..but is life .. be happy.. u still living lol…. and u will find some one..or let sum1 find you

  3. hurt by

    On December 9, 2008 at 11:06 pm


    loving someone is a gift… a broken heart is a better gift… it make you see and know wat is lyfe.if some hurt you and not talkin to you and with someone else.. believe me him/her i dyin to talk to you…but they holdin bac cuz they know wat they done. but love livez on.. talk to the ppl you love..

  4. SSK

    On December 22, 2008 at 2:02 am


    iam happy for her that she is more happy with other person then me,may be i look like looser but i know that love is not about possesing someone its all about sacrificing …
    may she be happy where ever she lives and i have memories which will be mine for rest of my life.iam just 25,still got atleast 30 to go ;)
    i thinkwe all luv once and i have done my share but she is lucky she can still luv other people……….SSK

  5. Jojo Skeene

    On December 22, 2008 at 7:46 am


    SSK,

    That’s love all about , letting go! and setting free…

    Take care—

  6. mk

    On December 28, 2008 at 12:09 am


    thanks for those healing comments, i gave time, emotions, support and everything that i could to my gf.. she never returned the same to me and now she is out of my life. i wanted her to love me and to give me her heart and take care of me.. alas it happend.. we were together for an yr.. she came along half hearted.. i kept my up to it and waited her emotions to take a positive turn towards me..time passed it never happened.. i cd not break either as i was so much in lov with her, now she left the country..the sword of time cut our bond and i am sad.. i did not break with her and i dont know how to deal with unending and yielding emotion to her, although she is gone i still think of her and somewhere in mind think she wl take a u turn…… 99.9% this is my illution i know for sure..

  7. camille

    On February 23, 2009 at 11:20 pm


    hi..im starting to move on..dq kyang wla xa pro sknya nang galing ang problema..nag hanap xa ng iba,.

  8. al

    On March 4, 2009 at 12:58 am


    camille ok lang were both d same problem.thats good move on.hers my email add.alrandy72@yahoo.com

  9. hans

    On March 10, 2009 at 1:14 pm


    well i want to get over the pain now, I’m still very much inlove with my hubby he works abroad and told me just last week that he no longer is happy with me and also i learned that he is now with someone else I am a woman who did everything we have a 2 yr. old son, and I dnt know what to do he wanted to get the custody of my little one too, what can I do, even if he had said to much I still feel so much for him he broke my heart and torn it to thousand of pieces yet I stilllove him, pls. help me i am not capable of thinking the ryt thing to do…

  10. anthony

    On March 18, 2009 at 2:26 am


    I just got out of a four year realationship… I have a 16month old son. I wanna move on but my heart still has hope we will fix things…we broke up because I cheated but I truly regret it and repent from it I didn’t have sex just kissed another chick but she thinks something else happend and I mean I don’t blaime her.. well we still live together and sleep in diffrent rooms. She’s been going out every weekend and so I started doing the same so fridays she goes out to party and I stay home with my son.. saturdays I go out and she stays home…. I know I might sound real stupid for still sticking around I mean she’s already moving on she tells me she loves me and misses me and I don’t know what to do???? I need someones opinion!

  11. Jojo Skeene

    On March 18, 2009 at 6:10 am


    Time will give you ways on what to do. And, since she’s telling you that she misses you, she still have a heart for you. Just pursue her again. Show her that you’re sorry. Do something. The fact that you’re still living in one house , there’s a big chance that you can still patch up the things. Just show her that you’re reaaly really really sorry about things. You can do something about it. Try doing things to be together. Ask her again and again. If it doesn’t work out the way you’re pursuing her, just tell her—for the sake of your son. You can be together again.

    Wake up in the morning and make her breakfast, cook for her. Do her laundry. Make something for her.

  12. lanessa

    On April 12, 2009 at 3:16 pm


    I loved him with all I have and we shared so much he told me he loved and I felt we had this connection.I was always there for him. And then he just turn cold and distance and then completely pushed me away. I am missing him so much was it all one sided will the pain go away?? I have so many answer questions… How do I let him go

  13. Hello Help

    On April 13, 2009 at 8:30 am


    My Boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years, I Have noticed in the past that He could be a bit controlling; however I have chosen to deal with it. I am getting to the point of my life that I AM NOT sure if I want to be with him anymore.
    If I want to go out for a drink with my friends, that’s not allow, if we go to a party and I talk to others it’s not allowed, if people find me funny and joke with me he feels that I am and like to be center of attention, I pay half of all the bills, and he had more debt then I do he feels that its not fair that I could save and he can not.

  14. Jojo Skeene

    On April 22, 2009 at 6:46 pm


    @lanessa: Give it a time. Let love heals. Time will come that you will forget him if that’s really you wanted. Don’t force yourself yet.. one day you will be able to let him go. Since he’s pushing away, there might be personal reasons why he turn cold or something. Sometimes, man makes choices to the point of breaking a relationship. Just learned from it and start to move on. if things are meant to be, it’s meant to be. You may not grasped the line yet coz of the pain but there comes a time that you will understand why things happened.

    But, never regret the past…coz’ there were times that you wanted it to happen. Take care.

  15. Jojo Skeene

    On April 22, 2009 at 6:50 pm


    @HelloHelp: He’s maybe a little possessive over you. Sometimes too much love can be possessive sometimes. However, it is your decision if you stays or go. Take care.

  16. phoebe

    On May 13, 2009 at 7:38 am


    Hi someone can help me!nakilala ko ung ex ko dito sa dubai.We’re living together for a year but time goes by may mga pagbabago na.Siguro nasakal na sya sa akin.kasalan ko bang higpitan siya?Kya nakikipaghiwalay siya a akin.

  17. phoebe

    On May 13, 2009 at 7:40 am


    any advices pra sa susunod kong makarelasyon.Paano ba magiging mabuting girlfriend?

  18. brokenHeartedRASTA;c

    On May 26, 2009 at 7:51 am


    thankyou c;

  19. vviviii

    On May 26, 2009 at 7:53 am


    help!i dont want to lose her.i love you nay!you mean the world to me.please dont leave me ;c

  20. riaf1987

    On May 26, 2009 at 7:58 am


    hahay..ka sakit sa kasing-kasing..

  21. Confused&Broken

    On June 25, 2009 at 6:03 pm


    i’ve been talking to this guy for a while now, and we aren’t a couple or anything but i really do like him. i went over to his house once and he started cuddling with me, so i was sure that he really had feelings for me. All of a sudden, he’s stopping talking to me and he is being all quiet when we talk on msn or txting… i really don’t know what to do. part of me wants to forget him, but then there’s that other part of me that wants to hold on as long as i can.

    any suggestions on what i should do?

  22. missX :'(

    On July 2, 2009 at 2:08 pm


    well,it all strted wen my friend introduced me wif two of her guy friends.then,after few weeks l8r,me&the guys become good friends.suddenly,they both liked me&wanted me 2 be their gf.let’s say that their nme was ‘R&D’.i choose ‘R’ 2 b my bf coz he asked me 1st.then,after 3 wks l8r..’R’ suddenly broke up wif me wif no reasons.then i accept ‘D’ 2 b my bf.after 2 wks tht ‘D’ & i dated,’R’ suddenly wanted 2 b back wif me again..he said tht he still missed&loved me bck..& i still hve those feelings 4 him..then, ‘D’ knew tht i still hve those feelings 4 his friend..& THen he getting quiet.he now stop tlking wif me&avoidng me.he didn’t ans my call nor replyng my txt..i felt sorry 4 him..thn, i jst knew tht ‘R’ is playng wif my heart again.he both loved me&the other girl..i flt so heartache n so sad..is thre any way 4 me 2 4get ‘R’&back wif ‘D’ again??(p.s-i needed ans,& all ans ArE appreciated)tq………missX

  23. ladysae

    On July 3, 2009 at 11:55 am


    missX : i think you should appologised 2 ‘D’and if that don’t work out,then you should 4get them both and find new boyfriend.this time loved only 1 guy..ok..best of luck:)

  24. first:love,now:hate

    On July 3, 2009 at 12:19 pm


    WOI MUBIN, LAU KO MAU SYG ‘KWN’ MU ATU…SAYNG PULNG..I DON’T DESERVED U & U DON’T DESERVED ME TOO..SKADR SII Z A2..BLEH HNCUR RELATIONSHIP KMI..BALIK2 AKU CKP YG Z & AKU KWN SHA..IA SUKA AKU P AKU NDA SUKA IA..AKU MSH SIMPN JNJI KU X A YG AKU NDA CURNG N NDA CRI LKI2 LEN..(SIGH)MUBIN..I REALLY2 LOVE YOU…4RM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART..P B’COZ OF YOUU..PRASAAN CINTAKU BTUKR JDI BNCI..I KNOW THAT THERES NO MORE ‘ME’ IN UR HEART..LIKE I USED TOO,P ADVICE KU UTK KO IALAH..JGN LKS CMBURU N JGN LKS MANJA..JGN OVER CONTROL GF MU YG BRU NNTI..BRI SSK X AH!!BH A2 SHA..N IF ANE KO MUBIN YG MMBCA,IM SORRY APA YG KMI LALUI BRSMA..SUKADUKA TANE..N SORRY ANE KASAR SIKIT..ITS THE ONLY WAY 4 LETTING MY ANGER OUT..K MUBIN,TC…N HPE ADA GF BRU YG SYG KO LBH DRI SYG KU ARH MU..INGT ADVICE KU TUU..ATU PUN IF KO MAU UR NEX RELATIONSHIP4 LAST A BIT MORE LONGER..4rm..u noe who??

  25. eddie

    On July 10, 2009 at 11:01 am


    She told me noone would love me as much as her..about 3 months ago,We dated for 3 years..She dumped me on monday.I havent eaten,i feel like dieing.Worst off, we work together and i feel as though there’s another guy..she’s always denied it completly.I tried calling over and over,and she says nothing well change her mind,she didnt love me any more.I need to hear from someone this has happened to them,and there is life at the end of the tunnel.Im desperate for help,ive never been so sick in my life,what hurts the most is seeing that its not bothering her.My family loved her,she told them she loved me.Now she doesn;t..Please..well this pain end.? I dont think i will ever get over this..hope to hear from someone soon..

  26. doubley broken heart

    On July 10, 2009 at 9:39 pm


    I loved him so much. He hurt me once before and months later apologize and wanted a relationship. I feel like an idiot for agreeing to it. Espicially since everyone tells you long distance relationships never work. I loved him so much though and we had some really good times together when he was in town. For a while we were texting back and forth and every couple of weeks he would call me up. Things were going good, but it seems like this summer things started to go downhill. About a month ago my sister died. He knew I needed someone to talk to so he called me the day she died we talked for a solid hour he had all these ideas of me coming up there to live with him for the summer, Maybe even perhaps going to cedar point at the end of the summer. Then after that I didn’t get any messages for three weeks and so I emailed him to see what was up and thats when he broke up with me. It feels time times worse because it feels like he bailed on me when I needed him the most. I know hes a busy guy because hes working and living on his own, but it still hurts. I don’t know how I’m going to get over this because I loved him and still love him so much. I even thought maybe he was the one. Then again I may just be a stupid over emotional girl. He was so incredibly sweet though and it sucks. Just plain sucks. I wish for anything to see him, I miss him so much..

  27. romthel

    On July 14, 2009 at 3:52 am


    i loved him…he didnt spend enough time with me…friends were really important for him…and one day i thought..im not gonna be pushed away and ignored…i just knew that it was the right thing to do…i dumped him…i was glad at first…maybe because it was not him who dumped me…but days after that..i started missing him terribly…he called me saying that he was sorry for not being with me when i wanted him…but all i was expecting him to ask was whether i wanted him back…he did not ask..few weeks after this…i got fed up and i asked him myself and he said no…he said that he doesnt deserve me and he doesnt want to hurt me again…he told me to find a better guy…i got mad and i told him not to tell me who to love..and two months after that…he called me…he was in the area and wondered whether we could meet up.. i was away so i said no..and he answered’maybe we werent meant to meet’….and i got hurt…what i wanna know is…if he doesnt have feelings for me…he wouldnt have said that….what does he mean?and its been 2 and a half months..i still think of him and cry….but i never tried to call him…it wil just make me look like a fool…

  28. romthel

    On July 14, 2009 at 4:34 am


    i loved him…he didnt spend enough time with me…friends were really important for him…and one day i thought..im not gonna be pushed away and ignored…i just knew that it was the right thing to do…i dumped him…i was glad at first…maybe because it was not him who dumped me…but days after that..i started missing him terribly…he called me saying that he was sorry for not being with me when i wanted him…but all i was expecting him to ask was whether i wanted him back…he did not ask..few weeks after this…i got fed up and i asked him myself and he said no…he said that he doesnt deserve me and he doesnt want to hurt me again…he told me to find a better guy…i got mad and i told him not to tell me who to love..and two months after that…he called me…he was in the area and wondered whether we could meet up.. i was away so i said no..and he answered’maybe we werent meant to meet’….and i got hurt…what i wanna know is…if he doesnt have feelings for me…he wouldnt have said that….what does he mean?and its been 2 and a half months..i still think of him and cry….but i never tried to call him…it wil just make me look like a fool…

  29. keke

    On July 17, 2009 at 9:40 pm


    I’m hurt but i dont blame anybody but myself.I”ve been dating a guy for six month, we fell in love very quick and we had great connection.two months later he became very busy claiming that he has too much school work to do and his job was stressing him up. I kinda of understood because i’m a students myself,but he promised to see me more in summer because he would’nt be taking any classes. I was very excited when he said that because i love him with all my heart and not seeing him stress me a lot.its almost the end of July now the guy is busier than ever, sadly he does not even returns my calls when i call and he’ll text the next day telling me how stressed out he was.but the funny thing is that he text me everyday telling me how much he loves me.We live 15minutes away from each other but we’ve never seen each other since summer began. i need advice please,does this guy even care about me at all or i’m just waisting my time and playing fool?.what hurt me the most is that this is my third relashinship and all of them end up with the same behavior. should i live him or he is realy busy i’m very comfused?

  30. thicky

    On July 22, 2009 at 5:58 pm


    Hi guys,

    I made the mistake of falling in love with someone who was going through a separation with his wife. She left him with their 2 year old daughter and moved to another state. I believed him when he told me that he was over her, but I noticed that he’d talk about her alot and always insert her into our conversations. He was very sweet and kind to me and we did have a genuine connection, so I found myself becoming a “therapist” of sorts. One day he became distant and I told him he needed to take some time to figure out things because he couldn’t really love me right now. He told me not to give up on us and that he hopes that hes worth the wait and that he won’t be a stranger. 2 weeks later and I still haven’t heard from him. It hurts but I’m happy that I realized that he wasn’t who I thought he was, that all the words of love he told me were just words and just spoken to me because he couldn’t tell her. I’m getting over it slowly but it still hurts sometimes, I still think of him daily but its genuinely getting better with time. If you have a broken heart like I do the best thing to give yourself is time and forgiveness. Take care and may God smile upon you.

  31. zyrha

    On July 30, 2009 at 5:40 am


    I am so confused now… i love my fiance and if love can be measured, I know that he loves me more but he wants to give me up because he feels that he is not the right guy for me.. we are not really young (late 30s and early 40s) and I am catholic divorcee while is he is muslim, married and with kids.. he left his family for me (wife and him are only together bec of the kids even before I came to his life) but now he is confused because he is thinking what will happen to us in the next ten years.. no, returning to his kids is out of the question because it will not ever happen, and i know he loves me but he is hurting me because he wants to leave me because he thinks he is not good enough for me.. i don’t understand how he can love me so much but leave me anyway…the hardest thing is that we share a lot of things in common, call it cliche but we are soulmates, best friend, etc. but all the circumstances around us now is driving us apart.. the difficult part to accept is that we still are very much in love after 2 years together…

  32. rommel

    On November 11, 2009 at 9:01 am


    No relationship is ever a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself from having gone through it all with your heart open to both joy and pain. Just because it didn’t work out doesn’t mean it wasn’t a necessary part of your journey to becoming who you’re meant to be. Allow at least the learning part to enrich your life.

  33. Jodee

    On November 19, 2009 at 10:07 am


    We were together for 3 1/2 years. When he decided to move on to another girl it broke my heart into a million peaces. He says he still cares and we are “friends” on Myspace but reading his comments to his new girl and hers to him, in addition to pictures of them together and photo comments of her body… wow it breaks my heart. However I am not ready to let go, deep down I am hoping he will come back to me. How supid am i?

  34. Jojo Skeene

    On November 19, 2009 at 8:59 pm


    @Jodee: Ohh…it really sucks to hear that. Imagined for 3 and half years you’ve been together and he just threw it away?

    I know it’s hard to forget him. It’s really hard. But, he already decided to moved on and tried to erased you in his vocabulary. HE MOVED ON WITH THE OTHER GIRL. It seemed unfair. But well? He already made a decision and that with the other girl. However, the power to forget him is within you. Don’t wait for him to change his heart and comes back again with you. He already did it at first and do you think that he will not do it again once he’s back to you? Chances are he will hurt you again in similar way. It might painful as it seems, but sometimes reality is always the answer of everything in life. So don’t wait for him to comes back. All you have to do is stay alive and open yourself to someone who’s worth it. There are many possibilities.

    And, try not to open and stalk his profile. Such as facebook and myspace- it only gives you heartbreak over and over. Once you read what happened to him, memories of love and pain will all comes back to you. You might not noticed it but once after you open and read his profile–sadness will soon display.

    You are unique. And there’s something within you. If he will see you flourish and happy without him—he might regret it and think a million times why he left you.

    Anyway, let the time go and let love heals.

  35. lonely

    On December 4, 2009 at 6:51 am


    “If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don’t, they never were.”
    m planning now to broke up with my lover to see if he realy loves and cant stay away from me..

  36. shaqs

    On December 9, 2009 at 5:25 am


    i am going through a break up now thats driving me crazy,at first i think i was dealing with it by trying to tell myself i dont need him, but as the days go by i start to miss him every moment, its been 6 days now and im now starting to go into depression mode, i have been crying for the past 2 days, i am not consentrating at work and the sad part is we work together…the good thing is i dont see him every day cuzz we work for two diffrent departments….but i miss him so much, i find myself crying and hugging his towel or his clothes that’s still at my house….my head and my eyes hurt from crying so much….he calls me and tell me its hurting him but he feels like i deserve a better man….help what do yall think.

  37. Jojo Skeene

    On December 9, 2009 at 10:00 am


    if you heard that line from him…it means he doesn’t need you anymore. There might be an urge of wanting you back because of what you’ve been through. But, if a man puts a period in the relationship, you should have a sense that he doesn’t need you anymore. Yes, it is very painful. At first, you won’t feel the pain of the break-up but as the time pass by…his memories and laughter will haunt and flash back. It’s like going on to the phase of depression. It sucks. Sometimes, it’s too much to bear that you could not breath. It makes you feel suffocated and hurt. Oftentimes, you blame him. Other times, you blame yourself and your shortcomings. However, whatever you’re going through…there are always answers to everything. You might not see it for now because you’re still on the page where hurt and pain is too much.

    But, you will realize the answer as soon as you get out from being broken. Slowly, you will realized the answer in the future.

  38. Lost&Lonely

    On December 23, 2009 at 6:42 pm


    I met my bf online in April and I fell in love 3 months later. We didn’t make our relationship official until November, after he pulled a “disappearing act” in October. Later he told me that in October he had slept with 2 people, one being his ex. A week later after we had been planning all month on spending the Christmas and New Year’s holidays together, his ex told him she was pregnant. We are in love with one another and now it seems as if she’s holding this baby over his head and right now we’re on a break. I’m trying like hell to give him the space he needs to make his decision, but I’m hurting so bad. I’ve let him know that no matter what I’m here for him, but I know something like this takes time. I’m afraid b/c she wants him to marry her again and I’m sure he’s going to say yes. I didn’t even loved my bf of 3 1/2 years the way I love him. Please help…

  39. Jojo Skeene

    On December 24, 2009 at 9:05 am


    It happens online. Mostly, men (or few women) whom you met online can be deceitful. It is a common deception. I heard a lot about online dating….it is very common. The heat and passion they shared, thought would never end. But well? who am I to judge when the feelings were really mutual? Since he claimed that he had sex with two people, you should be alarm by that fact. And, be grateful for saving you from any future heartache in the long run. Yes, you love him but you have to realized that if he did it before…he will do it again. His disappearance meant something…he was looking for something that could complete him! Yet, confusion entangled him and brought him back to you with a confession that he had sex with two people. Then, he confessed that he was united with his ex, which means —his official gf. By that fact, he really likes to move on with someone else not with you.

    Anyway, you will recover it soon. Just give it time. He really don’t deserve you! You deserve more…

  40. Love Hurts

    On December 30, 2009 at 3:57 pm


    its been 9 months and i tort i was over my ex but lately several things are just reminding me of him and i feel a weak spot for him. i loved that guy unconditionally and he loved me just as much. im from the caribbean and he\’s from england, he came here to live about 1yr and a half ago. we were together for 10months but then one day he flew out of trinidad and never said anything to me. the last time we spoke we had a small argument which we very rarely have and the next day i tried callin him and his step dad told me he left. i was so devastated, i cried and cried, he called as soon as he reached england to tell me.-he had a family crisis-
    Till now i havent see what he looks like since he left.
    now he is back with his ex and im back wit mine. i love my bf but idk y my ex is comin back in my mind.

  41. jimm

    On January 14, 2010 at 2:39 pm


    Hi everybody, its an honor being here.

    My girlfriend of five years broke up with me & its been three months now. She was perfect for me, i loved her more than myself & we even had plans of marriage. But she changed eventually & little by little it led to the breakup.
    Anyways, after the breakup my whole world fell on me & its like i died on the spot. I felt like the living dead. It’s like i was decaying deep within, it was extreme hell. Then, she suddenly told me that she’s still too weak to move on & she needed me by her side as a friend. I didn’t know what to think but i pitied her somehow though i was really bitter inside & decided to agree. Besides i wasn’t ready myself to let go yet. So what started out as texting & calling became personal encounters & lead to sex over & over again. But the discussion of a reconciliation was never tackled, never an issue. And she did show gestures of affection time & time again & even told me that she missed me. I expected a lot from those sweet gestures & became sweet myself. But she then shifted & became insensitive when i showed affection, she withdrew. But she still entertained sexual encounters when we would meet up but that was it. Now, its hurting me like hell. I really want to let go so that i could get on with my life because there is no future here. Yet whenever the attempt arises to call everything off,i succumb to my crazy emotions. Every day is hell and i feel like a zombie. I want to avoid her but i end up calling her. Everything’s making me totally sick. I still need her but i know it would just mean more hurt…Damn it i wish these feelings would disappear….coz i still love her like crazy..

  42. jimm

    On January 14, 2010 at 2:48 pm


    (cont’d)

    I’m even checking out these dating sites & even tried dating, but i end up comparing these girls with her. Honestly, deep inside i’m somehow hoping things would work out, even though chances are really slim. I need help. First, is she holding back her true feelings? Is she scared to commit again? And what should i do? Should i attempt to woo her back into my life? Or should i really move on..? So confused……

  43. brokenheartedsoon

    On January 26, 2010 at 10:33 am


    i need advice, you see i’m really in love with someone, and everyone [sometimes even me] thinks she’s in love with me too. But i think she changes her mind from time to time about it because she’s not sure. And sometimes she’ll do hurtful things to me but then i would just bare with it; i wish i knew if she really loves me. I’m waiting for her to tell me first because she’ll be the one who’ll make the biggest change of her life, considering i already did before her. but how am i going to help her realize or be less afraid of a relationship with me? or even just hold on to me? i’ve been broken hearted last 2009 lots of times now, but this one is different, it’s going to be the biggest broken heart i’ll get if i find out i may never have her; and i dont think i can deal with this broken heart that easily and it might affect my school works; so i need to know, and i’ll be happy.
    i never felt this way before for someone, i dont think i can let her go.

  44. CARLOS

    On February 6, 2010 at 7:14 pm


    HI ITS BEEN ABOUT 2 MONTHS SINCE I GOT MY HEART BROKEN IT SUCKS IVE BEEN TRYING TO GET OVER IT BUT ITS JUST SEEMS IMPOSIBEL SINCE I WORK WITH HER SO I GET TO SEE HER EVER DAY I DONT EVEN WANT TO GO TO WORK. THE REASON FOR WAT SHE SAYS SHE DOESNT WANT TO BE WITH ME IS BECAUSE SHE SAY DAT SHE DOESNT FEELS DA SAME LOVE DAT I FEEL FOR HER. HOW CAN A PERSON TELL YOU DAT SHE LOVES YOU ON MODAY AND ON WENSDAY SHE SAYS DAT SHE DOESNT. LIKE WTF AHH I DONT KNOW WAT TODO IVE GOTTEN OUT AND MEET OTHER PEOPLE BUT I JUST CANT GET HER OUT OF MY HEAD AND ADVICE

  45. sanyulove

    On February 8, 2010 at 2:38 pm


    hi ,am sanyu, hope someone can help me, i have been with my boyfriend for 9 yrs, we met when i was really young ans then after school he had to work abroad that we had not yet got a chance to get married , i love him so much and i thought he felt the same way, a year ago i found out he was cheating on me with the girl from his work station, well, he apologized and i thought everything was going to be fyn coz we have loved each other for a long tym and passed thru alot together, but i was wrong, a week ago he called to tell me his new girlfriend gave birth to his child and he went to leave with her, he does not care abt me anymore does not even call.
    yesterday we formally broke up. but am dying inside, am too old for the next relationship. this was my first and i dont think i can open up my heart to another, worse still, who can fall for s 28 year old woman, am bitten and hurt and very very sad and feel terrible, will i ever get over this, someone help coz am dying inside.

  46. Dianne

    On March 13, 2010 at 3:49 am


    the only way to truly mend a broken heart is to fall in love with somebody else, then you’d be like “what the hell was i making such a big fuss for?” i’m not saying be a skank and look for rebounds. i had my heart broken to millions of pieces by an ex-bf who i was with for 3 years. i cried for so long i couldn’t cry anymore but the pain was still there, but now solidified rock in my chest. I felt crying just made me feel more pathetic and i would still cry months afterward in random moments. I thought about it, the good and the bad – and it just made m cry and hurt even more and want to know WHY? but throughout that time, i went out and lived my life, distracting myself even if i had to pretend i was happy – it resulted in meeting new people and making friends and opening up to new experiences, DESPITE the painful void i had inside. i didn’t go hook up with anyone for 9 solid months, and when i did, it was with a good person. Then i did that a couple more times and realized that’s not my kind of thing (didn’t enjoy the sex that way – call me old fashioned but i can only enjoy it with someone i care about and who feels the same about me), and completely stopped it. Then i met a guy and suddenly, i was in love again. completely unexpectedly and wasn’t even sure i wanted it. as scared as i was, i went for it and i realized i was over my ex finally when i learned to love again with my whole heart. ok, so with this new guy, things are still difficult and bad enough that we’ve broken up despite me being pregnant right now and us still loving each other so much but are too fiery, stubborn and independent to get on as well as we used to. I am again heartbroken, but you know what? I’m ok. Because i’ve survived a heartache before and i was fine after a while, especially when i accepted it and decided that the only thing i can do is get over it since there was no getting back together. With my baby’s father, maybe we’ll work out, but not right now. I think we need what everybody can’t wait for in the rush to sort things out and feel better – TIME. Maybe he’ll realize that I am carrying our family in my belly right now and that he needs to recognize his mistakes and put his pride aside. He loves me so much but being an Arab and the way he grew up, he’s got this TREMENDOUS ego that only a woman who likes being a subordinate to a man would be able to live with. Too bad – or perhaps good for him – he met a woman who stands up for herself, and who has learned to love without losing who she is and what she has become after surviving many different heartaches. You see, when you overcome a heartbreak, it’s like you survived a massive war, and you are now a warrior. You deserve to respect yourself for overcoming difficulties and admire yourself for coming out with a great attitude despite the odds.
    and when this baby comes out, i would like it to be proud of its mom as i want to be a good example to my child.

  47. Kandii.

    On March 19, 2010 at 9:42 pm


    Im 16 && Me And My Ex Broke Up On September 26, 2009 It Was Almost A 1 Year Relatonship…… 8 Monthss…. Its Almost Been 6 Months Since The Break Up && Yet I Still Have Not Recovered From The Pain…I See Him Everydayy At School…..Hes Everywhere….Hes Always Looking At Me I Dont Know Why If Hes The One That Broke Up With Me…..I Dont Know If Its Teenage Love,,,,Fake Love,,,I Just Cry Sometimes I “Love” Him And I Dont Know What To Do Anymoree=/…Help?

  48. kecious kisangian

    On April 1, 2010 at 3:34 pm


    i have been dating this guy who i love so much for 8 months now,we are in a long distance relationship.he just told me that he has a new friend and she is a girl and she is telling him that me and him will not last,what sould i do should i leave the guy or hold on to him because i love him?

  49. Iz

    On April 2, 2010 at 3:39 pm


    This is great. And absolutely true, I am currently going through a break-up and as I read this, I realized that I have already gone through the first three steps.

  50. ?

    On June 20, 2010 at 8:13 am


    stay single. never love. save yourself the heartach.

  51. noel

    On September 6, 2010 at 9:04 pm


    broken hearted ako pero ginawa kong pagsubok ito na dapat malampasan kaya siguro madali akong nakarecover and with the help of friends..nasaktan ako dahil pinaasa inapakan ang pakalalaki ko.pero nagpapasalamat parin ako sa kanya dahil maraming akong natutunan.

  52. Tan tan

    On October 10, 2010 at 8:45 am


    I’ve dated a guy for 8 yrs. Since he was older and set in his ways I slowly made my life his. We have the same friends which were his from the start. We got married a year ago and all that passion we had started to fade. We argued every day since we were not use to living with one another. We will always be attracted to each other but he decided to make changes in his life for the better and it starts with leaving me and he chose not to seek help. He moved out a week ago and I’ve been miserable ever since. How do you forget someone you had envisioned dreams with and started a future. How do you forget and let go. Every surrounding/ songs/ friends/ my dogs remind me of him. My dogs now wait for him to come home by the door and i hate that he never will. He broke my heart but he still wants to be friends. He has started the divorce procedures and I’m just scared of a future without him. My life revolved around his and I can’t stop this pain I have. I cry myself to sleep everyday. Ive been distracting myself during the day but at night I sleep in the same bed and miss him by my side. How can I let him go since I still love him so much.

  53. Tan tan

    On October 10, 2010 at 8:48 am


    I\’ve dated a guy for 8 yrs. Since he was older and set in his ways I slowly made my life his. We have the same friends which were his from the start. We got married a year ago and all that passion we had started to fade. We argued every day since we were not use to living with one another. We will always be attracted to each other but he decided to make changes in his life for the better and it starts with leaving me and he chose not to seek help. He moved out a week ago and I\’ve been miserable ever since. How do you forget someone you had envisioned dreams with and started a future. How do you forget and let go. Every surrounding/ songs/ friends/ my dogs remind me of him. My dogs now wait for him to come home by the door and i hate that he never will. He broke my heart but he still wants to be friends. He has started the divorce procedures and I\’m just scared of a future without him. My life revolved around his and I can\’t stop this pain I have. I cry myself to sleep everyday. Ive been distracting myself during the day but at night I sleep in the same bed and miss him by my side. How can I let him go since I still love him so much.

  54. Tan tan

    On October 10, 2010 at 8:52 am


    I\\\’ve dated a guy for 8 yrs. Since he was older and set in his ways I slowly made my life his. We have the same friends which were his from the start. We got married a year ago and all that passion we had started to fade. We argued every day since we were not use to living with one another. We will always be attracted to each other but he decided to make changes in his life for the better and it starts with leaving me and he chose not to seek help. He moved out a week ago and I\\\’ve been miserable ever since. How do you forget someone you had envisioned dreams with and started a future. How do you forget and let go. Every surrounding/ songs/ friends/ my dogs remind me of him. My dogs now wait for him to come home by the door and i hate that he never will. He broke my heart but he still wants to be friends. He has started the divorce procedures and I\\\’m just scared of a future without him. My life revolved around his and I can\\\’t stop this pain I have. I cry myself to sleep everyday. Ive been distracting myself during the day but at night I sleep in the same bed and miss him by my side. How can I let him go since I still love him so much.

  55. Tan tan

    On October 10, 2010 at 9:02 am


    I\\\\\\\’ve dated a guy for 8 yrs. Since he was older and set in his ways I slowly made my life his. We have the same friends which were his from the start. We got married a year ago and all that passion we had started to fade. We argued every day since we were not use to living with one another. We will always be attracted to each other but he decided to make changes in his life for the better and it starts with leaving me and he chose not to seek help. He moved out a week ago and I\\\\\\\’ve been miserable ever since. How do you forget someone you had envisioned dreams with and started a future. How do you forget and let go. Every surrounding/ songs/ friends/ my dogs remind me of him. My dogs now wait for him to come home by the door and i hate that he never will. He broke my heart but he still wants to be friends. He has started the divorce procedures and I\\\\\\\’m just scared of a future without him. My life revolved around his and I can\\\\\\\’t stop this pain I have. I cry myself to sleep everyday. Ive been distracting myself during the day but at night I sleep in the same bed and miss him by my side. How can I let him go since I still love him so much.

  56. Kaitina

    On October 17, 2010 at 10:21 am


    I’m in love with a man that isn’t quite ready for commitment. We’ve been together for 3 years and I’ve always treated him like a king. He’s been taking care of me and my two boys for a year now while I went to school, since I lost my job. I know it’s been a lot of pressure on him. He’s cheated on me twice and I thought I forgave him, but I find myself throwing it up in his face at times when we argue. I’ve never cheated on him even when we were just dating. He’s a sweet guy when he want to be but recently he moved out and I been so depressed and stressed out. I’ve been having a lot axiety attacks. I’m so hurt, I can’t even see straight. He thinks we need space from each other, he moved about a mile away but I’m so confused he’s the one who cheated how come I can’t hate him after all we have been through he can’t focus on his career because Im distracting him etc.. I feel so alone my kids don’t understand he has been there for them since we have been together. There fathers don’t do nothing for them. I know it hurts them too. I need to get my life together but how?

  57. wyleanimal

    On October 19, 2010 at 3:09 pm


    hi, i’ve been with the a girl jesika for 2 years, she was a rebound i met 2 weeks after i got out of a 5 year relationship. well 3 months into our relationship i told her i couldn’t force myself to love her, but we stayed togather. about 6 months in i did fall in love but my ex stayed in the picture cause she worked with me. well that caused nonstop fights and breakups. we musta broke up atleast 10 times in 2 years. eventually we moved in togather, we had a decent relationship, went out to eat, had our places in town personal to us, but my family hated her and her friends despised me cuz she cryed alot and so did i.eventually the fighting got so bad i started kicking her out of the house once a week.. and regretted it every time until 1 day she moved and never came back. we got back togather and broke up a few more times cuz i always begged her back but now she says she hurts too much and has to make herself happy, by dating another person. 2 days before she hooked up with the new person she was sending me sexy pics and leading me on. now she walked away won’t talk to me or text me, and i’m left completely shattered, crying uncontrollably, haven’t eaten in 4 days, can’t work, not going to taekwondo classes, and my friends just tell me to let go. my big question is…HOW THE HELL DO U LET GO!!!!

  58. Dharly

    On November 26, 2010 at 1:50 am


    Like all of y0u,I had a very very bad experience,with my ex it’s hurt me a l0t,after 6 yrs. He dumped me,i’ll alm0st kill myself h0w can I survive…=( I l0ve him so much…

  59. christine

    On November 29, 2010 at 4:40 am


    after being with my boyfriend for 22 years and finally we get married and now that we are married he tells me he does want to be with me anymore. he got himself in trouble 36 days after we got married and has nine months in jail. he has asked me to bring him narcotics in jail and i have refused . as soon i did this it seemed as though all he contiued to talk of was an annulment or divorce. i am still so in love with Him, i guess he has finally chosen his habit over me. i am so heart broken and all I do every day is cry and i also cry at work.he also will not call me or let me see him. i am hurting so much and i just do not know what to do.

  60. Rachel Kline

    On December 28, 2010 at 7:11 am


    I was with my ex boyfriend for two years and I lived with him for seven months and right before I moved in with him he called me and told me he didnt know if he wanted to be with me anymore but he didnt want to let me go so I moved on and we seemed very happy I love him with everything I have I gave him the world and I still do it has been three weeks since I moved back home but it ha been the hardest thing I have ever had to deen with my heart feels like someone is sticking a thousand knive into it and it never stops I cry in my sleep but when I left we both agreed we would stay friends and we have we talk almost every day on the computer and on the fone but he is always telling me he misses me and that he is always thinking about me when he has told me that he doesnt love me anymore over and over again I really dont know what to do I have given up everything to be with this man and he knew that I did yet he still threw me away like yesterdays garrbage and didnt think twice about it and the whole kicker is he ws very mean to me everyday he was very emotionally abusive and I love him even still because that was Just apart of who he was and he always felt bad for hurting me I still love him with all of my heart how do I hand this he was my first boyfriend and now I never want anyone ese I am afraid I will day alone with no one to love me but I woll not be able to ever love anyone like I love him help me please any advice would be apriciated Thank you
    *no heart left*

  61. edmegan

    On February 10, 2011 at 8:02 pm


    i just got my heart broken today by this really cute boy i liked he said he did not want to go out with me but yesterday he said he liked me so i asked him out andd he said maybe but today he said no. i want to cry so bad. my heart hurts really and i do not kno how to handle it.

  62. D Jones

    On May 16, 2011 at 10:36 am


    I’m crying A LOT.

    Never knew there was something so powerful as this!
    I don’t know if this is heaven or hell – living or dying… having a broken heart feels like realising your mortality.

    This is a lovely piece is helping me. Thanks a million x
    D Jones xxxxx

  63. D Jones

    On May 16, 2011 at 10:37 am


    I’m crying A LOT.

    Never knew there was something so powerful as this!
    I don\’t know if this is heaven or hell – living or dying… having a broken heart feels like realising your mortality.

    This is a lovely piece is helping me. Thanks a million x
    D Jones xxxxx

  64. Ann

    On August 2, 2011 at 8:22 am


    Thank you so much for the advice and i beleive it has already worked on me
    Ann

  65. Gtella

    On February 14, 2012 at 1:47 pm


    I Dont how to cope and need all the advice i could get i have a 1 year old son and his father has been cheating on me since the day he was born i asked him to leave but he wont after this i caught him cheating on me 9 times now and he still wont go what do i do??? desperate please help me!!!!

  66. Amanda Sanchez

    On August 23, 2012 at 8:51 am


    I have been in bondage ever since my ex left me for another woman, It was really hell for me and everybody told me to forget about him but i could not because i love him so much, Things get worse until my friend Stephine introduced me to this real spell caster Dr. Oldest and i contacted him through his email oldreligoin@gmail.com i explain everything to him and he cast a spell for me immediately after three days, everything turn around and Nick came to me on his knee beg for forgiveness that i am the one and only woman in his life now. I was surprise i have never seen such a miracle in my life. I am so thankful to this man and i will forever publish his name on the internet in case anyone needs any help. Amanda Sanchez

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