For You, My Brokenhearted Friend

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No matter where you are in terms of your life, each day brings opportunity. There is a strong, universal, pull to let go of what hurts. There is hope. And part of that hope is doing something positive for yourself, or eliminating something that isn’t good for you. EMBRACE THAT. 

Sometime life hurts like hell. It FEELS like the end of the world when a relationship ends, even if the relationship is bad for you. 

It IS the end of the world where you make something that doesn’t quite feel right, FEEL right by beating your sense of self into a “time out”. Shutting off feelings that have potential to grow too big for the limits of a relationship, so that you can continue without feeling stifled. Telling yourself a lie if it suits you and believing that lie, even build your life around that lie. Buying into a fantasy. Telling yourself that your loneliness is only a symptom of how deeply you love, and a temporary state of being.  

You have moments, and sometimes more than moments, where you believe that ANY relationship would be better than THIS pain. And, sometimes you go back for more pain, because being without it feels like being dead. Or you hold your ground and stay away from what feels bad long enough to see that it wasn’t working in any way. You do the very best that you can. Life is a process, not an event….a journey.

When a relationship ends, acceptance comes slowly sometimes. Over is STILL over no matter how you choose to live that. There is no right way to be done. Watering a dead plant or not doesn’t change that it’s dead. There is only YOUR right way to pick up the pieces and to move on.

Your life will be whatever you make it. There is no magic in life without you believing first in your own magic. As soon as you realize how much YOU control YOUR life, you’ll feel a sense of optimism, a sense of hope. Hope for you to feel every feeling that you have and to embrace who you are without one moment of caring about what another thinks of that. Loving yourself completely eliminates the need for that caring.

What YOU think about you is what matters most of all. It matters more than ANY love you will ever have for another person. It matters because it is your foundation. It is where everything that you offer to this world comes from. It is your seed. FEED THAT SEED.

There is so much to love about you. Give that your focus. You have neglected your own beauty for too long. Waited for someone to tell you that you are, not able to KNOW that without those words. It’s time to rebuild a bit. To see your patterns and to hold your hand up and say  “No, I’m not doing this to myself anymore.”

It doesn’t matter what’s going on in MY house, HIS house, HER house, THEIR house….YOUR HOUSE is your home. THAT is what matters. Fill your home, your life, with people who make sense to you internally. People that love you as you are and are FREE to love you as you want to be loved.

Find a few things that you’ve never done before. DO THEM. Give yourself honestly to the people in your life but never give yourself away. Never give YOU away. YOU matter most of all. YOU are all you truly have.

See the beauty in the pain. It’s there if you believe it is. Be kind to yourself before you extend your kindness to others. Love yourself and grow in THAT love. Make yourself a priority BEFORE you hold up a sign to tell the world that you are.

Be ok with where you are RIGHT NOW. It’s all you really have. And, remember that laughter really IS the best medicine. Find the laughter.

Here’s to your beautiful white canvas, and your color pallet with a million colors. May you begin to paint your masterpiece, one small brush stroke at a time.

There are NO mistakes….this is YOUR canvas, YOUR LIFE.