Forgiveness is Hard

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I have not been writing lately, nor have I been communicating with many people. I needed some time to be alone with my thoughts.

I use to think that I was a very forgiving person, but I have learned that I hold a grudge. So I asked myself at what point do I forgive a person? What actions against me can be completely forgiven? Now I am posing these same questions to you.

If a boyfriend/girlfriend cheats on you with someone that you know are you able to forgive them. Will your feelings for one of them over power the other making it easier to forgive them? The sense of betrayal and mistrust overwhelms you for the time being but soon the pain passes. Forgiving the action is easy but is it that easy to forgive the person? I have found that to grow you need to feel pain. To find the one that is right for you, you need to go through all the wrong ones. It is important to forgive the person along with the actions in order to be happy not only with yourself but with the person that you are with next. It is not fair if we are take that mistrust into new relationships and friendships.

If you help someone out by giving them a place to stay, feeding their kids, and helping them get a job, only to have them steal from you some of your most treasured belongings. I have had this experience. The first time I tried to help these people they just screwed me over, and the second. I said I was washing my hands to them and then they showed up in the middle of the night and wanted to sleep in my yard with their kids in the car. I once again let them into my home and helped them. My mistake. They stole all my family jewelry and pawned it. I called the police had them arrested and yes I got my things back. Not the point I know, but I have made the choice that they can not be forgiven. I can not forgive someone that is so ungrateful for help when everyone else turned them away only to have them steal from me.