Four Keys to Building a Rock Solid Marriage
by Economic crunch, altered morality, unrealistic expectations and easy divorce are some of the enemies firing against the marriage institution today. So how can the institution survive all these fiery attacks? And how can couples ever secure a lasting and happy marriage? Let us look at four things that can be done to protect it from these blazing attacks and help couples build a rock solid marriage.
Economic crunch, altered morality, unrealistic expectations, and easy divorce are some of the enemies firing against the marriage institution today. So how can the institution survive all of these fiery attacks? And how can couples ever secure a lasting and happy marriage? Let us look at four things that can be done to combat these fiery attacks and help couples build a rock solid marriage.
(1). Build up real love for one another:
“Well we are in love and have been loving each other from the day we met, three months ago”; said one couple standing before the marriage altar in readiness to exchange their vows.
But have you not seen the effects of this type of love? –The love-at-first-sight? It causes people to rush into a marriage prematurely, before they get to know each other, expecting the marriage to have a magical cure for all ills and to solve all of their problems. But what happens when these expectations are not met? It collapses. Then they wonder what happened to all this instantaneous attraction that was so strong when they first met. But you know the answer. It was not real love. Well then, what was it?
Many experts on marriage relationships think that this strong attraction has to do with the chemistry of the sex hormones between male and female. But the love at first sight it produces is very deceptive. It can disguise itself as real love; rendering those involved blind to the bigger picture. They are so preoccupied with the passionate flames that they ignore the realities, or the more important things, like asking themselves these questions: “Is this person suitable marriage material”? “Does he / she possesses the qualities that I’m looking for in a partner?”
Granted, romantic love is something special, wonderful and pleasurable, and it can give your marriage a good foundation. But couples! It must not be the single factor on which you choose your partner.
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Post CommentMythili Kannan
On February 24, 2009 at 4:49 am
Wow, Fantastic read Monica
Christine Ramsay
On February 24, 2009 at 8:06 am
Fantastic advice but not always easy to follow. Good work.
Christine
Dee Gold
On February 24, 2009 at 8:08 am
good tips
papaleng
On February 24, 2009 at 8:21 am
great tips Monica,
Lisa Clayton Williams
On February 24, 2009 at 9:49 am
Wonderful advice!
Mervin
On February 24, 2009 at 12:25 pm
I love the advice.
Lee Altman
On February 24, 2009 at 1:03 pm
I’ve been married going on 20 years and honesty and respect has always worked for us. Yes we argue , but never go to bed made. I don’t care if I will be a little tired at work the next day. My marriage is the reason i go to work and do all the things I do. Great article.
Mark Borg
On February 24, 2009 at 1:34 pm
Nice article.. I will keep the advice in my head, so I will be prepared when I get married
thanks
monica55
On February 24, 2009 at 1:44 pm
Thanks for your great comments and strong support. I especially like Lee’s comment that his marriage gives him something to live. But i’m really thrilled to get the feedback from all of you. Thanks again and have a blessed day.
Monica
Abdul Sabour Ayoubi
On February 24, 2009 at 3:32 pm
A nice article Monica. It has good advice.
Bo Russo
On February 24, 2009 at 4:14 pm
Monica,how easily we can forget the simple things.I’m older now and have seen my kid go through some of this.I could have used this advice about 20 years ago, but it all still applies today.I too fell victim to the love at first site facade,love at first sight,four years later,divorced at 24 with a 3 yr.old child.
C LEBLANC
On February 24, 2009 at 8:01 pm
love this. it really taught me alot.
Delia Morrison
On February 24, 2009 at 8:02 pm
good advice… I agree.
excellent article :]
Anne McNew
On February 24, 2009 at 11:50 pm
such a very nice article Monica. It must be read by all couples.
kris miyasako
On February 25, 2009 at 1:09 am
Excellent article. For a couple to keep the marriage last should have it strongly based on solid grounds with God as the center of their lives, like a love triangle with the main characters; God, hunsband and wife , and the children.I really love your piece.
gianne
On February 25, 2009 at 5:27 am
Fantastic article! I haven’t been here for the last few weeks. Glad I got to read this!
Amsky
On February 25, 2009 at 6:38 am
That’s true! Respect and love your partner and communication is very important.
LOVELYHONEY
On February 25, 2009 at 5:02 pm
if u go and study in INDIA ,SLUM DOG COUNTRY THEY SAY, the subject of divorce is yet not known so much.
in societys where promiscuity is the order of the day
and women and men are self independent ,
economically
divorce and mg
have no significance /.goood write up congrats
lh
CHAN LEE PENG
On February 25, 2009 at 7:35 pm
Great tips and wonderful story!Thanks!
egypt33
On February 26, 2009 at 3:02 am
Excellent tips, you have included the main points of a happy marriage!
Aldrin A Wilding West
On February 26, 2009 at 5:40 am
A good article and perfect timing. There are just so many stresses in the world today that sometimes we do not focus on the home as much as we should.
Ruby Hawk
On February 26, 2009 at 6:57 pm
Marriage takes work from both parties, patience and a whole lot of luck.
Debra.
On February 26, 2009 at 10:55 pm
People often tend to lose all common sense when that first love hits.
I have been happily married for almost 19 years and it is work but good work if you enjoy each other and make the effort with much respect for one another!
I love all your points made! Very good write an God bless.
Sakuragi
On February 26, 2009 at 11:24 pm
A must read for married or soon-to-be-married couples! Excellent!
egypt33
On February 27, 2009 at 6:57 am
Excellent article, you mentioned the most important factors!
OhSugar
On March 1, 2009 at 6:47 pm
This beautiful, and hopeful for all who are married and hope to be in a loving marriage long-term. Like your picture, also.
Yovita Siswati
On March 3, 2009 at 8:58 pm
I really love reading this! I love the part when you said that we should not take our partner for granted. So true! Thanks Monica for the excellent article.
Mr Ghaz
On March 4, 2009 at 4:53 am
Bravo! That was cool. Interesting piece. Must read. I really enyoyed reading your work. Gracias Monice
kns1992
On March 8, 2009 at 4:16 am
Very true! Thank you =]
QueenZee
On March 18, 2009 at 4:24 pm
Keep up the good work. this is great advice, and although it seems like these tips should come as second nature, sometimes we forget how to treat one another. this makes me reevaluate some of my own actions lately, and stop to appreciate the things that really matter!
Uma Shankari
On March 26, 2009 at 11:36 am
Rock solid advice. Monica, you rock!!
iris986
On October 22, 2009 at 3:16 pm
awesome read
CHAN LEE PENG
On January 25, 2010 at 4:33 am
I agree: communication, patience, love, understanding and aring are fundamental requirements to secure a healthy marriage.
CHAN LEE PENG
On June 30, 2010 at 11:56 pm
Useful tips to strengthen a healthy relationship among the couples.