Four Keys to Building a Rock Solid Marriage

 (3) Communicate with each Other:

  It has often been said that communication is the life-blood of a relationship. But communication does not mean to talk at each other, nor to shake a finger at each other saying; “What did you do that for?; I told you not to do that”. Good Communication means that you must stop your talking sometimes and listen to what the other person is saying. This way you get to know how your partner feels and then you are in a good position to make any adjustments that are needed before things get out of control. The ability to communicate well in the marriage can save you a lot of frustrations. Husbands who are willing to communicate will not have to feel stressed out because their wives nag too much; when all that is needed on their part may be to communicate their feelings through an heartfelt expression of the three little words “ I love you”; or to “say it with flowers”.

A bouquet of flowers speak louder than many-a-words sometimes :communicate! It is vital to any relationship.

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Wives who are willing to communicate will not have to harbor grudges/ resentment if their husbands do this; on coming home from work he turns the television on, sits down on the sofa and watches it until his wife says, “dinner is ready dear”.  Instead of becoming upset, she can take the initiative to strike-up a conversation about her day at home or work; his day at work; or any topic that would be of interest to both of you. So communicate: communicate: communicate.

(4). Restrict sexual interest to your partner.

The reason for this is obvious, but it is still worth mentioning. Couples! The special love, sex, and ecstasy that you enjoy together are not to be shared with anyone else. The giver of these gifts wants you to enjoy them in a monogamous marriage. So do not seek sexual gratification outside of your marriage. Doing so can ruin your marriage, resulting in unwanted pregnancy, and leave you open to the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases. (STD) Remember that there is a real killer out there: AIDS: It has taken more lives than the last war, cancer, heart disease, and diabetes. So couples! Safeguard yourself and your partner from this enemy.

 ”But what if I have a very high sex drive”? Asked some men. “Couldn’t I have just one person on the side, as long as I don’t allow my wife to find out about it”?

Absolutely not.  Husbands! You must exercise the quality of self-control, understanding that periodically, your wives may not be able to render part of their marital obligations. And you’ll have to wait a few days for it, but you are not going to expire; are you?

Not at all: So do not run off looking for temporary gratification elsewhere. This will not make things better; and selfishness and lack of self-control can only damage your marriage relationship.

However couples!  For your marriage to work, you must live up to its obligations. Do you deliberately deprive each other of sex?; wives saying, “I have an headache dear”, and husbands saying, “I am very drained tonight, darling, but I’ll give you a raincheck for it tomorrow”. If you do this, you are opening the door for the enemy to fire the “temptation shot” at your partner.

Your aim is to keep the door closed leaving no room for the other person to have a wandering mind, nor a wandering body. Look for ways to enjoy the sexual intimacy within the confines of your own marriage; but do not overdo it either, for this is not the only thing. It is, only one of the keys to building a rock solid marriage and should be kept in its proper place. But working on, and using all of the keys correctly can help your marriage survive both the internal and external fires that are blazing against it.