Four Signs You’re Ready for Romance

You’re open to feedback about yourself

We all have “blind spots”-stuff about ourselves we’re not aware of. If you’re not aware that you can be too sensitive, you might think your boyfriend is too critical when in fact, he’s just teasing you. Another example: If you know you tend to get moody sometimes, you’ll avoid taking this out on your boyfriend and give your self some space. Being aware of your blind spots then, can minimize friction in a relationship.
You can discover these blind spots by listening to what your good friends say about you. If you’re open to feedback, you might say, “Ah, I’m like that.” You would then know what personal issues you might be bringing into a relationship. Then you’ll be able to sincerely tell your boyfriend, “it’s not you; it’s me.”

You already have several guy friends

Having guy friends first is level one in the game of relationships. Why move on to level two right away? It’s a good idea to learn the ropes first, to learn the language of the opposite sex before getting romantic with one of them. The more comfortable you are around guys, the more comfortable you’ll eventually be with a boyfriend. If you can see guys as just friends, you won’t always be worrying about how you look when you’re with them. Likewise, you’ll also learn to be a little less self-conscious around a suitor or potential boyfriend. You’ll be able to ride with guy conversation topics-from sports to cars to green jokes. Having guy buds will also help you appreciate them for their inner qualities and not just their looks. Your boyfriend will seem like a friend you happen to be in love with-now that’s comfortable.

You have an idea of what you like in a guy

Imagine if the first guy you got to know well became your boyfriend, then your husband. You would never really gotten the chance to meet other guys and see which ones truly suit you. I know married women who didn’t look beyond the first suitor. They may never know what they want in a man because they didn’t get to go out with different guys. Of course, this doesn’t mean that girls who marry their first high school sweetheart are doomed to suffer a bad marriage. But dating and meeting different guys is simply the less risky route to take.

You have your own life

Feeling neglected because your boyfriend’s playing basketball with his buds? It’s a sign of neediness if you cling to a guy too much or too soon. If you can’t imagine yourself without a boyfriend, that means you don’t have your own life. If you don’t know what to do on a Saturday afternoon without him, then you don’t have your own life. This could suffocate the two of you. If you’re together all the time, you’d be breathing each other’s carbon dioxide! You need some space to do your own thing.