Friends and Friendship-divorce

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A cannonball strikes right through your chest leaving a gaping hole. It’s so big you can see the other side though it. All of a sudden you notice your heart is gone. You ask yourself where you went wrong and begin to analyze why a broken friendship hurts as much as a collapsed love affair.

When we end a relationship based on sex or love we go through a lengthy grieving process, but have we ever stopped to analyze what methods we take when we end a friendship? Quite often we don’t. We merely brush it off and pretend to “cope” with it or have little religious sayings like “it was bound to happen.” Ironically, when it comes to friends, we go through a similar grieving process as when we lose a lover or life partner.

We go through the five stage program of shock, emotional release, anger, guilt, depression, and withdrawal, afterwards reaching a stage of resolution and readjustment.

In some cases these stages can go so quickly, a time span so brief that we do not realize it happened. As a result, these issues can return again in longer stages that can last years if not dealt with immediately.

So why do we act in such a way? Is it because we are subconsciously sexually attracted to our friends? No. We are attracted to our friends from a universal standpoint because they serve as companions as an opposite sex partner would to its mate. They show us the comfort we seek and when that comfort is taken away it is like ceasing a form of “mating”. I say mating because when we have a higher understanding with another human being it is like mating of the soul. Both souls start to mirror one another and their aura colors. This is what happens to a person’s aura when they are engaged in a pleasing conversation with someone or having wonderful sex. The Auras intertwine and connect to make something beautiful i.e. a child from having sex or an idea being composed from a conversation, hence soul mating. Therefore, when a friend decides to break off this connection, one can’t help but feel the loss as they would a lover.