Friends and Lovers

For a long time I never understood the fine line that many people drew between friendships and relationships. They always believe that the two complete and separate things. But why the name boyfriend/girlfriend ? The word friend at the end of the word has already made a certain definition. A friend can be defined as somebody emotionally close, somebody who trusts and is fond of another or somebody that you know well and enjoy spending time with. If a boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t fall under this category I don’t know who does.

Sometimes you notice a strong friendship between a guy and a girl.To you everyone that knows them, it is obvious that they have feelings for each other. When you tell either one of them that they might should take their relationship to the next level, the response usually is “we are too close”, I’ve told him her too much, it will spoil our friendship. Does anyone see where I’m going with this.

You say you can’t date a friend because they know too much about you. Exactly who then do want to date!, Someone that doesn’t know jack about “you! The irony of it is that when one actually decides to date someone else that wasn”t previously a friend they complain, “he doesn’t understand me”, “we don’t seem connect”, now whose fault is that?

I don’t know about the ladies but guys are usually advised by their friends not too get too close with a chick they are interested in, because she would take you as a friend and you would be stuck in the friendship zone forever. As defined earlier what exactly is a boyfriend or girlfriend if they aren’t someone that knows you well and you enjoy spending time with.

I have always been of the belief and practice that if I really like a girl, I’d prefer to have a close friendship which would develop into a dating relationship by by the time we both realise those feelings.

My point is , do you get intimate with a person before you actually get to know them as a person? Who else would be able to get along with than a friend. Once again , don’t get this twisted, I’m not saying you should only date people that are already your friends, but why not develop a friendship before opening your heart to them, and then later on start whining and sobbing about how the bastard or b***h used,abused, then threw you away like an orange peel.