Friends Dating

So you and a close friend have been together a while and no other person knows you like they do and vise verse. You two are compatible in every sense of the word and you both like each others company. Or so you think, but what if?

If you have begun to have feelings for your close or best friend, and you are not sure if he/she feels the same, but every waking moment lately has been filled with thoughts of them, so what should you do? Is it wrong to have these feelings for a friend? What if they don’t feel the same way? What if they do? How would you find out? What happens to your friendship? All these plus a lot of other questions have popped in to you head and you feel like your losing your mind and are probably afraid to say anything to anyone including that close friend.

One thing, relax. It is ok to have these feelings it is not a sin. Although some may tell you that it may not be a good idea, but they maybe say that for their own selfish reasons the decision is yours. First thing find the courage to talk to this friend and find out if his/her feelings are the same. Be direct, honesty and self confidence works don’t be afraid. If they do not feel the same, well although it might hurt but it is ok. It doesn’t matter at least you took the chance. So let’s say they do feel the same and were afraid to say anything, as well. The next thing to do is get used to being romantic with this person but don’t push the sex issue until both of you are ready. Get used to being a couple, hold hands, get used to kissing don’t just think of self gratification be patient. A strong relationship works best if you are still willing to work on the friendship as well as the romantic relationship.

If either one of you feel a little uncomfortable about things, have patients and communicate with each other don’t let things fester and later regret the move to take your friendship to the next level. The length of time being uncomfortable would depend on the length of time you two have known each other and if you have no concerns of their habits or traditions. Again talk to each other it is not as hard as we make it to be. Act normal with each other as you did when you were friends, you both have accepted each other for who you are that is what made you friends, you don’t have to change. Remember that all successful relationships have started as friendships.

So now that the transition is completed and you both feel that it was the best decision you have made. “Now what?” you think, remember the relationship needs to be worked on at all times, meet each others needs emotionally as well as physically. Make it successful.