From the Heart

What exactly is the meaning of “from the heart”? There is “giving” and there is “giving from the heart”, there is “helping” and there is “helping from the heart”. Sometimes we tell ourselves, after all this giving and helping so much, how come I’m still stuck in this bind? “After all I have done to him, why did this happen to me?” Have you ever asked yourself those questions? Plenty of times I suppose.

So what’s the difference when they said “from the heart”?

From the heart simply means unconditional & unconditional simply means one thing. It means not expecting anything in return. Giving for the pure sake of giving, helping for the pure pleasure of helping and loving for the pure happiness of loving.

There are actually many types of helping (giving):

1. Helping (giving) with strings attached (with agenda)
2. Helping (giving) because we can’t say “NO” (or we don’t know how to)
3. Helping (giving) to alleviate guilt and loneliness
4. Helping (giving) from the heart

With Strings Attached

The word “help” is not even appropriate here. It should be rephrased instead as investment. We give (or help if we would like to call it) in hope of getting back a bigger future returns. This is usually done in the business world where we normally sweeten the pot in exchange for future business opportunities. Most of the time we offer this not because “we want to”, but more on “we need to” in order to stay in the thick of the competition.. The off shoot here is when the giver (helper) realized that they have nothing more to gain from this particular person, then the giving (helping) stops altogether.

Can’t Say “No”

A lot of times, these people give (help) with a heavy heart. They are the ones who are forced to do it in fear of what others will think, feel & say about them. How miserable indeed for them! These are the types who felt they owed everybody an obligation & by refusing they will be considered an unworthy friend (relative) & will be cast off in the social circle he belongs in. They are basically “trying to please everybody” except themselves (and always end up hating every single situation of it). These types of people tend to be swarmed by human-parasites & users.