Getting the One You Love Back: Part 3

Its easier to build a cake from scratch, rather than repair one you dropped on the floor. Its possible to repair, but it will never be the same perfect creation. So what do you do?

If something was worth the effort that is initially put into it, then its reasonable to say its worth starting over. When love is involved its the same. We are all just people. We all have feelings, worries, doubts and anger. Very few people are liberated from these emotions. So where do you start rebuilding your “cake”? From the beginning.

Remember what first attracted you to this person, try to connect with those old feelings and emotions. Take the time to let them know how much you care and love them. Its not about buying gifts and false promises, but real emotional bonds. When the person you love comes home, let them know how much you missed them, how much you care, if that is truly how you feel, let them know. A simple touch, kiss or caress can make someones day. Let the person know you care, and that they are always on your mind.

Compliments go a long way. Have you noticed your partner dressing differently, a new haircut, or new jewelry. Let the person know you notice these things. If you notice the small things,  then your paying attention. If your paying attention, you care!

Take a step back in time and remember some of the places you visited in the past. A favorite movie theater, a restaurant or a park. Step back in time and refresh these old memories. Your partner will appreciate how you remember these places, and the thoughts will fill their mind of old times. Talk about the first time you went there, and how you kissed under this certain tree. Tell them you remember how beautiful their eyes gleamed with the sun bouncing off the strands of green and blue. Be creative, but sincere!

With every step forward, and every old memory fresh in the mind. You and your partner are on the way to recovery. Nothing heals overnight. It takes time. However, if you can stick to the formula, the wounds will heal. It takes time, love, compassion and understanding. Just remember the old saying “the pen is mightier than the sword”. Words can build, and words can destroy.

If your relationship doesn’t have compassion and understanding. You really should ask yourself if its the right path to walk. Yet, if you possess love, compassion and understanding, all things are possible. Take time healing your partner with kind words, gentle touches, and sincere kisses.