Giving Space in a Relationship

Now let’s get down to space.  You know yourself and you know your significant other, and how they behave, what they need, want, etc.  Things are getting a little hair recently, that or you just want to go out on your own with friends or something.  This is okay and you should not feel guilty.  If you’re with someone who does not want to leave your side,and you know they’re not seeing their friends or family much, push for them to be on their own here and there. 

It’s important that the other person knows why you want or need space.  If you’re fighting, it’s because you need to clear your minds; this means the both of you.  The worst thing you can do in a relationship when fighting and arguing, is to say things in the heat of the moment.  You don’t want to yell or say things you don’t mean.  Having what you want to say planned out is a great idea.  It gives you time to realize your own mistakes, and think of ways to better yourself for the relationship.

If you want space and are not fighting with the other person, you need to make them realize you are not upset with them.  Space is crucial so that we don’t lose ourselves in the other person.  If you’re on the other end of this and your significant other is asking for space, don’t take it as a bad thing.  Some time for yourself is never a bad thing.  A day or so away from the other person allows you to even bring new things back to the relationship.  For example, maybe you go out with some friends and are introduced to a new restaurant.  This is something you can later share with the person you’re seeing.

Space is necessary so that we don’t let relationships consume our whole lives.  The key to anything is balance.  If you never have space from the one you’re with, how you will ever miss them?  Space can give a relationship some breathing room, and keep it refreshed and ongoing.  Many relationships end because each person believes that this is their new life; no friends, going out alone; etc.  This should not be the case at all.  A relationship doesn’t mean you’re taking on a person as if they are now your shadow.