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Growing Up with Violence

A reflection of what I have learned.

Violence is a cycle that has grown over time, and effects more people each year. There is more violence happening in the world but this will focus on violence in the home. I think it is obvious that a child who grows up where violence is present is more likely to be violent themselves but what other effects can it have? Being violent is a choice since we are all responsible for our own thoughts and actions. But what kinds of effects are not our choice?

The human psyche is a unique thing that is still being understood to this day, trust me nobody has all the answers and maybe they never will. A psychologist is not any smarter than you or I, they just went to school and learned the ideas that have been set forth by decades of studies. This can help them understand what typically occurs in the human mind, but I believe it is fast becoming clear that no two cases are alike.

Jeannie, Married Mother and Grandmother from Oregon, felt that growing up with violence led her to believe it was normal, a very common factor, and women typical find themselves in relationships where the abuse continues, as in Jeannie’s case. This cycle will generally continue until something drastic occurs. Violence breeds violence but it also numbs us, we become unaware of whats goiing on. It can become difficult to form and maintain good relationships, children who grow up through violence often have trust issues, and remain guarded throughout life even if unaware of it.

Those who deal with violent childhoods often dont realize there is anything wrong. It can take long periods of time to realize not all people are out to hurt them. Children are often not afforded this luxury,  by the time they see how the worlds really works the damage is done. Children often blame themsleves for abuse, they get a sense that it is their fault, and they deserve it. This is particularly difficult for females who dont lash out at that idea as often as males do. The damage is more emotional, and a young girl does not need extra emotional stress through development.

Through relationship and emotional issues, victims of violence can pull through life. Some of us find help once we realize things are wrong, while others find drastic means to pull out of it. It doesnt make us violent, it doesnt make us weak. We all choose the person we are. Though our past can affect who we are it cannot control who we are. People and actions do not make us mad or violent, each thought and action is a choice we all make.

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    On November 12, 2008 at 11:18 am

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  2. Brandt

    On November 12, 2008 at 2:46 pm

    I think this might be on of your most interesting articles thus far. Well, for me at least. I liked it alot. How do you research for articles such as this one? I’m just curious. I felt this was pretty informative on the subject.

  3. Patrick Bernauw

    On November 20, 2008 at 9:51 am

    Thinking “aloud” and sharing your thoughts on a site like Triond, it’s one of the many things that make me love the web… Good article!

  4. Bren Parks

    On January 10, 2009 at 1:42 am

    I was really lucky. My parents are the greatest. I feel for those who weren’t so lucky……….

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