Guys: Have a Perfect First Date

Fancy a girl and want to take her out? Are you nervous? Unsure of what to do? In the words of old Franklin D., you have “nothing to fear but fear itself!” Get it into your head that you’re doing her a favor, because you are! Follow these tips and you’ll both have a great time.

The Purpose of the First Date

The first date is your chance to take a relationship test drive. There is no obligation to buy into it. So don’t fret! Don’t expect a big make-out session at the end of it, definitely do not expect sex, and DO expect to pay for dinner, and I promise you you’ll have a fun time. If this is a girl you barely know, the first date is simply an hour or two together to learn about each other. If this is a girl you’ve known for a while, it’s an opportunity to see how it feels to be exclusive.

Asking her Out

Ask her to meet you on a specific night at a specific place, like this: “Hey ____, would you like to have dinner with me at Café Amore on Tuesday?” Girls don’t want a wishy-washy guy, and by being definite you demonstrate initiative and confidence. She’ll say “yes,” or “I’m busy that night, how about Wednesday,” or “I’m busy, how about never!” Now, you’ve either got a date, or you know that she’s not the one!

Getting Ready

Be your clean, presentable self. This means: wear a good, pressed shirt, shave, and don’t coat yourself in cologne. Think of going to a job interview: you want to demonstrate to the girl that this dinner is meaningful to you, so you are trying to look good. Don’t look to serious though, remember that you’re out to have fun.

Picking Her Up

Maybe you’re picking her up at her place, or maybe you’re meeting at the restaurant. Picking her up is gentlemanly, but could result in some awkward pre-date car time. Meeting her at the restaurant keeps you on neutral territory while you are still just getting to know each other. Either way, the single easiest and best thing you can do when you first see her is give her a compliment! It can be as small as “I like your shoes,” or as grand as “your smile makes me feel like a millionaire.” Probably err on the small side for this first one. The compliment puts her at ease, which will put you at ease. It will make her feel special and happy to be in your presence. It’s a no-brainer.