Guys: Have a Perfect First Date

Dinner

Try hard to get her to do 75% of the talking. This means: ask her questions, and listen to the answers. Most people like to talk about themselves, and you will make her feel important and interesting if you are curious about her life. Also, it will keep her curious about you, because after it’s all over, she’ll start thinking of all the things she forgot to ask you, and she’ll want to see you again.

Order something to share. Get an appetizer that you both enjoy, or have something like pizza for your main course. Sharing your meal is an easy way to get close to each other quickly and comfortably.

Pay for dinner! Expect to pay for the whole thing, and don’t even think about letting her pick up the tab. Understand this going in and pick your restaurant budget accordingly. You don’t have to spend the rest of your relationship paying for everything, but it is essential that you pay for that first dinner.

After Dinner

This part is tough. You may have hit it off; you may have had a nice time but haven’t found any true sparks; or you may realize you have nothing in common and you can’t wait to be rid of each other. The safest bet is to take her home and drop her off. If you like each other, you’ll plan on doing something together again soon. It’s important not to blow your stack on that first date; you want to keep some tension and interest in this brand new relationship.

To kiss or Not to Kiss

Ah, the grand finale. You are probably very nervous about this good-night kiss thing. Remember: She is too! The best thing you can do is to take the lead with authority. Try this: at her door, say, “I had fun tonight.” She’ll hopefully say, “me too.” Now, hold her shoulders and kiss her on the cheek. And don’t be bashful, and don’t expect anything more at this point. If you two are meant to be, then there will be plenty of making out to do later. For this first date though you want to keep her curious about you. A kiss on the cheek is gentlemanly, shows restraint and composure, and will probably leave her wishing for more. What a perfect way to leave things!