He Won’t Propose
by So if he’s just not that into you, would he ever propose? It seems that in Pina’s life, she was sad, not only would her boyfriend of three years not propose, but she may have wasted her time on someone who simply did not make the ultimate commitment to her.
We recently had a forum post under the Marriage and Relationship section of the Family Friendly Fun Forum from Pina aka dancing_gal asking if anyone could help her understand why her boyfriend of three years would not propose. The events that unfolded in her life were profound and led her to a situation that she never could have imagined.
A few of her friends recommended a relationship book which seemed to fit the circumstances of Pina’s life to a tee. It is called “He’s Just not that into you” by Greg Brehrendt & Liz Tuccilo and aims to bring women back into reality by summing up some of the behaviours of men as being aloof and therefore uninterested. She decided to give it a read, although skeptical, and see whether it did indeed apply to her own relationship. She could not put the book down, almost every example that was listed, seemed to apply to her own experiences men. She couldn’t help but ask herself “Was each of my relationship one sided, surely some of the men I have been with were interested?” The more she read, the more convinced she was, after three years, 2 months and 19 days, he really mustn’t be “that into her.”
A week after finishing the book, she found herself at her parent’s house, feeling utterly devastated. She felt like such a fool, how could she have been strung along for so many years? She was feeling a bit like she had better suck it up and move on, but this was not going to be easy, after all, its impossible to forget the love of your life. She imagined the next few years to be tear filled evenings listening to Meat-loaf’s Two Outta Three ain’t Bad and All by Myself.
Three days after she had left her house, life and love, Pina was utterly convinced, he hasn’t called, he simply is just not that into me and never was. That night, there was a strange knocking sound at the window, it sounded like little rocks were being thrown, Pina was annoyed, so she looked out the window. On the pavement below the two storey house where her parents lived, stood James, the one who didn’t care, who was never going to propose. She just stared at him in disbelief and he said in a choked up voice; ” I am a mess, I can’t live like this, without you. I know why you left and I really do want to marry you. Please Pina, lets talk.”
Her heart melted, none of this was in the book? Of course she would give him a chance to explain. They walked and talked for hours, James had explained that he had always wanted to marry Pina, for 16 months, he had been trying to work out best way to propose, nothing that came to mind was good enough for his beloved, so it just hadn’t happened. Under the starlit sky on a warm February evening, James with tears in his eyes, messy hair and husky voice got down on his knees in the middle of a residential street and said; “Pina, please spend the rest of your life with me, I really, really want to marry you.” She lunged into his arms and said “I thought you’d never ask” So this begs the question, is he really that into you? Maybe some things just aren’t that simple. You can add your reviews of the book here.
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