Healing a Broken Heart

by Cactus Cat in Relationships, January 19, 2009

There’s nothing quite as crushing as a broken heart. You’ve been dealt a heavy emotional blow and just like a physical wound, your broken heart is going to require a little time to heal. There’s no quick-fix solution to make you instantly feel on top of the world again but there are some things you can do to speed up your recovery. So, follow these tips and you’ll be on the way up before you know it.

Cry your eyes out

That’s right, open the floodgates and let those tears stream down your face. Don’t feel in the slightest bit embarrassed. You’ve been hurt and it feels bad so grab a bit of private time and let it all out. If those tears need a bit of coaxing, try watching a sad movie, listening to some songs that pull at the heart strings, or find a sympathetic ear to pour your heart out to. Whatever you need to do to get those tears flowing, do it. Bottling it all up won’t do you any good. Go on, ball your eyes out. You’ll feel better for it afterwards.

Time heals

Now that you’ve had a good cry it’s time to get yourself on the road to recovery. So, how long are you going to be feeling like this? Unfortunately there’s no short answer to this. How long this will take will depend on a number of things: How serious the relationship was, how deeply you’d fallen for this person, and your level of sensitivity are just a few of the factors involved here. In short, there’s no time frame but if you take onboard our tips, you’ll be able to deal with the situation in a positive way that won’t prolong the pain you’re experiencing. The one thing you need to realise is that you will get over this so hang in there and be positive.

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One minute you’re up, the next you’re down. You love them, you hate them. You’re sad, you’re angry. You’ve been dealt a heavy emotional blow and you’re going to be experiencing a range of intense feelings. While you were in the relationship you probably experienced some very strong, positive emotions. Now you have to deal with the flip side to those feelings. It’s not going to be easy but you need to allow yourself to feel them. Trying to subdue them may make things worse in the long run. You may find it helpful to write down how you’re feeling. Maybe try writing a bogus letter to your ex (please note, this should never, ever be sent to them). It’s purely to help you understand how you’re feeling and to help you work these emotions out of your system. Once you’ve done this, you can start to get your life back on track.