Helpful Hints for Singles

What actually is happening out there?  That is the question I have for the poor woman and men out there in the singles world. I have a couple of friends out there that are single and I hear the stories that they are living and things are a mess.  I have a few women that are single and a few men that are single and of course they all know each other so I cant set them up. So,  here is the situation the women want men that are good to them and there children and the men want women that are hot and have no kids.  Well, that doesn’t seem to be real expectation for the guys that are in there late 30’s to 40’s.  I’ve seen the women that these men go out with and they are high maintenance and out there.  They are not to the point that the guys want, deep down and of course they are young when they are without kids.  The women want men that have there act together and can care about there kids.  I have seen a lot of women wanting to change so many of these men and its never turned out right.  A few of the stories ended up in stalkers, abusers and cheaters.  Where do singles go to meet each other that is safe, church.  A lot of people do not go to church. 

I have suggested to the women to go to the ski lodges and the restaurant-bars that are in the areas that the professionals go to eat and relax.  It should be just as easy to meet a man that has his act together as it is to find one that doesn’t.  I met my husband at a bar when us girls were out but his friends knew my friends.  Yes, he had baggage also but it has to be overlooked sometimes or you’ll never find the right man.  Men need to listen to women when they are talking and really hear them.  Men need to see what they are getting into just as well.  Is she so into herself that she wont be into you.  Sometimes that is what men are not doing because they are just looking at the outside package.  When I hear that women are all a joke I think its because its the type of women they are looking at.  The man that keeps to that same pattern will never be happy.  The women that keep trying to fix everyone will never be happy.  Change is good for both.