How Can One Mend a Broken Heart?

How can one mend a broken heart?

“How can you mend a broken heart?” That’s one of my favourite songs by the Bee Gees. I just looked at the lyrics to see if they had any insight on the matter. They seem to imply that it’s very difficult and that someone else, perhaps another love can do it.

Now I will share my wisdom from my own experiences. Let’s see now, how many times has my heart been broken? Let me count the women (culprits). 1) B… 2) M… 3) S… 4) A… 5) M…

Yikes, I’m surprised my heart is still in one piece!

What can help to mend a broken heart? These are things that have helped me survive the many times my heart has been broken. Perhaps they can help you if you find yourself in that situation.

1)      Prayer to the True God and the solid relationship I have with Him. Asking for strength and support at this painful time.

2)      Relying on friends and strangers that will listen to us and be there for us as we pour our out the pain or death-dealing poison that has been injected into our heart.

3)       Forgiving the offender, even if we do not want to see them ever again. I found that by not having hatred in my heart has helped heal it because hatred is another poison.

4)      Cry all the tears that we have, even seeing romantic movies to help the tears flow (I think crying is very therapeutic and necessary).

5)      Thinking positive thoughts like: there are other fish in the sea, someday I’ll find someone who will truly appreciate me, now I have more time to do this or that, ect.

6)      Keeping busy in useful activities and doing things for the less fortunate (helps to see that we are not the only ones hurting, that we are not unique as far as pain is concerned). We may need some time to ourselves but it should be limited, as isolating ourselves for too long might just fill our mind with a lot of negative thoughts and our heart with a lot of negative emotions. Re-living the pain over and over again is not healing.

7)      Don’t jump into another relationship too quickly, mourn the lost one, and take the time you need to get over it. Though I did find that focusing on someone else without getting into a relationship was helpful.  This new person was the focus of my thoughts but I did nothing about it and I did not even tell them about it. After some time I found that was good that I did things that way as they were not really my kind of woman anyways. So I avoided problems.

8)      I did find that by focusing on the negative aspects of my former relationship helpful in moving on.

This is what helped me. Some of these things may be helpful to you as you try to mend a broken heart. I wish you well!