How Dare You Replace Pinocchio with a Real Boy?

The narcissist thinks you are having sexual intercourse without emotional investment, which in his mind makes you less of an ideal partner for him since you do not have the vestiality to wait for his majesty to reconnect with you on his own terms. You will not be sacred in his eyes because you have desecrated your self by sleeping with an under being. The very thought of you with another man, turns the narcissist’s inside into a volcanic eruption.

If you maintain contact with him, he will find the most degrading and derogatory terms to describe your relationship.He will devaluate and downplay your spouse. If that bombardment does not work, the narcissist will try to bamboozle you into ending the relationship by marring your perception of the union by hinting that your man is exploitative and is not emotionally connected with you.  He will attempt to make you feel bad about your new love life by coloring your relationship as a façade in which you are being used by another man.  He will paint an image of your spouse which is worst than his disposition. He will stab you at the heart of the misgivings and vulnerabilities that you suffered due to walking on his terrain. He will make you want to run from the man that you are with today!

He will reduce your man to nothing. The narcissist will highlight the cracks in your relationship and the possible undesirable outcomes.  Some narcissist ex will blatantly tell you to leave your spouse because they are not good enough for you. One told an ex girlfriend that she is being used and that her new boyfriend will treat her worst than her old mate did. He simply said she should prepare for the next stage of hurting.  My friend became extremely insecure and unhappy with her new spouse because of listening to the ranting of the narcissist.  Her new partner was an understanding man and he realized that something was wrong and sought out my advice. I told him that the narcissist was smudging her views of relationships by hinting that you are just like him and even worst. She is afraid of getting hurt again therefore she needs you to reinforce her confidence in the relationship.  You cannot let someone who is no longer in her life, destroy what you have. She is vulnerable and she needs your guidance or this man will destroy everything that you both have worked hard to build.  It is unfair for the new partner to be building a relationship on a shaky ground but if he really loves her. He will try and help her through this stormy phase of her life.

              Emotionally and Mentally healthy exes will be supportive of you moving on and wished you well in your relationship. The narcissist does not want you to move on. He is nefarious and wishes that you endure the eternal pain and self flagellation that he subjects himself to.  He does not want you to be happy but to be eternally tied to him and his relational disease.  Do not believe what he says about your spouse. If you look closely at his claims about your spouse’s personage, you would realize that he is describing his very character. Look at the mirror effecting he uses when he contends the morality, decency and ethics of your spouse. You will realize in retrospect that what he says about your new partner is exactly how he is.