How Hollow Does Not Have a Relationship, Possessive, Sick?

Several years ago I had a relationship with a girl that really you. My problem then was that I knew not to care about someone. Years of youth, of selfishness, freedom from oppression to her.

We understand well, I was holding one another very much.I could look in her eyes for hours without getting tired, I could kiss her for hours without getting tired of her lips.Sitting with her for hours without getting bored. I was blinded by love and at the same time I think hold the key to perfect relationship.

Either that belief is itself evidence that fundamentally wrong somewhere. Because relationships can not be perfect. Why? Because we do not take into account a variable: in a relationship requires two people, the more you how you can control, you can control your emotions, etc. – but you’ll never be able to control the person next to you (and say that you a successful relationship).

Finally, there are some stories that you want to share them. At one point we went to a meeting with some friends in a cafe. There I went to the toilet .. and when I returned I noticed that one of my friends already had his hand on her leg. She laughed, he laughed .. I was dying inside. And then I realized something was wrong, that should not feel it. But I told them I feel all the way .. and so I blamed them. Theoretically it was the beginning of the end.

We were both young and both, although we have fun together, sometimes we walk on our feet. So it caught my weakness about that friend of mine .. and insisted on exactly when to try to control it … perfect resume during our relationship, our love of the story. Sometimes he did it intentionally, sometimes not ..dregrada is clear is that relationship as time went on. May said a text message you received from that person, in bringing it in discussions elsewhere .. And I boil and did not understand the feeling you had in those moments.

We were children ..

Later, much later .. We argued at a time. And I was in the club .. when this friend of mine. And stories of women in our lives. He’s dream girl, I from mine .. but both of our frustrations on them.

And in a moment of dizziness from alcohol .. I made a pact. We swapped phone, I gave him my phone alleys, he’s your girl. And face to face at a time, I called them. He already knew of me and I knew my weakness on two of them. My girl friend does not know me, but then I had plenty of flair as a woman on the phone to bewitch and make curious about me.

I called me first .. I said whose friends are and I saw her at a party and probably does not remember me.Reason to be wary. But I raised the discussion, I whipped up in such a plight that he accepted an appointment for the day. I succeed, it was his turn.

He called her on my face, my perfect relationship. We were really arguing, she was with her friends somewhere outside Bucharest. … And my daughter has accepted an instant meeting with him every other day telling me that the relationship no longer exists. And in that time I’ve died inside. All my beliefs went down the drain.

The pain you feel when a loved one .. kill you in the back is similar, metaphorically speaking, a dead child with the feeling that you feel in the womb. I have not been any good a long time later. I had blind trust in it beyond our little misunderstanding. And she betrayed me. I visualize how wrong, in my opinion, this friend of mine. And returning my stomach, I felt like someone hit me upside the head with the sledge. And I did not know where is genetic flaw, why did this happen.

At home, I sent a message sunasem chick myself, I said that to me a friend is more important than her, you do not know .. and that it is pointless to get together. I phoned my friend .. who told me, essentially the same things. I made a mistake, as even he will not meet with her friendship with a woman is beyond me.

The next day, surprised, walked through the park with two of my friends. I was in my water, still, I sat thinking about what happened the night before. I was like a mummy ambulance. At one point I felt like one of my friends I raise the shoulder. I look .. and I see them. Traitorous friend and the girl I loved, as his hand went to the park. I had no reaction, we have seen all, my friend instantly went away from us, this friend of mine and he was very reserved. And I was not able to even react. I let them go. And as time passed, I started to hear voices around him again and to feel an anger that had fired, absolutely.

I had been betrayed!

That was the beginning of the end. Maybe nothing happens between them, at least so I would say both, but from my mind any way related to them. Eventually I realized that they would be engaged if I was in the middle .. and I feel like I am their obstacle. In fact I was .. do not drag them, but their catalyst, for both, for various reasons, wanted to take revenge on me, I dominate. After I broke it, there was nothing between them because I was not in the middle.

But I will not ever forget those feelings that we felt in those moments of our pact that night, all the negative emotions that I experienced. Which is why I started to try to understand the mechanism behind the relationship, beyond belief because I know the absolute truth, as I thought before.

And the findings have not ceased to appear, sooner or later:

1) In a relationship it takes two, not just one. You must not think that you are the ingredient for which that relationship going, because you have someone beside you. And you can not control your partner’s desires in mind, you can not control her actions. NO one can control it. When it happens to a control, the relationship is ill and will end badly, sooner or later.

2) The relations do not take forever. It would be nice to keep, but life should be seen as relations seasons. Each season ends and gives way to another. If you think living in a timeless story of love, get hurt at some point. So that would be that person next to you do not agree.

If the person next to you wants to go even though you do not want .. only solution, unique, is to let it go.Any other decision you make out of this will destroy them both.

3) To be happy in a relationship, you must be happy separately outside. Any defect that you have in your personality, all the frustrations we have, all the ugliness soul .. an impact on the relationship. If you are broken at the base, it will be the relationship with your beloved. If you are not happy alone, when you go to the office or when you drink coffee on the seashore, meditating on who you are and what you want out of life, if you’re not at the professional or turned their passions, be sure not to not be happy with it. Which is why it is urgent to give you the chance to evolve separately, although you’re in a relationship. It is vital to follow your dreams you have from childhood, instead immerse yourself in the relationship.

A matter of life and death for YOU to be someone outside the relationship, THAT PEOPLE DO NOT RECOGNISE YOU THROUGH RELATIONSHIP WITH FEMALE NEAR YOU SO THAT YOU CAN A relatively balanced.

If you are not happy separately, are not happy in any relationship.

4) Keep your independence your dose! Let freedom partner and be ready to go. Any constraint, any deprivation of individual liberty that you throw on your partner will, sooner or later, to his own imprisonment. Any tax on a partner is imposing on ourselves. Any injury (mental or physical) on the partner, is an injury to his person. Any exaggeration, any sense of possessiveness, jealousy, any desire for constraint .. just makes you tighten too much and you can not breathe, or to reject entrants to wake up out of that relationship.

Feeling, besides that of love, should be that of altruism from the partner company. You must feel the need to offer a whole world, not close it in a box and hold it only yours. You must be proud of her presence, the moment of profound attraction exerted on males, her smile, of her mind on who she is. In the first second you feel the need to stop something from all this, you have an insecurity that will make you suffer sometime in two ways – either one will compel others not to smile, not to be so loose in society, etc., or you wake up years later with a 173 kg cow beside you and you will not tell which are the causes for the woman you loved yesterday show bestial .. today looks like a sow.

Put it to have nights out with the girls and let your time to drink a beer or play pool with friends, without either side of you. Put her out in a karaoke club and get drunk and you in a gang. Separate!

5) I teach her to discover. Find and strengths and learn how to develop them. Read her deepest dreams and put it to work. Do not let her love for you is the ceiling or relationship with you. Make a relationship with you that after saying he had everything to gain.

6) Do not argue! A woman is like a baby, if you feel annoyed repeatedly, then leave, not stay with her. But there are far more plausible reason to pour your nerves than in a relationship with a woman. So when is the core argument, come back, go and drink a beer with friends and let her pay her nerves than anything else on you.

7) I teach her not to control you! DO NOT call her and ask her where is nonstop, do not let them do the same with you. Do not read messages, the same claim from it. Does it time that you need and without it, not only with her .. and tell her that she must do the same.

Ask her to take care of her. A woman must be attractive and beautiful. At the first sign that they do not care, charge it. Besides you do not want to have a hippo, a creature you want to be able to empathize with others. Want a woman near you!

9) Take care and stay attractive. Keep dose of charm and flirtation that to be able to throw around whenever a woman attractive. I will well and you and your relationship. You will feel valued and able to back you “market” anytime, so you will not have cause for uncertainty.

10) Observe the woman. After any relationship, it should not be “bitch who left you.” You have to stay at your best friend, because you divide both in your relationship. And if you finished, because it had ended, not because any of you is guilty. Life always goes on, but go ‘Grease’ when not wearing eternal enemies and you smile a woman you once loved without feeling a lump in your throat. Learn to love people without any expectations of them. Just enjoy what you have right now. You will save a lot of drama.

I wrote the article because I see too many relationships encysted, too many fights and too many misunderstandings between the two partners to its essence. Two partners who hurt each other and to stop each other in evolution, should not be partners. You should be alone and free like a bird heaven.For as in the relationship you have to feel the same. Free as a bird heaven.

You’re like in your relationship?
Free as a bird of heaven?
Or a small parrot in a golden cage, proud that she knows how to talk to my order?