When we, at last, form a relationship with a person that we adore we may find that we just want to share everything. This can stem from the sheer joy of finally feeling understood and happy.

For others, their experience may be that they are unsure as to whether they really should share all information about their past with their new lover.

Which ever response you find yourself having in this situation it is worth thinking carefully about how to best make the wisest of decisions about what you should keep quiet.

Whatever you have done in the past is part of your history. It has gone together , along with other factors, to form who you are today and has helped to form your core values and opinions.

At times, having knowledge of some of these experiences can help your lover to understand you and where you are coming from.

However, there may well be certain information which it wouldn’t do anyone any good to reveal. How many sexual partner you have had, for example, is your own business entirely. If there have been many then knowing this may make your lover feel jealous and anxious about how they appear in comparison.

Unless you really want to tell your lover this information you may be better off to deflect it, should it arise, by saying that there has never been any as important as them, if this is so. Or you may be able to honestly say that as you have matured you have become very picky and so have had very few lovers in the past few years.

There may be more information about other aspects of your past that you prefer to keep secret. It isnt a crime to do so as your thoughts and experiences belong to you and no-one else.

The only information that you may feel morally obliged to reveal may be that which affects your new relationship, or which does directly affect your present lover.