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How to Ask a Girl Out for a First Date

Asking a girl out on a date can be difficult for many guys. The chance of the girl saying ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to a larger extent depends on the way the guy approaches her or talks to her. If the girl is already in love with you or she was waiting for you to approach her may be getting a ‘yes’ may not need much persuasion. But if you are approaching a complete stranger asking for a date it needs a lot of confidence and the ability to face rejection.

Asking a girl out on a date can be difficult for many guys. The chance of the girl saying ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to a larger extent depends on the way the guy approaches her or talks to her. If the girl is already in love with you or she was waiting for you to approach her may be getting a ‘yes’ may not need much persuasion. But if you are approaching a complete stranger asking for a date it needs a lot of confidence and the ability to face rejection.

Many girls may agree that they like a straightforward approach when a man asks her for a first date. The best way to ask a girl out is in person. Women like Men who are well groomed and confident and who treats them with respect. Bad breathe and Sweating Odor are huge turn offs so make sure that you smell clean and fresh.  Engaging in a friendly and casual conversation and getting to know her a little first would be a good idea. Complimenting her could also help you score well with her. However telling her that she is sexy or talking about any part of her anatomy can scare off a girl if you are asking for a first date. Instead of that you can say things like ‘You are so pretty’ or ‘your eyes are so beautiful’ when approaching for a first date. If she is looking into your eyes or lips while you are talking they are positive signs that she is interested in you. If she is averting her eyes or looking uninterested then probably you should try to make her interested first before asking for the date otherwise you would have to face rejection. If you find some common interests or hobbies then getting her to go on a date with you might not be difficult. If you have set the date to meet her you should also get her contact information and follow up with her before the date to verify time and details such as if you will pick her up from home or meet her on the spot. Asking a girl out at the right time and right place can help to get a favorable reply from her.

Rejections are not easy to face. But if the girl says ‘no’ at the first instance instead of walking out of the door fast or acting shocked or offended stay back for a few more minutes and talk to her as if you never asked. You can thank her for her time and tell her that you had a nice time talking to her and hope that she would not say ‘yes’ next time. This helps to approach her again easily a second time or get her contact number from her. Do not take rejection personally and let that not discourage you. After all, there are more fishes in the sea.

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  1. abhishek40914

    On December 13, 2009 at 1:02 pm


    Would you like to go out with me. LOL :)

  2. cutedrishti8

    On December 13, 2009 at 1:16 pm


    Wonderful information..But not for me now :)

  3. Anamika S

    On December 13, 2009 at 1:18 pm


    When you ask someone out make sure that person is available which I am not. Moreover IM’s, SMS etc are worst ways to ask someone for a date. Anyways, Thanks for the comment.

  4. 8Shei8

    On December 13, 2009 at 3:17 pm


    Do you have an article on how to ask a guy on a date :) This is cute!

  5. CA Johnson

    On December 13, 2009 at 7:19 pm


    This is very good. Guys should find this useful when asking girls out on a date.

  6. LOVELYHONEY

    On December 13, 2009 at 10:30 pm


    this article has been published a bit too late in the evening of the lives of mature Triondites good any way gr8888888888

    My pet subjects are
    Love, Sex, Kiss
    As I claim to be a specialist
    I still do not know,
    What love is?
    Do you know?

    You may perhaps
    Read all my
    Kiss and love poems
    To make an anthology
    Then perhaps you can take
    Some more time
    To learn about
    Love and kisses
    Then you needn’t ask me
    As its been a long time
    Since any one read thee

  7. Sudheer Birodkar

    On December 14, 2009 at 12:52 am


    Useful article Anamika. I had my first crush when I was twelve but I dared not speak to the girl of my dreams then.

    Now it is late in life as I am happily married and a father of a teenaged son. Wish I had read this article then.

    Keep going

    - Sudheer

  8. seksijerk

    On December 14, 2009 at 3:37 am


    nice write up anamika…appropriate and very practical view.

  9. AlmaG

    On December 14, 2009 at 9:27 pm


    Haha! this is very cute :)

  10. B. Sting

    On December 17, 2009 at 3:28 pm


    should I mention that I have 25 yachts and a castle in the mountains

  11. aniket

    On December 21, 2009 at 1:56 pm


    what if i simply say that i own a mercedes?

  12. Starpisces

    On January 3, 2010 at 9:47 am


    interesting, how if a guy says to a girl “want to be steady?”, ha ha ha…
    nice post, Happy 2010 to you, Anamika.

  13. leon

    On July 1, 2010 at 2:16 pm


    well ……i do like a girl and her friends thinks that she likes me too but when i asked her that if she likes me se said that she likes me as friends but when i talk to her i can see that she realy likes me more than friends

  14. Anamika S

    On July 3, 2010 at 1:57 am


    Leon: Maybe she wants to be very sure before she admits her interest in you.

  15. Steve

    On September 2, 2010 at 8:21 pm


    Ok, I am not sure of my situation. I sit in front of this girl in my English class (hischool). She always glances at me, giggles at my jokes, and I’m about 50% sure she likes me. Does she? Moreover is there a way I can tell? Also what should I say to ask her out? Geez I’m confused…..

  16. Josh

    On October 30, 2010 at 9:12 pm


    so ok there’s this girl in my math class she’s new to my school this year and I like her I would really like to ask her out she sometimes gives me quick glanses and I give them back but when the bell rings we walk out into the hall and we talk but my friend comes over and starts talking to her and she seems interested in him but also in me so I really don know what to do plzzzz help.

  17. Cindy

    On November 3, 2010 at 3:56 pm


    You should probably try to be neer her more and shell start to notice you more.just wait a bit and she might start to like you if she already doesnt. Dont ask her out cause you want to increas you chanses more before ypu do after all you will probably only have 1 shot so be sure its a good one.

  18. Patrick

    On November 3, 2010 at 4:01 pm


    Theres this girl and im almost 100% sure she likes me and i like her and shes trying to figure out who i like. Since shes really determined to figure it out do you think she does like me back?
    Somone plzzzzzz reply soon

  19. matt

    On November 8, 2010 at 6:54 pm


    theres this girl i used to go out with and shes all i can think about plzzz some help

  20. dino

    On November 13, 2010 at 2:18 pm


    Theres this girl she’s my sister’s best friend we pretty much joke a lot and pays me attention too much. I like her very much but I’m not quite sure if she’s doing all this because of her friendship with my sister.

  21. pedro

    On November 18, 2010 at 5:11 pm


    i think a girl loves me first she wants sometime to be with her then she put me a lot of nicknames she calls me mexicorn and other ones then she wants me to go and live where she does but she have a bf idk if she rly loves him or me

  22. chemistry vs eharmony

    On June 27, 2011 at 2:21 am


    Many Guys get scared to ask for a date because of fear of Rejection. But one has to realize that you might lose out a wonderful partner just because you were scared and did not dare to express your feelings.

  23. Xavier

    On November 27, 2012 at 7:42 pm


    There’s this girl I swear I’m in love she’s in my ScienceANDBand classes I’m just 100% Sure she likes me but I can’t really ask her out because she’s ALWAYS around her friends help please..!

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