How to be a Better Wife When Married to a Police Officer
by Some harsh words for the wives out there.
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Since I consider myself an “expert” in the area of being married to a police officer, I feel the need to address the spouses. I have written about the temptations that our husbands face while on the job, but I haven’t talked about us, the wives, and the things that we do while our husbands are out their putting their lives on the line, day after day, or night after night, whatever the case may be.
I bring you this example. One police officer that I am aware of thought his wife was having an affair, so he began to drop by the house while he was on duty. Soon enough, his fears were realized and he caught his beloved in the sack with none other than his sergeant. His commanding officer, that dirty, rotten, sneaky, bastard, and his dirty, rotten, sneaky, wife, were having an affair. This is a double quandary, because it’s his CO, and his wife. Makes for a very “pleasant” work environment, doesn’t it?
The problem is, this happens more than we would like to believe. Oh, it doesn’t have to be another cop, but the wives, left at home, alone, night after night, get lonely, and feel like that is reason enough to go out and have an affair. Whatever happened to believing in the vows you took? Why the hell did you even marry the man, you slut? Yeah, I have a problem with cheating in general, but especially when it’s done by the spouses of police officers, fire fighters, or soldiers. People that are out there, putting their lives on line so you can go screw around any old time you feel like it. Aaaarrrrrrgggggghhhhh.
Have you ever heard of a B.O.B.? A battery operated boyfriend, for cripes sakes? Your husband is home at least twelve hours out of the twenty four. Make some changes if you can. If he works nights and sleeps days, then for Pete’s sake, while the kids are in school, go in there and sleep with him. At least lay in his arms for a while. Let the laundry sit, and do the darn dishes later. Your man is in there probably wanting to feel you in his arms as much as you are missing him. I really doubt he gives two hoots how the house looks.
You probably knew when you married him that he was a cop, so don’t give me the bitching and whining that you didn’t know it was going to be like this. If these guys know they have a loving, faithful spouse to come home to, don’t you think they are going to try like hell to spend as much time as they can with you when they are off, instead of hangin with the guys? Try not bitching so much when they do go hang out. Might make him want to come home a little sooner.
Yep, I’ve learned from all my many, many mistakes, and feel darn well that I can open my big mouth and pass this all on to you. Keep your darn legs shut except for your husband, and be the supportive, loving wife he married. These guys deserve at least that much.
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Post Commentken bultman
On September 18, 2009 at 5:54 am
Doesn’t have anything to do with being a cop. How dumb.
Jenny Heart
On September 18, 2009 at 7:29 am
Wives do need to understand cops. I also feel cops should understand their wives and inderstand their frustrations too.
Lee Ness
On September 18, 2009 at 10:19 am
I agree with this too and our military this applies
Hi
Very nice good writing
Lee Ness
QuinMonty86
On September 18, 2009 at 10:53 am
Um, Ken? Are you saying that I am dumb or that it’s dumb to think that it only happens to cops? I KNOW it doesn’t only happen with cops wives, but this article was addressed to them because I AM one of them and know too many of them that are cheating because their husbands hours give them the excuse. There should be no excuse for anyone who is married. But it seems that no one takes their vows seriously anymore. that’s the message I’m trying to get across. I’m just sick of it.
seashell66
On September 18, 2009 at 12:41 pm
I thought this was a very heartfelt article about being a person who under many stressful consequences is searching for ways to cope.
I admire your ability and courage in sharing with us. I also believe that vows are important and should be respected(and also the people on this board)
ken bultman
On September 18, 2009 at 1:18 pm
You are not dumb. The message is. Cops, Firemen. Dope peddlers. And their wives. They all cheat. It’s a matter of opportunity, period.!!!!!
QuinMonty86
On September 18, 2009 at 1:58 pm
My message was: stop using your husbands hours as an excuse to cheat. Too many people don’t take their vows seriously anymore. How that message it dumb is beyond me.
Anyone who cheats is an ass in my book, but I was addressing a certain group because I am a part of that group and very familiar with what some of them do.
QuinMonty86
On September 27, 2009 at 4:13 pm
“Baby Doll” Thank you for your love and understanding over the many years… I know my career has taking many of my time away you and our children, birthday, holidays and anniversaries.
A career in law enforcement is very demanding and it takes a special person to deal with the day to day interference and you have been my soul mate and my rock.
I know coming home to you at the end of the day throughout my 31 plus years on this job has kept me a life, It is you standing by my side and being faithful.
I love you as much as I did the first time I laid eyes on you, you are truly amazing.
Love you,
David
soldier
On October 2, 2009 at 11:47 pm
well I am a Soldier was over seas fighting and my wife had an Affair with a cop and he knew she was married to a Soldier. This affair went on for three years till I figured it out. Cops screw around, wives screw around, its not the job its the person that is screwed up. This cop was a piece of crap that waited until a deployment then he would slip in. So its not only the spouses that cheat its some of the Cops that cheat, its some of the Soldiers that cheat. Hell I think everyone is cheating now adays!!!!!!!!!!!
Princess
On March 7, 2011 at 12:25 am
I was married because I thought I should be married.
The pastor asked some screening questions and I sensed that I shouldn’t marry but I did.
There are over 65% of marriages in the US that are just plain crap shoots–even with kids involved.
If a “spouse” has sex with someone other than their “wife/husband’ the crap shoot continues. Why should people complain about what is essentially a gambling game? Just don’t hurt the individual YOU decedive.
Markos
On March 7, 2011 at 12:33 am
Sex is operative in adult lives because of hormones and the social messages we get. One book–the Book– states it is for procreation. All the others state that it is for recreation. Anyone who cheats or is worried about a cheater is immature and probably deserves the negative consequences.
SoonToBeEx
On March 16, 2011 at 8:52 pm
I’ve been married to a cop for 15 years. I work out all the time, eat right, and keep myself looking hot and I always dress sexy for him. I was a model before we got married and he wanted me to be a stay-at-home mom. I keep the house spotless, make him all his favorite meals and do everything a man wants. I knew most of the guys he works with are cheaters because he talked about them and I heard lots of stories of them getting caught. I have done everything I can to keep that from happening to me.
You can guess my heartbreak when I recently found out he is cheat too. He hides behind his uniform to mess around with 20 year olds. He is almost 50 years old but these girls will do anything to get a cop to make a phone call and get them out of a ticket. These women would have never been interested in him if they met him without the uniform. He’s not all that. Needless to say I am heartbroken and crushed after reading his emails and texts between him and at least 5 women he has been involved with in the past few months. I can only imagine how long this has gone on and with how many women.
There is NOTHING I could have done better or to make him any happier, so don’t sit here and blame the women for why cops are cheaters. I have never cheated on him and never would have. Now, oh hell yeah!! I found myself a totally hot cheating fireman!!!
Anonf
On June 23, 2011 at 12:12 am
This page is absolutely amazing. All over the internet is complete cop-bashing, sexism. No one seems to put a spotlight on how there are females in the force and that a spouse of a police officer can be just as scuzzy as any other civilian. People are people, regardless of their occupation. However, there should be a little more appreciation towards the authority that keeps us out of harm’s way and living safely with the freedom to make our own decisions.
Thank you for commending these brave individuals and throwing civilians under the bus, for a change.
I love my police officer sweetheart & he loves me just as much. In fact, he is the most sincere person I have ever met and I have never ever seen such integrity.