Forced Retirement

Not all player wanna-be will play a good game. Even if you know all the rules, implementing them can be challenging. Most players start at a young age, often high school or collage. As we aged, it is apparent that our prospective of life changes, this normally seclude our game’s shortcomings. It is not necessary that our game got weaker, females have changed or have caught on to your game, but more obvious, is that our status have changed. Remember, a player has to portray as the perfect boyfriend. Very little is expected of you while you are in school, except you get average grades and have cool friends. As we grow older, achievements and accomplishments must grow alongside, or better yet, exceed us. Success is measured with age, and if you fall short, you are no longer cool, instead you have downgraded to the looser line. Underachievement places a damper on your game. I call this, forced into retirement. There is no point in talking the talk if you cannot walk the walk. If this is your situation, you can stop reading now; chances for you becoming an effective player is slim. Once you are behind in personal growth, your confidence will be affected greatly.  Whether you believe it or not, females can zero-in on your imperfections like a mosquito sensing blood. At this point, not all the sweet-talking in Paris can save you. Frankly, you will play a weak game.

Profiling

If you are a confident individual, then you should have no problems approaching girls, but if you do, practice makes perfect. If you approaches, start conversations, but cannot closed, chances are, you are over performing. For both scenarios, start practicing female profiling. There is a lot you can tell from the way a female conduit herself. Body language tells a lot, females use body language as their second language. Learn just how to read them, and you will become an effective communicator. This section requires it own article- its coming.

Projecting your Confidence

People wear their emotion on their faces, if you are not confident a female can since this in a single glance. A simple exercise I can share with you in brief due to the limitation of the scope of this article, is soul searching. What is unique about you? What is so great about you, that this girl should call her mom and talk about you? What about you that is interesting and exciting? What you got that the average Joe does not have? This can be any thing, accomplishments, inheritance, talent, and skill, whatever. Repeated your uniqueness to your self, until you are convinced that you are above average, in fact, you are a rear catch and that this girl should be on her knees thanking God she met you. Use this to project your confidence, yet remain humble.

 Breaking the Ice

It takes a female 5 minutes or less to know if she is interested in you; yet, she will continue to feel you out, trying to uproot your weaknesses.

Keynote one: Females choose their mate differently from us men; while we focus on the physical, (which they are well aware of); they focus on integrity and for a better phrase, they look for a provider, whether it is financial, protection, comfort, or a combination. To know this is to know what women want. To this extend, if you do not pass her appearance approval, you will know instantly; when you pass the physical, then you move on to character test.

Keynote two: Females will entertain a conversation because she likes you or just out of politeness, it is important to know the difference.

Keynote three: Your first conversation is an interview. Females do not ask question just for small talk, only we guys do that. Each question is probing for weaknesses. They are like an investor, always looking for a reason to say no. Your reactions are very important and you should analyze each question before answering.

Keynote four: You are a sales representative and she has a none-soliciting sign on her forehead. Another depiction is that females have a defense wall that she will not take down until you convince her otherwise; this is normally achieved through good sense of humor. Engage her in smile and laughter. This always does the trick. Get her to chuckle uncontrollably, and the walls come crashing down.

 Take Control

  Avoid uncomfortable questions, correct timing is critical. Asking simple question such as her name at the wrong time or in the wrong tone of voice can lead to rejection.  Smiles or laughter is generalized indication of a stand down, and an extending invitation if she transient physical contact, consider it an open invitation, but that is it – do not over extrapolate. Her intention may be purely intimidation. The intimidator dictates the relation. It is important to established and maintain dominance from day one. Entertain  interesting conversation worth continuing before requesting  contact information, otherwise, the follow up may be prove awkward if materialized at all.

Surely, there are numerous articles on the establishment of new relationships. I sincerely hope readers have some formal experience in dating arena and are seeking advance guidance to up their game. Still, to play games require players, and therefore recruiting is vital.

Do not ask females to engage you.  This is not the player’s way. We are not cocky – we do not portray our self as God’s gift to women (although we are), instead we are prince charming, we proceed our pray with elegance, grace, and finesse.

Never attack you prospect by just appearing from nowhere like jack in the box. She might get historical and reform to total shutdown. It is important to established eye contact; her body language will give you the green or red light. 

Do not interview her. What is your name, where you are from? Invite her to interview you instead. Mostly follow through with reverse questions. A successful approach usually involves self-introduction. Introduce your self, start with your name, where you are from, and most importantly, why you are interesting in making friends with her, why her specifically.  Females love compliments, it is for this very same reasons why they spend half their lives in front of the mirror – to get notice.

Maintain full eye contact. Talk in a firm, but comforting voice (depict a romantic protector).

Established body contact through the gesture of a handshake, but do not shake- instead hold on with both hands while maintain eye contact. Females are most venerable during this cultural greeting. This is your portal into her heart- make use of it.  The very moment she extend her hands to you, hold on gently, lower your voice while getting her to engage eye contact, compliment her with a slight touch of  humor.

You can be sexual in your first meet, but keep it comical and do not over indulge. Reframe from being sleazy, orally and visually. Read her body language, get her to blush but never make her feel uncomfortable. This is a delicate dance between intelligent conversations, humor, and compliments.

Be bold and direct, this shows your confidence. Inform her of your intentions involving her.  What exactly you want from a relationship with her, and why? For example, let her know that you will find creative and impressive ways to get to her heart, which you will stop at nothing to have. Let her know you will not rest until you hear those three little words – I love you. Let her know she have brought new meaning to your life. Like everything else, it important not to over perform. Do not be cocky – never try to sell your self, she has practice all the reasons not to buy; but if you approach her as a buyer, she do not know how not to sell.  

Finally, females are very observant and aware of other females. She watches who checks you out, and whom you checks out. Never allow your eyes to stray. When you are with her, she is all that matters, the only one in the room. Always give her 110 percent attention.

Love Spell

Females replay everything that happens in her day before she goes to sleep, and when she gets some time to herself. It is important that you keep her puzzled, thinking and analyzing your every word and action. Be intriguing; make her cant stop thinking of you. Love is a collection of memories. The more you have her replaying conversations, unpredictable responses, your unique humor gestures, your compliments, all of which makes her feel wanted, the more you are imprinted your personality in her mind, the more those receptors in her brain rewire themselves to include you. This is the basic formula for love.  Soon she will be head over heal and cannot figure out how she got there so fast. You can speed the process up through memory manipulation. She will love you because she cannot stop thinking of you. Be creative, do thing with her that no one else has ever done. Create lots of first time memories, we always remember our first, which last for lifetime.

Now that you are equipped with the knowledge of the game, practice recruiting your players. Start with about three relations. As you advance, you can move up to five, then seven. You will need a tight game to juggle seven relationships at once, with each relation comfortably convinced that they are the only one. I will show you how. You are one article closer to begin playing. Let the fun begin- player.