How to Find Real Happiness in a Marriage, in a Relationship: There is One Place to Start
So, you are searching, searching for something to save your marriage, to save your relationship, to save you. That is the key: you. There is no relationship without you. Take the time to look at you first before you think that the problem might be with your mate. Do you love you? To the depths of your being? If not, perhaps you need to start there.
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It’s no wonder you fell across this article, however you might have found it, we all search for someone to love. We continue to search for happiness in every relationship, especially our romantic relationships. Really, it’s just human nature. And when we find that love it becomes a constant wonder. Those who have found the formula of balance between sharing one life with another have figured it out, right?
I can tell you, even those couples we envy, they too have things that they work out together. If they are telling you otherwise, they are only trying to come across that way to everyone else. In every relationship there has to be balance: a give and take of energies. Sometimes those relationships are off balance and become toxic. Sometimes we stay in relationships too long because it’s comfortable. Then why is it that it is easier to cut a platonic relationship when it becomes off balance than a long term intimate relationship? What becomes the difference between a friend who is always taking and your love that is always taking? The fact is, there is no difference. It just becomes a harder decision.
I’ve had to make those kinds of decisions a few times in my life. They sure are really difficult. The thing is though when you are in love and it’s a healthy love the balance is just there. You work at things because it’s entirely complex to share your life, your thoughts, your being with another person. It shouldn’t be hard though. If you are in a relationship where you feel drained, any kind of relationship, and the energy shift doesn’t change; it must be time to really reevaluate how important it may be to you.
It would be careless and stupid of me to say that no one ever needs help in a relationship. Even if your relationship is perfect there will come a time when you might need some help. Going it alone isn’t really going to help matters, the more you learn the better off you will be.
Happiness in a relationship is what we strive for, happiness in our personal lives is what we expect. It should be the same in a relationship, it is something you need to expect. If it isn’t then you have to work at it. Anyone who says you don’t is fooling themselves. People grow, people change, it’s the way life works. Every day you learn something new, if you are not growing than you are not living. It is this beautiful growth that makes being in a relationship so wonderful and challenging at times. You have to work together, that person is in your life to either make you work on being a better person, to accept you as you grow, and to make your world a better place to be in while you walk on this earth.
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