How to Find Real Happiness in a Marriage, in a Relationship: There is One Place to Start
So, you are searching, searching for something to save your marriage, to save your relationship, to save you. That is the key: you. There is no relationship without you. Take the time to look at you first before you think that the problem might be with your mate. Do you love you? To the depths of your being? If not, perhaps you need to start there.
If your days with your spouse become more bad than good; then try to figure out why, don’t give up right away. So many people are just giving up too quickly. Be real with yourself and your spouse. Be honest in how happy you really are with yourself. You have to remember that happiness starts with you and thinking that another person will create happiness in you, is just a recipe for sadness. Don’t ever give up right away, there is a reason you both fell in love. Sit down a revisit those reasons and share them with your mate. Focus on the good things they are doing in your life. Look at pictures of you both, what were those memories like, were they good, or do you have a succession of not so good ones?
The question you should ask yourself at the end of the day when you are lying in bed with just your own thoughts is: would my life be any better without this love in my world?
For me my love makes my world a better place to be in, just because he is there. For me he sees all the things in me that I have trouble seeing myself. My happiness is independent of his, but when they are combined all the colors in my life painting have become that more bright.
Yes, we fight. Yes, we have discussions. Yes, we don’t always agree. But that is because we are two different people, with two distinct lives. But that’s why it works. That’s why I have happiness in my relationship. Because I have my own world, he has his and we share a different world together. Your mate should love you for all that you are and for all that you are not.
Realistically, if you don’t feel the love you feel you deserve, you will never find happiness in your relationship. But maybe, just maybe, that love you don’t feel you are getting is because you really don’t love yourself.
Make sure before you make any decisions about your relationship that you are sure, 100% sure, that the reason you are searching for something else, isn’t just because you are having problems finding yourself. Make your own world and then you will be able to share it with another.
It’s not so difficult after you have learned to love yourself.
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