How to Get Over Your Ex
by If a person has an experience that is physically, mentally or emotionally traumatic, the mind is the situation in a number of different ways. Some people abuse alcohol, food, drugs or other substances to numb the feelings they have inside. Others mourn for a short period of time, restore their faith, balance and sanity, and somehow miraculously move on.
But the rest of us is usually those who are very analytical and logical, have trouble processing very worrying situation. Therefore, to repeat the painful situation over and over in our minds, searching for an answer. But the problem is that the answer can be found in the rational mind, because the problem is a plain emotional. Therefore, the solution has to come from the heart that needs to be healed and restored. Here is the step by step process I’ve adapted to the end obsessive thinking about an ex:
Step 1:
Do not take anything your ex ever said or did personally, because none of his ex never said or did was about you. Even if your ex really blame you for everything that went wrong in your relationship, realize your statement is only coming from what they are, that has absolutely nothing to do with the person you are.
Step 2:
However, his former personal take is a two sided coin. If during the heat of an argument to react and tell your ex how stupid they are, and how everything is your fault, then it has nothing to do with them. Your statements only reflect the type of person you are, a person who likes to blame and judge. This has nothing to do with his ex. So make a conscious effort to be the person who, regardless of how your ex is behaving. List all the qualities you admire in others, for example: kindness, confidence, compassion and respect. Chances are you already possess the qualities within yourself. Be very careful not to make statements that do not reflect who you are, even when you may be tempted to give into the pain and anger he feels.
Step 3
Release your judgments and opinions by becoming friends with death. As morbid as it sounds, they realize that in 100 years, you and your ex is probably dead, and nothing you ever fought over the desire to be remembered. If your ex has the obsessive need to be right and argue with you about everything, yield to their whims and say, “You’re absolutely right.” This will not only strengthen its relationship with death and will save an enormous amount of personal power, your ex will find it impossible to argue with you because you are giving the nonverbal message that really does not matter. As one of my favorite authors Wayne Dyer once said, “Have you noticed how difficult it is to argue with someone who is not obsessed with being right?”
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