How to Get Your Dates to Call You Back Every Time

Whether this has happened once, twice or a thousand times, it’s still horrible to deal with and each time you vow you won’t let yourself be put in this position again. But each time, like you’ve got ”mug” written on your forehead, you set yourself up to be let down. When is it ever going to end?

After all, there was nothing wrong with the night itself and you can’t understand why they aren’t knocking your door down for a repeat. The restaurant had just the right atmosphere, you had loads of eye contact, and there was a bit of a kiss at the end of the night. Maybe not a furnace-sized spark as such, but hey, these things develop with time.

It’s just so soul destroying when they don’t ever call back and leave you wondering what went wrong and why it keeps happening. Not that you were so totally into them that you couldn’t wait to see them again…you just thought they would get in touch.

It would be so refreshing if the signals your dates give out weren’t so hard to read and people could stop playing games, right? You might even be starting to think that they’re all the same, this conveyor belt of shallow people that seem so enthusiastic about meeting up, then fade away like they never existed in the first place. They’re all full of it!

There are steps you can take to stop this pattern continuing:

• Be more selective in who you date. Do avoid dating someone for the sake of it, when the attraction isn’t really there but you hope it will develop.
• If you meet and decide a little way into the date that they aren’t for you after all, then say so, rather than dragging things out. Take control of the situation rather than being passive.
• Look at your body language; maybe you are giving out ”not really in you” signals when actually you do want to give them a second chance? It’s easy for others to mistake your shyness or lack of confidence for lack of interest in them, so they won’t risk calling and being rejected by you
• Get the nerve up to give your date encouragement and let them know you’re interested in meeting again, because they might be as scared as you of getting it wrong