How to Handle Meeting or Stumbling Into Your Ex Lover

Yeah the relationship is over and you pray to god that you never ever see his hideous face again. Or you pray that you run into him later at the party and he realizes that you are still the hottest girl on the planet and you get back together. Or you hope that you walk out the street just in time to see him hit by a moving trailer! That one would definitely ease you pain!  Here are three easy tips on how to handle the situation if you ever stumble into your ex …unexpectedly!

If he dumped you…

It’s very difficult to see the man that you spent many a steamy days with ( sometimes one steamy night)  out and about partying and having a good time and behaving as if you don’t even exist or as if he has just been acquitted from prison!   You may be tempted to break down in tears, yell at him or grab a bat and bludgeon the heartless fiend to death.  But before you pounce on him, pull yourself together regain your composure and put on your stellar smile.  Do not bombard him, acting enraged and violent towards him will only confirm that he was right to get away from you when he did and as fast as he did. Do not for a second believe that when you cry, wail or call him all manner of evil that he will have some amount of guilt trip and take you back. In most cases you inadvertently push him a million miles further.   If you make eye contact its best to smile and look away… In case he says something… be cordial and concise then excuse yourself to do something far less heart aching.  Tell him that you are feeling superb and then leave him standing there. Be sure not to entertain him, do not stroke that oversized ego of his as humoring his conversations denotes that you are not over him.  Save the tirade for when you are with your girlfriends they will understand and sympathize with your lost.  Your ex might just think you are crazy. Additionally do not allow you girlfriends to get involved by making snide comments or overtures at your ex…it is immature and irrelevant.  I understand that your friends may feel the need to defend your honor but they will defend it far better by being nonchalant and stoic. Please do not give him all that attention…we do not want him to feel as if he is important or that he has done something worthy of our attention.